Kutheni kungekho ntlonelo ngeentlanzi malunga noninazala? Ewe, kuba thina bafazi sinabantu abaziqilileyo nabona ubude. Siyaqonda kakuhle ukuba simele siphila ngokuthula "nomama wethu wesibini" ukuze silondoloze uxolo kunye nokuvisisana kwintsapho yethu, kwaye ngenxa yoko "sinokunyathela intamo yethu" kwaye sihlale sisetyenziswe nokuba kukho into engasifanele.
Kuthiwani ngamadoda? Ininzi yabo ayayazi indlela yokuguquguquka. Ngokuqhelekileyo baphila ngomgaqo othi "vumela ihlabathi ligobe phantsi kwethu." Kunjalo nje umama onqabileyo uya kufuna ukutshintsha ngenxa yendoda ethile, nokuba yindoda yakhe intombi. Yingakho kufuneka sibonise ubungqina ukuba ukhetho lwakho lufanelwe ukukwabelana nawe kokubili usizi novuyo.
Ngoko ukuba akudingeki ubukele imfazwe ebonakalayo phakathi kwabantu obathandayo, kufuneka usebenze ngexesha elifanayo: kwindoda nomama.
Yenza iinjongo
Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe nawaphi na amanyathelo okuzisa umama wakho nomyeni osondeleyo, cinga oko ufuna. Ukuba unethemba lokuba kuvela ngokukhawuleza kwemvakalelo yomzalwana, ngoko, mhlawumbi, uya kubhekana nokuhluleka okuphazamisayo. Ewe, kukho iimeko xa umfazi onomtshato wentombi sele efumana nonyana onothando, kodwa ke, oku kunjalo, okungafaniyo nomgaqo jikelele.
Musa ukufuna uthando! Kwanele ukuba ngalinye la maqela "libonakalisa ipakethe yokungabikho komthetho." Ukungathathi hlangothi phakathi komkhwenyana nomkhwekazi, ngokusemgangathweni, kuyindlela efanelekileyo. Mhlawumbi ngexesha lakho iqabane liya kuziva ukuba unomama wesibini ngokwenene, kodwa Oku kuninzi kule nto, ukuze kungabikho ukuphazamiseka. Okwangoku, siya kuzama ukudibanisa ndawonye.
Yenza ulwalamano oluhle
Indlela engcono yokuphumelela imfazwe phakathi komkhwenyana nomkhwekazi emfazweni kukukhusela ekuqaleni. Ngako oko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza yonke imizamo yokuseka ubudlelwane obuhle phakathi kwentanda yakho kunye nonyoko ekuqaleni kobomi bakho bomtshato (ngokufanelekileyo-ngaphambi komtshato). Ayikwazanga ukwenza ngexesha? Kulungile ukuhamba kunanini.
"Sebenza" nomyeni wakhe
Ngokusekelwe kuma-anecdotes, amadoda amaninzi akholelwa ukuba umama-mkhwenkwe ophelileyo nguye ohlala iikhilomitha eziliwaka ukusuka kuwe kwaye uza kutyelela iintsuku ezimbalwa kanye ngonyaka. Ngolu khetho, kulula ukugcina ubudlelwane obufudumele. Nangona kunjalo, ngobomi benene ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ngokungafaniyo. Qala "unyango" lwabantu abathembekileyo! Zama ukuzisa kumyeni ucinga ukuba uya kufuneka asebenze kanzima ukuze afumaneke isimo esihle kuye. "Akafuni ukuba uxabane nonina?" Ngoko awufuni.
Ngoko, umkhwenyana kufuneka azibonakalise ngesandla esona sihle, enze into emnandi kumamazala. Ewe, uyazi kakuhle iimfuno kunye nemikhwa yomama wakho. Zama ukukhusela iimeko ezingaqhelekiyo okanye ezidibeneyo. Ngokomzekelo, ungalibali ukuxelela umyeni wakho ukuba unyoko uyamthiya ama-daffodils, kuba bamngcwaba ngandlela-thile ngamangcwaba. Okanye ungamxhasi ekuthengeni ikhekhe enkulu, ukuba uyazi ukuba unyoko udla ukutya okunzima, njl.
Ingxoxo kunye noMama
Ukuba unyoko uyaqiniseka ukuba "lo mntu akayena mlingane kwaye ufanelwe ukulungelelanisa," zama ukubonakalisa okuchaseneyo: uyazi kakuhle kakuhle iingenelo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwendoda yakho. Zama uhlale unika ingqalelo kwizinto ezintle zomkhwenyana wakho, akunakunceda ukwenza ngamazwi, kusebenza kakhulu ukwenza loo nto .
Ngokomzekelo, okhethiweyo ongaziwa kakuhle kwezobugcisa, akanakulungele ukugcina ingxoxo. Kodwa unezandla zegolide. Mxelele ukuba unyoko unomphelo omde okanye ufuna ukubethela isalfle kwindawo yokuhlambela.
Mhlawumbi, ngokuchasene noko, indoda yayingenaso isando ebomini bakhe. Kodwa yena, njengomama wakho, uyakuthanda ukudweba kwaye uyayithanda le midlalo. Kutheni ungamemezi umkhwe wakhe kunye nomboniso okanye ukusebenza kakuhle? Ndikholelwe, uya kumangaliswa.
Mhlawumbi uyamthanda umyeni wakho, kodwa ungamniki ngokupheleleyo ixesha lakho lokukhulula. Musa ukulibala ngokuthetha nabazali! Cingisisa, ukuba unyoko uyalibala, ke uya kuba netyala lokungaqwalasela wena, kodwa umntu "weba intombi yakhe" kuye.
Kuye kwenzeka ukuba umona wam umama ukhulume kakhulu, uhlala engakunaki. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzeka kubasetyhini abangatshatanga abazinikezele ubomi babo bonke abantwana, kodwa ngoku baziva bengenasetyenziswa kunoma ubani. Mhlawumbi ukuzalwa komzukulu okanye umzukulu kuya kunceda ukujamelana nale ngxaki. Kodwa, ngaphezu koko, unokuzama ukwenza umama wakho athathe into ethile. Kwaye akazange ambophe umnqamlezo ebuntwaneni bakhe? Mnike iiseti ezimnandi zomtya kunye nesakhelo. Ukwazi? Buza ukubopha i sweta kuwe. Kwaye umyeni wam othandekayo naye.
Ngokufanelekileyo siyaxabana
Akukho ziintsapho apho wonke umntu ehlala evuya ngayo yonke into. Ukususela ngamaxesha into ethile iyasichukumisa. Kwaye, kunjalo, phakathi komkhwenyana nomkhwekazi, iimeko zengxabano ziyavela. Akuyimfuneko ukuba nethemba lokuba bakhulu kwaye baya kuziqonda. Ukuba uvumela izinto zihambe ngokwazo, akukho nto enokuza kuyo. Ngoko ke, thina, abafazi kunye neentombi ngomntu oyedwa, kufuneka sibonise imimangaliso yomonde, ubulumko nobuchule ukuze kugcinwe uxolo kwintsapho.
Nangona ukuchasana okuvulekileyo kwaphephelwa, i-negative is still. Ngoko ke, asiyi kuphumla kwaye asiyikulibala ngemithetho ebaluleke kakhulu engenakuphulwa.
1. Musa ukuvula icala. Kukho nawuphi na, omnye wabantu abathandekayo kuwe uya kukhubeka.
2. Nangona ngasese, umntu akufanele akwazi ukuxhasa ukunganyaniseki komyeni ngoomama-mkhwenkwe kunye nakwezinye izinto. Kwimeko evuyisayo, umntu unokuthetha into ongeke uyilibale kwaye uxolele ixesha elide.
3. Ukuba ukhubekile, ungazivumeli ukugxeka umyeni wakho phambi koonyoko kunye nonina. Uya kwamkela iimpazamo zombini nomama, kodwa akudingeki ukuba wazi iingcinga zakho malunga nale nto!
4. Into ebalulekileyo esiyikhumbulayo rhoqo ngathi kwaye sikhumbuze umama wethu oyintanda nomyeni kukuba akukho namnye kuthi uphelele kwaye akayi kuguqula. Kodwa uyabathanda bobabini ngenxa yazo zonke iintsilelo. Kwaye ngenxa yoko kufuneka bahloniphe imibono yomnye.