Kwaye ke ndifuna ukutshintsha into ... Kubaluleke kangakanani ubomi bethu? Uphendula njani kubo? Ixesha lokuqalisa nokuphi na ukuqala ubomi obutsha kumntu wanamhlanje? Kwimida yentwasahlobo - ixesha elihlaziyiweyo lokuvuselela unyaka - sihlanganisene iingcali kwiinguqu zobomi kwitafile zendabuko.
UBolat Okudzhava uthe wonke umntu ufuna into eyenzekayo, kwaye wonke umntu uyaxhalaba ukuba kuya kwenzeka into. Yintoni esiyimfuneko yokutshintsha, yintoni esiyidingayo? Utshintsho luyintetho yokuphila komntu opheleleyo. Ngoko ke, umntu ozinelisayo, ozinzileyo uhlale ezama ukuvuselela. Kodwa akukhona zonke iinguqu eziyamkelekileyo. Akuyona ingozi ukuba isiqalekiso saseTshayina sithi: "Makhe uphile ngexesha lokutshintsha." Nangona abantu abomeleleyo, kwimeko enzima, banokufumana into ebalulekileyo kunye neyodwa kubo.
Into ephambili kukukhumbuza ukuba ekuziphuculeni, njengokuba kudibanisa: kungakanani umoya okhoyo, kwindawo enzulu kunye nokubhaptizwa. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuze uqalise uhambo olutsha, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba unayo imithombo eyaneleyo yokusindisa utshintsho ebomini kunye nokulahlekelwa okuncinci.
Utshintsho iyimfuneko kwaye inenjongo. Zidibene nenyaniso yokuba umntu uyinxalenye yendawo engaphandle echaphazelayo. Sizalelwa ngenxa yenguqu, zijoliswe ekuhlaleni kwethu. Kodwa ukuba wenze njani utshintsho ebomini bakho kuxhomekeke kumntu ngokwakhe. Ngaba uyayiva ukuba kuyimfuneko ukutshintsha indlela yakhe yobomi kwaye aqale ubomi obutsha kumntu wanamhlanje, ecinga, ukuza kwenzeka kwiimeko, okanye unenkani enyuka endleleni echithwa? Oku kubeka isigqibo sakhe kunye nokuphuhliswa okuqhubekayo. Ixesha ngalinye lobunjwa bethu kunye noshintsho lulungiselela isigaba esilandelayo sobomi. Ukuba senza ngokuchanekileyo kwixesha elinikeziweyo, ngoko kwixesha elizayo siya kuba nethuba lokuziqonda ngokupheleleyo.
Umntu unemfuno ezimbini ezibalulekileyo - ukuzinza nokutshintsha. Ixesha lethu elidlulileyo nelikhoyo, kunye nobomi obutsha bomntu wanamhlanje, luzinzisa ubuntu bethu kwaye lusenza oko sikukho. Ukuba oku kuguqulwa, siya kubhekana nokungaziwa, ukuzinza okuqhelekileyo kuya kuqhekeka, entsha iya kufuneka isetyenziswe kwaye ihlaziywe ngandlela-thile. Ngoko ke, lonke ixesha esiphila kulo kuphikisanayo: kwaye ndifuna i-brand new, kwaye iyothusayo.
Ebomini kwanoma yimuphi umntu, ubuncinane kanye xa kwakukho imeko "ilandelwa rhoqo", nangona ukuhlala kakuhle kukuphelisa uvuyo. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo?
Ши C C C Chor Chor C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C U C Ngokwahlukileyo, njengomzekelo, unokucinga abantu abadala. Yintoni eyimfihlo yobomi babo? Ekubeni bahlala bebeka iinjongo kunye neenjongo ezintsha, baya ephupheni abangazange bavumele ukuba baphumule baze balahlekelwe umdla kwimpilo. Ngako oko kuyinqweneleka kuwo wonke umntu, kwimihla ngemihla, ukufumana into entsha kunye nokwakha ubomi obutsha kumntu wanamhlanje.
Eli xesha lexesha lokuphuhla liyimiphefumlo, efana neenguqu, nayo iyimfuneko. Uyilungiselela ukujika kwexesha elizayo. Thina, ngalezi zihlandlo, sinqwenela ukuzithoba, siba nzima xa sikhula, asifuni nantoni na, okanye asikwazi ukuqonda into esiyifunayo. Kodwa ngeli xesha kubalulekile ukuba ungayi kuhlala esihlalweni, kodwa gcina impumlo yakho emoyeni kwaye ubuncinane into enokuyenza. Ши Cши Chor Chor Chor Crock C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C Ungakwazi ukudibana nomhlobo wakho ngqo apho ulungele ukuhamba khona, okanye kukho umsebenzi omtsha wokujonga indawo apho ungafuni ukuya khona.
Yintoni eyenza "ukuvuleka" ukutshintsha, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ukungafuni ukutshintsha nantoni na?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukwesaba okunxulumene nokugula. Ngokomzekelo, ngesifo sesifo abantu banenkxalabo, abaneengxaki zesibindi, basaba ubomi, besaba ukufa. Utshintsho lobomi obutsha bomntu wanamhlanje udlalwa yizilwanyana zepmon. Kuye kwenzeka ukuba ngokuqinisa impilo, unokususa ngokukhawuleza ukwesaba. Xa izigulane ziza kum kwi-reception ngeengxaki ezinjalo, kufuneka ndiyiqwalasele - emva kokunyuka kwentswelo yokushiya. Isimo sokutshintsha sixhomekeke kakhulu kumoya. I-Phlegmatic ne-melancholic ivame ukubathwala. Ukuthintela oku kungenzeki, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela isimo sengqondo ukususela kumntwana kwaye ufundise kakuhle umntwana. Kodwa abantu base-choleric bangama-fatalists, abangenanga nje ukuguqula, kodwa baxhobise. Ши Cши Chor Chor Chor Chor Chor Chor Chor Chor Chor Chor C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C
Andiyithandi imbono yokwahlula abantu kwiindidi. Iengqondo zanamhlanje zinezixhobo ezininzi ezahlukahlukeneyo zohlobo lomntu, ukuze udideke malunga nokuba ungowuni. Ndiyathanda ukufunda iindawo zentlalo, umntu kunye nendalo yomntu. Unokwenza ukuba, ukuba, i-sanguine kunye nabantu base-choleric bajonge ukutshintsha, kodwa ngelo xesha, i-classic phlegmatic uBernard Shaw yayiyindwendwe enomdla kunye nomntu onokwakha. Kubonakala kum ukuba konke malunga nokukhuliswa. U-Yu. UKozeletsky emsebenzini wakhe othi "Indoda Eninzi" ebhaliwe ngesipho esizodwa, umgangatho wakhe, owazibiza ngokuthi ukugqwetha, oku kuthetha ukuba umntu unako ukuhamba ngaphaya kwemida.
Ungabhekisela kwisigaba seendlela zokuphila, eziphuhliswe ngabafundi beengqondo. Kukho abantu ababeka iinjongo ezithile baze bafezekise, kodwa kukho abo bahlala namhlanje, bengayifuni utshintsho lwehlabathi, bafeze into enkulu. Ukongezelela, kwinjongo enye, enye ihamba phambili, izitshabalalisa izithintelo endleleni, kwaye enye ihamba ngokukhawuleza ijikeleze izithintelo kunye neembombo ezibukhali. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuba umntu uyazi njani kwaye ufuna ukulawula yonke into eyenzekayo. Kwizicwangciso ezingenangqondo, iziganeko ezingalindelekanga zingahlaselwa. Emva koko umntu ohlala esenza kuphela ngokuhambelana nesicwangciso sakhe unxineke ngakumbi kunokuba; onomlinganiselo othile we-adventurism, akafuni ukulawula yonke into nayo yonke into. Nangona yonke into ishukunyiswa kumntu, yingakho wonke umntu angahlakulela amacala athile kwaye aqale ubomi obutsha kumntu wanamhlanje.
Ndiza kwahlula abantu kubabo bafuna inzondelelo ebomini, kunye nabo baphepha iingxaki ezixinzeleleyo kwaye balwela ukuzinza. I-Cшиши Cшиши Cшиши Cшиши Cшиши Crock Chort C C C C C Chorши Chorto + C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C Olu hlobo lokugqibela ludla ngokubangelwa ngabantu abasengozini. Njengomthetho, oku kubangelwa ngamava okukhathazeka - uzive uphila xa unqoba inzima yobomi. Omnye kule nto ubandakanyeka kwimidlalo engqongqo, umntu uthandana ngothando, mfutshane, wenza into ephula inkambo yobomi bendalo. Ngoko bachukumisa ukukhawuleza okuphezulu, kwinto evuselela kwaye, njengokuba kunjalo, iyazama. Ezinye zabathengi bam zithi: Ndahlala kwaye ndacinga ukuba ndiza kubuna kwi-boredom. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza nalo mntu kwenzeka into yokuba akazange aphinde aphuphe, kwaye oku kuguqula ubomi bakhe. Mhlawumbi zibuhlungu. Kodwa inyaniso kukuba uyayeka ukunyuka. Ubomi obutsha kumntu wanamhlanje isigaba esitsha kwikamva.
Indlela yokuphendula kwiinguqu ezingalindelekanga ebomini obutsha kumntu wanamhlanje?
Kukho utshintsho esikukhethayo, kwaye kukho abo basikhethayo, kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuphendula kubo. Iyokuqala iquka ukugxila kwingxaki evela xa sitshintsha isizathu sokuba kwenzeke. Umzekelo, ukuba ulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi, ukusombulula le ngxaki, kufuneka ufumane entsha. Oku kunceda ukulahla umdla kunye neemvakalelo ezimbi. Indlela elandelayo yokuphendula ukuphazamisa kwingxaki. Ukunciphisa iimvakalelo ezimbi, kufuneka uguqule kwindawo ethile. Emva koko, nokuba ingxaki ngokwayo iza kulungiswa, okanye kuya kuba lula ukuyisombulula. Kukho ubuchule obusebenzayo-ukwakha ingcinga entsha, ukuvuselela kwakhona. Yilapho umntu ebheka ubomi bakhe ngamehlo amasha, wakha ukutolika okuchanekileyo, ufumana inzuzo kwi-cons.
Ziziphi izigaba zobomi bomntu obaluleke kakhulu?
Umzimba womzimba womntu ukhula ngokweminyaka engama-7 kaSturn. Bathetha ngophuhliso lomntu kunye namanqanaba athile (i-7, 14, 21, 28, 35, 42, 49, 56, iminyaka engama-63, njalo njalo). Ubomi benkqubela ebomini obutsha kumntu wesimanje kwenzeka ngokuchanekileyo kule minyaka, kwaye amadoda aziva ngokukhawuleza ngakumbi. Ixesha elinzima kakhulu lixesha likaKristu, 33, elibhekwa njengento ebaluleke kakhulu yobomi. Kuze kube ngeli xesha umntu uhlala kwiindleko zendalo, izalamane, izalamane, ukufumana izakhono. Kodwa sele sele uneminyaka engama-33, umntu kufuneka afunde ukunika ihlabathi into eyenziwe, kwaye aphile ngeendleko zalo. Kukho iintlungu ezimbini - ezibizwa ngokuba ngama-moon knots. Eli li-18.5, iminyaka engama-37 kunye neminyaka engama-54. Babalwa ngokuchanekileyo ngokuchanekileyo. Kule mizuzu ebalulekileyo, kubalulekile ukuba ungenzi izigqibo ze-epochal, ungenzi usebenze, ungagqiba. Ezi ngcamango zobomi ziqhelekileyo, zinengqiqo.
Ukongezelela , sinakho iziqu zethu zomntu. Ngokomzekelo, ezinye iirekhodi eziganeko ezibalulekileyo zenzeka yonke iminyaka ye-3.5 okanye eyi-10.
Iingxaki zihlobene ngokuthe ngqo kwixesha apho kufuneka uxanduva lwakho lobomi. Ngokomzekelo, kwiikhosi zokuqala zaseyunivesiti, abafundi baxhala ngokuchanekileyo kokukhetha kwabo; emva kokuzalwa komntwana wokuqala, umntu kufuneka aqonde indima yomama; ukuwela umda weminyaka engama-40, xa kukho ukuhlaziywa ngokupheleleyo kobomi. I-Cшиши C Chorши Cшиши Cшиши Cшиши Cшиши Chorшиши Cшиши nge C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C Ngokwahlukileyo, ndifuna ukuthetha ngenye yezihlandlo ezinzima kakhulu kubantu bethu-umhlalaphantsi. Yeka indlela umntu ongenakubuhlungu ngayo onokuphila ngayo utshintsho lwehlabathi luxhomeke kakhulu kwiinkcubeko zentlalo. Ngethuba, akukho sikhungo esiza kunika abahlala phantsi ngaphandle kokuphela kobukho obufanelekileyo, kodwa nethuba lokuziva luyimfuneko kwaye badlulise amava abo nobomi.
Kuye ngenxa yemilinganiselo ephantsi yokuhlala phantsi kwabakhompesheni kubonakala kungabikho mntu uyimfuneko-njengokungathi i-popolzovalis, ngoko-ke i-superfluous ikhutshwe ngaphandle. Ngako oko, abantu abaneminyaka yobudala beminyaka yobudala kwaye banamathele kwizihlalo zabo, bengabanikeli indlela abancinci - ukuba bavelise, baya kulahlekelwa yimali engenayo, kwaye baya kulibala. Imeko yethu yile: ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha-phambili, kodwa kukufanelekile ukuba ucinge ukuba unyaka obunzima ukwenza - kwi-40 awuyi kufumana umsebenzi omhle. EYurophu, ukuqala ubomi emva kwe-40 kulula ngakumbi kunathi, kwaye sihlala apho ngokuzonwabisa, sithatha njengento yokuphumla efanelekile. Ndinezonxibelelwano ezininzi kunye nabantu baseYurophu kwaye ndiyabona ukuba ngexesha elifanelekileyo bayayidlulisela i-baton kubancinci, kwaye bazinikela ixesha labo, ikhaya, ukuhamba. Шиши C Chor Chor Chor Chor Chor Chor Chor Chor Chor C C C C C C +
Ubomi obutsha bomntu wanamhlanje ulungiselelwe ukukhetha indlela efanelekileyo yokuphucula ukuzimela.