Ndiza kunika umzekelo olula . Eyakhe, nje unyaka odlulileyo, ndandithanda ukugqoka iingubo ze-wool, andisayi kugqitha ebusika. Kusemgangathweni, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezithile kubonakala kungenakubukeka, bubi, budala ngandlela-thile. Ndifuna ukuya kwaye ndithenga, nangona kunjalo, kodwa entsha. Ndicinga ukuba ngamanye amaxesha uvakalelwa ngathi. Kodwa kukho abantu, izazi zengqondo zibabiza ngokuthi "bouncers", ezifuna iintlobo rhoqo. Banomdla wokuzama izinto ezahlukeneyo, kwaye kwimodi "engeyiyo": namhlanje, ngomso ngowesibili, ngomso emva komso wesithathu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ubomi bubetha intloko! Kodwa baya kuthatha iprojekthi entsha, kungekudala ukuba bangenise idala (kungeyona idumela elihle emehlweni oogunyaziwe) engqondweni, bhetele uthenge iTV entsha ukulungisa indala (inkunkuma engenangqiqo), khetha ulwalamano olutsha nentlanganiso nabahlobo bamandulo (kungekudala okanye kamva akayi kuhlala nhlobo). Uluhlu lunokuqhubeka. Ngokuqhelekileyo, imbono ayikho into enhle kakhulu. Uninzi lwabantu - "poprygunchikov" lufuna iimbonakalo ezintsha kunye neemvakalelo ezingenakulibaleka. Makhe sibone oko kuthethwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukunyuka ukunyuka kwezinto ezintsha kwaye ngaba le nkqubo inganciphisa?
Ukuxabisa okanye ukunciphisa?
Iingcali zengqondo zithi "ukuxumla" okunjalo, njengommiselo, yibo abo, beselula nabaselula, bashiywe bengavumelekanga. Hayi, izihlobo zam zivuma ngokuqinisekileyo izenzo zabo, kodwa zenza ngokuzikhusela: "Kulungile, kodwa unokwenza ngcono", "Akukho nto, kodwa unokwenza okungakumbi", "Uyakwazi ukubonisa iziphumo ezilungileyo." Ngokomzekelo, inkwenkwe yaxelela unina ukuba iyisusile yonke into, kwaye yaphendula yathi: "Kulungile, kodwa awuzange wenze ithala lakho." Okanye umfana wesikolo uxelele abazali bakhe ukuba unabo babini kuphela "abadlali" kule nqota, kwaye abazali bakhe bathetha into efana nethi "Uyenzile, kunjalo, kodwa ummelwane wakho kwideskiti inokuphela" ezintlanu ". Zama ukutsala kwikota elandelayo. " Okokuthi, umntwana akazange avunyelwe ngisho nemizuzu embalwa efanelekileyo yokuphumla kwiindawo zakhe zokuzilibazisa, ukuzithokozisa yena, nokuba yinto encinci, kodwa ephumelelayo, ngokukhawuleza ukutshintsha ingqalelo kwimiphumo emitsha eyilindele ngaphambili. Ngaloo ndlela, wayengazi kakuhle ukuba akayi kuqonda, kodwa ukuhlaziya izinto, abantu, impumelelo.
Kancinci umntu uya kwisigqibo sokuba iziphumo ezintle azibalulekanga, kanye emva kokufezekisa, kufuneka ukuba umntu aqalise ngokukhawuleza umsebenzi omtsha ukuze "athabathe aze athathe".
Nciphisa ijubane
Kakade, asikwazi ukulungisa ixesha elidlulileyo. Kodwa ukutshintsha indlela yobomi "Namhlanje ndinomdla kwinto enye, kwaye ngomso uhluke ngokupheleleyo" okwangoku kunye nekamva kwixhoba kunoma yimuphi umntu. Kuza kubakho intando kunye nento encinci yokwenza amandla. Yintoni oyifunayo ukwenza oku?
Musa ukuziqhelanisa iziqalo ezintsha. Sibheke phambili kwinto entsha, sijonge phambili ukuba kuya kuba njani. Kwaye kubonakala kuthi kuthi "iindawo ezide kakhulu" ziza kuba ngcono kunokoqobo. Zama ukungazicingisi iiprojekthi ezintsha. Ukuba kusenzima kuwe, ungacingi ngabo ngabo. Kungcono ukugxila ekufumaneni ezo zidibanisa ezikhoyo "apha nakwimanje." Cwangcisa ubomi bakho. Ukwazi ngokuzikhethela kwakho ukuphosa kuqalwe kwinqanaba elingaphakathi, zinike isithembiso ixesha elithile ukuba uqhubeke oko kuqalisiwe, nokuba awufuni ukwenza oku kwaye sele sele ulungelelanisa iindiza ezintsha kwaye ubone oko kuza kuza khona.
Kuthekani ukuba uyayithanda? Umzekelo, zinike isibhambathiso sokuba kule ndawo yomsebenzi uya kulibazisa, uthi, unyaka; ukuba uya kudibana rhoqo kunye nabahlobo "abadala" kanye ngeveki. Bazidumisa. Kuzo zonke, zonke iimpumelelo, nokuba nangokwembono yakho, nokuba ncinane. Yaye ungazicwangcisi lula "Wenze kakuhle" okanye "Umsebenzi ogqwesileyo", sebenzisa ukuncoma okuqhaqhayo kunye neyayimvelaphi, bayakhunjulwa kangcono. Ekuqaleni oku kuya kwenzeka ngokukhawuleza "kumatshini", kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe uya kubandakanyeka kwaye uqale ukufumana injabulo kule nkqubo "yokubonga".
Ngaba uyayeka ukuphazamisa?
Ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kuyisono somntu osondeleyo kuni, izazi zengqondo zicebisa ukuba zingayigxeki "i-bouncer", musa ukukhubeka kwaye ungabizi "kwimpendulo." Emva koko, wayegxekwa ngexesha lakhe, kwaye yintoni eyayikhokelela kuyo! Ukunyamezela nokunyamezela. Uzenza ngathi ungeke uhlale ungakhathazeki nonke, gxininisa ngokwakho, yenza ishishini lakho kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ungayithatha uxanduva "lwemisila" yakhe. Njengomthetho, loo mgaqo-nkqubo wokungabikho ukuphazamiseka kusebenza "kwiimvumi" njengombhobho wamanzi abandayo, kwaye baqala ukuhlaziya indlela abaziphatha ngayo kunye nokusebenza kwimpazamo.