Impazamo ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwendoda nomfazi
1. Abaninzi abasetyhini bacinga ukuba bonke abantu babi, kodwa akunjalo. Akunamsebenzi ukubonisa ubungqineli, ukuba umntu uqinisekile nje. Kodwa emva koko, iingcamango zendalo. Ukuba ucinga ukuba bonke abantu abanalo ithemba, ngoko awukwazi ukuhlangabezana nesiqingatha sakho. Kufuneka ucinge kakuhle.
2. Awudingi ukubeka iliso rhoqo umyeni wakho, oku kuthiwa yi-intrusiveness kwaye iya kuba yinyanisekileyo. Emva koko, abantu baxabisa inkululeko yabo. Amadoda kufuneka abe nexesha lawo, ngeli xesha asebenza kwixesha elithandayo. Xa indoda iya kudlala kwibhola yezemidlalo okanye idlala nabahlobo bayo echibini, musa ukumenza unxungube, njengoko oku kuya kubangela ukuhlukana kobudlelwane. Kufuneka uhloniphe iminqweno yakhe, kwaye ukuba unakho ixesha lokukhulula, uthathe ibhotile ephumayo, yenza umqubu obusweni, okanye udibana neentombi zakho.
3. Kwisicwangciso sengqondo, musa ukuhamba nomhlobo wakho. Emva kwakho konke, xa umthandi wakho ebengumntu obalaseleyo, wambiza, wabelane ngokuphumelelayo nokuphumelela kwakhe. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, kungenzeka ukuba awufuni ukuphazamisa indoda yakho, kunye nomnye umntu ofuna ukwabelana naye ngamava akho. Emva koko wakho umthandayo akayi kuba nomnqweno wokukuxelela into. Le yinto ebizwa ngokuba "ukungcatshiswa komoya," xa wabelana ngeemfihlelo zakho kunye nabo osebenza nabo, kunye nabahlobo, ezinye iimfihlakalo ezifihlakeleyo ezingabhekiselwa kubantu bangaphandle. Yaye ukuba ngaba kunjalo, kungekudala ulwalamano lwakho lunokuphela.
4. Musa ukucinga ukuba uhlala ulungile. Kufuneka ukwazi ukuma nokucela ukuxolelwa. Emva koko, ukuxolisa, oku akuwona uphawu lobuthathaka, kodwa ukukwazi ukubona iimpazamo zakho.
Uhlalutyo lweziphene
Indlela yokuba yindoda enomntu ofuna ukuyenza isenzo esibi? Unokufumana njani iqabane elikhathalelayo nelithembekileyo ebomini?
Uninzi lwabafazi abazi indlela yokutyhila ibhinqa, kwaye abanye bafazi abazi nto. Umfazi oyinyaniso uvumela umntu ukuba asombulule iingxaki, uthathe inyathelo. Kwaye amaninzi amabhinqa azama ukuzithatha zonke iingxaki kwaye le yiphutha labo. Umfazi onjalo uthatha iingxaki zomntu, uqala ukutshiza iikhati, ukuhlambalaza, ukupheka, ukunika imali, kwaye akafunanga nantoni na, ngokuthemba ukuba uya kukhetha.
Ngaloo ndlela, uyaziqhelanisa nokuba iimbopheleleko zekamva labo kunye neqhinga lobudlelwano buhlala naye. Ngenxa yoko, lo mfazi wenza imisebenzi yomntu. Kwintlalo kukholelwa ukuba umfazi kufuneka athathe yonke into. Kuthathwa njengesiqhelo xa ibhinqa libandakanya abantwana, lifumana imali kwaye likhokelela uqoqosho lonke. Emva koko, akanalo ixesha lokuzibukela aze aphenduke ihashe eliqhutywe. Umlinganisi wakhe uyinto enyanyekayo, kwaye apha akusekho mfazi.
Ngokukhawuleza xa ibhinqa lizinyamekela, libonakala liguquka kunye neendima zalo, lisuka kuye kwaye liya kwicala. Kwaye ukuyibuyisela, abafazi bayagijima bejikeleza ngothando. Akukho mfuneko yokubuyela, kufuneka ube ngumfazi ukususela ekuqaleni.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngumfazi?
Musa ukuthatha inyathelo, ngumsebenzi wesilisa. Xa udibana nendoda, umfazi unika inombolo yakhe yefowuni, inombolo yomnxeba, uqala ukukhala, kuphela xa ebiza kwaye akalahlekanga naphi na. Musa ukusombulula iingxaki zakhe. Abafazi bethu abathandekayo kwiinyawo zabakhethiweyo babo balungele ukubeka lonke ihlabathi. Baya kumnceda athole umsebenzi, afumane indlu yokuhlala, iitaliti ziya kuhlawulwa.
Indoda kufuneka incede umfazi, kungekhona kuye, baya kutshintsha indima, kwaye umfazi ebomini uya kubangela abantwana, umsebenzi, ubomi kunye nomyeni ongaphantsi. Amandla omfazi onomonde, kufuneka alinde de loo ndoda inqumle ingxaki. Kodwa ukuba uyazilungisa, ujika i-bulb, abulale isikhonkwane, umntu uya kuqonda ukuba akayidingi umfazi.
Umfazi oyinyaniso akayi kuphulaphula ukukhwabanisa komntu, ukuba akakwazi ukwenza nantoni na, amboleke imali, akayi kumfaka entanyeni aze agcine indoda. Ekugqibeleni, loo mntu ngokwakhe kufuneka amnike imali, anakekele, anakekele.
Umsebenzi wowesifazane awufanele ugijime indoda, kodwa ukumkela yonke into umntu anika yona, kufuneka avunyelwe ukukunika. Emva koko, umfazi unokunika uninzi umntu, kwaye oku akuzona izinto eziphathekayo. Uyamnika uxolo, ububele, udumo, ukunyaniseka, kwaye kunceda indoda ibonakalise intloko yomntu. Indoda kufuneka ibe ngumgcini wesondlo, inkosi kwaye kufuneka ibe yimbopheleleko yentsapho.
Musa ukugqiba isigqibo sokuba indoda ingxaki yakhe, ungayicamisi icebiso labo. Indoda ngokwakhe ixazulula iingxaki, oku kuhambelana nendalo yesintu. Ibhinqa ayinikiweyo, xa eqala ukwenza loo nto, iba njengomntu kwaye ilahlekelwe ngumfazi wayo.
Ibhinqa linamathela kumntu, njengendonga, njengenkxaso. Indoda idinga umfazi ukuba athathe amandla akhe. Amandla amvumela ukuba adale, adale, kuba lula ukuba aqonde, ukuba kwenzeke, phambi kwakhe kukho amathuba okukhula komsebenzi. Yaye ukuba ithe ibhinqa lizinyamekela, ngale ndlela, ayivumeli umntu ukuba akhule.
Akufanele ugxeke kwaye ugxeke indoda ngokungapheliyo, ukuba awuzange uyizise isonka, ukhethe i-sauce engafanelekanga, uxhomeke kwisikriti esiphendukile, ngoko umntu akanqweneli ukwenza nantoni na. Musa ukuyalela, ungabuphakamisi izwi lakho kuye, mbulela oko akwenzayo, oku kuza kuba ngumfazi wangempela. Funda, thabatha idilesi yakho, ungazithethi, kodwa uhlale udumisa. Ngaphandle kokumelana kunye nokubulela kwamkela yonke into enokukunika yona umntu kunye nobomi. Kwaye ke akuyi kuba nekhalazo malunga nexesha elizayo.
Siye sahlenga iimpazamo ezithile kwintsebenziswano phakathi kwowesifazane kunye nendoda, kwaye sinethemba lokuba uzakuzama ukungazibandakanyi kwixesha elizayo.