Kwenzeka ukuba abantu esiyithandayo ngokukhawuleza balahlekelwa ingcamango yabo yobomi. Bayeke ukuba banomdla nantoni na, banokuhlala ekhaya nonke bangahambi naphandle ngaphandle kokusebenza. Ngaba lo mntu ufuna uncedo kulo mzekelo okanye kufuneka ahlangabezane neengxaki zakhe?
Yiba nemfesane
Ngaphambi kokuba uphuthumele umntu ekuhlanguleni, kufuneka ufumane ukuba ufuna ngokwenene. Kwenzeka ukuba abantu abasondeleyo, ngokudabukisayo ukuvuma, bamane badlale indima yexhoba. Kukusondele ukuvala ubuhlungu ekamelweni, njengokungathi kuseli, kunye neeyure ukufihliza ukungabi nantoni. Kodwa ukuba uzama ukunika umntu onjalo iindlela zokusombulula iingxaki zakhe, uya kufumana iziqwenga kunye nezizathu zokungenzi nto. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyazi ukuba umntu osondeleyo unjalo, musa ukukhawuleza ukumnceda konke. Ngokuchaseneyo, musa ukuphendula ngokuziphatha kwakhe konke, unokumhlekisa. Abantu abanjalo bafuna ukuba novelwano. Abafuni ukutshintsha nantoni na, gungqa izinto, khangela iindlela zokuphuma kwimeko. Ngokuphambene noko, bathanda ukulilela intlungu yabo, bethetha ukuba abayidingi isihawu, kodwa ngokwenene, ukuba banandipha indlela abajikeleze ngayo, zama ukunceda, bajabule kunye ne-tachalier. Ngoko ke, ukuba unqwenela ukunceda umntu onjalo, kungcono ukuthetha kunye naye kwaye uxwayise ukuba nakuphi na ungeke ukwazi ukusabela kwisithandwa sakhe nokunganakwa. Ukuba wonk 'ubani uyayeka ukukhathazeka ngaye, ekugqibeleni uya kufuneka adibanise kunye, njengoko uya kuqonda ukuba ukubandezeleka kwakhe akuphazamiseki mntu. Kwaye kuya kuba mnandi.
"Andiyazi into enokuyenza ngayo le ngxaki ..."
Ukuba umhlobo wakho ubhekene nengxaki kwaye akakwazi ukuyicombulula, uzama ukumnceda ngeengcebiso kunye nentshukumo. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba silahlekelwe ngumdla ebomini, ngenxa yokuba iingxaki ezininzi ziyakunzima, oku kunzima ukuyiqonda. Ukuba ukrokrela okanye uyazi ukuba imeko yimeko, yithetha nomthandayo. Ekuqaleni, ingaba mozhetotkazyvatsya, kodwa ukuba ungomnye wabantu abaya kudibanisa naye, ngokokuqala okanye emva kwexesha, xelela yonke into. Ingxoxo ephosakeleyo uya kuziva engcono, kodwa oku kuqala. Uzakufuna ukwenza yonke imizamo yokukholisa umntu ukuba ubomi abupheli kwaye konke kuya kulungile. Uyakhumbula iziganeko ezifanayo eziphelile, zikholise, zikhuthaze, zinike izicombululo kwiingxaki. Kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba umntu ukholelwa ukuba akayena unobungangamsha kwilizwe kwaye yonke into ingasombululwa, kufuneka uzingqine kwaye ukholelwe kuwe. Khumbula ukuba ngelinye ilanga akukho nto ixazululwa kwaye kuya kubakho ukungaphumeleli endleleni. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, ungashiyi mntu omnye. Kufuneka ulawule ngandlela-thile, ncedise, ukhuthaze kwaye ungakuvumeli ukuba udandatheke. Emva kwexesha uya kunqoba zonke iingxaki kwaye uya kukwazi ukunandipha ubomi kwakhona.
I-Vmestelevelo ihamba ngee-expanses
Ukuba umhlobo wakho uyadabukisayo kwaye ugxeka, ukuba awuyidingi ugqirha, ngoko umsebenzi wakho kukumenza unomdla ekutshintsheni imeko. Kulula ukugubungela kwiindonga ezine, kodwa zama u-podar ukuhamba ezintabeni. Ngoko cinga ngeprogram yenkcubeko kuye eya kuba yinto enomdla kwaye eyahlukileyo. Musa nje ukumphoqa umntu ukuba enze into ayithandayo. Kufuneka ukhethe ezo nkalo ezidibene naye ngento enhle, kukukhumbule amaxesha amnandi kunye njalo. Ukuba uyayithanda ulwandle, akufuneki ukuba umdonsele ezintabeni, kwaye ukuba ungumntu, musa ukuthumela umntu kwi-nightclub. Qinisekisa ukuba uhlala ephuma "kubantu." Makhe nditshintshe ukubheja, yenza abantu abaqhelana nabo. Ngoko uzama ukumphazamisa kwizinto eziqhelekileyo kunye ezonwabisayo kunye nokungazifunanga. Kubalulekile xa umntu wakho osondeleyo elula. Emva koko unako ukuwukhupha kwindawo ethile ukusuka kwenye indawo. Kodwa nangona kungenjalo, tshintsha into ebomini bakhe: qalisa ukulungiswa, uyifake kwi-dacha, kwaye ubuncinane ulethe iqela le-series comedy series, hlola naye - uya kuhleka kwaye aphazamiseke. Kwaye ubomi obungakumbi ebomini, ubuncinane obu bomi bubukeka bungekho buncwane.
"Ndiya kukuphilisa ..."
Elizweni lethu, ukunyuka kwi-psychologist kusekhona. Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba aba baseMelika abanentliziyo abanokukwazi ukukhupha ngaphandle kwemali, kodwa thina, abantu abaqhelekileyo, sinobhodlela okwaneleyo kunye nomhlobo oya kuphulaphula. Ngelishwa, kwezinye iimeko umhlobo, ukuba, ngokwenene, akanazo idiploma yengqondo, ayinakunceda rhoqo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ubona ukuba imeko iya kuhlahloka kwaye yonke imizamo yakho ayinanto, ke kunyanzelekile ukuba unikeze umntu othandayo uhambo oluya kwi-psychologist. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unakho ukuqhuba izikhalazo nokungaphelelanga, nokuba ungamangalelwa u buhlanya. Apha ufanele uthathe ngesandla uze ucacise ukuba isazi sengqondo kunye nesifo sengqondo zizinto eziphambene nekhadi. Ingcali yeengqondo ifumana i-psychology kwiyunivesithi yoluntu, kunye neengqondo - kuphela kwiziko lezonyango. Ungatsho ukuba wena ngokwakho uza kuya kwindwendwe, nangona ngokuqinisekileyo awuzicingeli njengengcali yeengqondo. Kodwa xa uthethwa umntu, unomsindo, ngokukrakra ngokoqobo, akufanele ugxininise. Esikhundleni sokukunceda, ekugqibeleni uya kumqinisekisa ukuba akayinto kwaye ayinasiphelo, ngoko ke inomdla. Nangona, ngakwelinye icala, imeko ingahlahloka, kodwa ke awukwazi ukunceda nayiphi na ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe.
Andifuni nto!
Ngaphambi koko, sathetha ngeemeko apho umntu engenomdla ebomini, kodwa ufuna ubuncinane uncedo. Kodwa ngaba kulungele ukuba kuphakanyiswe kwaye kuyifake kwimeko xa sixelelwa ngokucacileyo ukuba abafuni nto? Kule meko, awufuneki ukubeka uxinzelelo kumntu. Ukuba uthe wachaza ngokucacileyo ukuba ubomi bakhe abububi kwaye akafuni ukukhangela intsingiselo kuyo, ekubeni ukhululekile nalo, akafuneki ukuba aqinisekise, ameme okanye akhale. Ukuziphatha kwakho akuyi kutshintsha nto kwisimo esilungileyo, ngokuchaseneyo, kuya kukhokelela ekubeni loo mntu uya kuzivala. Ngoko ke, endaweni yokufunda iintetho, ukukholisa, kwindawo ethile yokudonsa, vele uhlale usondele. Ungamvumeli ukuba alahlekelwe ukudibanisa nobomi obunemibala nobomi obonwabisayo. Tshela iindaba, amabali malunga namava obomi bakho nabahlobo, ngamanye amaxesha unike ulwazi olunokuthi luhambelane neemfuno zakhe. Kodwa nje ungacinezeli. Ukuba umntu ngokukhethekileyo ukhethe lo mphefumlo kwaye wenqaba ukukunceda, ngoko awuyi kukwazi ukutshintsha into emangalisayo. Yena okanye uya kuzicingela ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuphila ngale ndlela kwaye uya kutshintsha yonke into, okanye iya kuba khona, njengoko ikhona.