Indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuziphatha kakuhle?

Abantwana bethu basoloko befuna ukunyamekela nokunyamekela. Ungaze ufune ukugxeka umntwana ngenxa yokwenza into engalunganga. Zama ukumchazela ngokuzithoba. Ukuba umntwana ukuthobela, soloko umbulela ngokufudumala kwakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba abantwana baphathe kakubi nje ngokuba bafuna ukuba uyithobele. Zama nje ukungazihoxisi izinto zakhe, kwaye uya kuzincama xa ebona ukuba akukho bani owamkela. Umzekelo omhle ngomntwana wakho ngabazali bakhe. Abantwana bazama ukukopisha abantu ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye konke oku kuxhomekeke kuwe. Kumele umnike umzekelo ekhaya, kwaye kude. Ukuba uthetha umntwana ukuba into ayinakuyenza, soloko usichazela isizathu sokuba kungenakwenzeka kwaye indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle. Wonke umzali ufuna ukuba umntwana akhuliswe. Ukuze uhlale uyazi ukuba uthetha nini, indlela yokuthetha ngayo, ukuze ungaphazamise abazali ngexesha le ncoko, wayengumntwana ozolile kwaye onokulinganisela. Kodwa le mizamo enzima ayimfuneko. Hlalani isigulane esingaphezu kwesigxina kunye nonke onayo ngexesha liya kuvela.

Kukho imigaqo emininzi yokuba umntwana wakho kufuneka ukuba azi.

1. Ungalokothi uxoxe nabantu abadala baze bagqibe ingxoxo yabo.

2. Ukuba umntu akanakulungiswa ukuthetha okanye nje akafuni ukuthetha, akufuneki ukuba umntu amkhathaze.

3. Awukwazi ukumemeza kwiindawo zoluntu, phawula ngomunwe wakho.

4. Ngaphandle kwemvume, ungathathi nto into engekho kuwe. Kuphela ngemvume kunye nemvume.

5. Awukwazi ukuthatha izinto ezivela kubantu abangaziwa okanye izinto abanikela zona.

6. Uhlala ufuna ukwabelana nenani labantu onalo.

7. Awukwazi ukulungiselela amakhohlisi kubazali ukuba abazange bathenge into ethile kuwe, kufuneka nje ucele yona kwaye ngexesha xa benethuba, baya kukuthenga oko ucele.

8. Ukuba ubuzwa umbuzo, kufuneka uhlale uphendula.

9. Awukwazi ukuhamba ngeenxa zonke kwindlu.

10. Awukwazi ukuphosa izinto ezungeze indlu. Njalo kufuneka ikwazi ukubeka zonke izinto kwindawo zazo.

Ewe, kukho imigaqo emininzi kwaye kwintsapho nganye bayabo. Kwaye umzekelo obaluleke kakhulu, ukuba sifuna ukubona abantwana bethu behloniphekile kwaye balungile, singabantwana. Kufuneka, okokuqala, sibuyele kuthi. Sinokuziphatha njani ekhaya? Sinokuziphatha njani xa si tyelela? Umntwana kufuneka akhuliswe kumzekelo wethu.

Kwaye ukuba sifuna ukufezekisa kumntwana imigaqo yokuziphatha, okokuqala sifanele siphile ngale mithetho ngokwethu. Emva kwexesha, umntwana wakho uya kuqonda konke oku.

Hlalani nenyameko kubantu abakuzungezile kunye nabantu abasondele kuwe.