Izenzo zakhe: uyathula.
Kuze kube ngoku, ngaba ucinga ukuba ukukhwabanisa kwakuyinto ehlala ngonaphakade kwiziko le-school? Ngaba kuye kwenzeka ukuba uqiniseke ukuba zonke izinto ezivuyisayo zendlela ezisakhulayo ziye zange zingene kwixesha elidlulileyo njengoko libonakala ngathi? Musa ukuphelelwa lithemba. Akukho imfuneko ukuvula amanqaku angalunganga kwaye uwaxhomeke ngomnyango wefriji okanye umlingo, olo nxeba lunokubambezeleka.
Zama ukubheka imeko ukusuka kwicala. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba lukhulu kangakanani umthetho, kwenzeka ntoni phakathi kwakho. Omnye uxhaphaza ngokuthula kunye neentlanzi, kwaye okwesibini iyancoma i-caprices. Ukuba kukumomotheka, yenza ukuba "ungene" kuye. Mbhalele inqaku elihle kunokuba ucaphukise, uxolise okanye uthethe ngokucacileyo malunga neengcamango zakho ngeentlanzi neegusha, oye wahlala ngokukhawuleza kwindlu yakho.
Ungabi neentloni zokuvuma ukutshatyalaliswa, uyazi ukuba umphumeleleyo nguye ofumana oko akufunayo. Yaye ufumene indoda yakho!
Ukuba i-capitulation ayifakiwe kwiiplani zakho, kwaye iingxabano malunga ne-zoo musa ukumhleka, zivale kwakhona. Mhlawumbi, uzoncwina kunzima kunokuba yena, kodwa, ndikholelwe, uya kubona ukuthula okungaqhelekanga kungekudala. Ekugqibeleni, uya kuxolelana.
Izenzo zakhe: uthetha kakhulu.
Awuzange ulindele, kodwa wafaka ingqungquthela? Wacacisa yonke into awayeyicinga kunye nento awayeyilungisile? Ngaba iimizila zakho ziye zahamba ngokuya kuba ziimangalo ezivulekileyo kunye namabango? Ixesha lokuba umntu ayeke.
Ukuba awukwazi ukunqabisa intanda yakho, shiya kwigumbi uze umshiye wedwa ngeemvakalelo zakho. Makhe akhonkceze kwifriji, kungekhona kuwe. Ukuba oku akuzange kuncede, kwaye wagijima wangena kwigumbi elilandelayo ukuza kuwe yonke into engakabonanga ngayo, phuma waya kwisitalato. Musa ukuya kude nekhaya. Hamba uhambahamba. Ungakulibali ukuthatha ifowuni yeselula - mhlawumbi ngemizuzu embalwa uya kubiza uxolo.
Ukuba oku akunakunceda, hamba ekhaya uze uzame ukulala - kusasa kukuhlakanipha kunokuhlwa. Kwimeko apho umthandayo engakuvumeli ukuba ulale kwaye uqhubeka ucacisa ulwalamano, ungakhohlisi ekuphambeni kwakhe. Mkele iphoso apho ubeka khona ityala, umxolele uze umxelele ukuba uyamthanda. Ukuba awuzange uphendule kumagama anjalo, kufuneka uqikelele - ngaba ulwalamano lwakho luyomelele kwaye luyinyaniso ukuba unomdla ngakumbi ekubangela ubuhlungu kunomnye?
Kwimeko apho impikiswano ihlala ngokupheleleyo nesazela sakho, musa ukuyibeka ingxaki kunye nomntu wakho kwiimeko ezichaphazelayo, uya kuxolelana ngaphambi kokuba uthabatheke.
Isenzo salo: iipestile.
Ucela ukuba athathe inkunkuma, kodwa uya kulala ngokulala? Utsho enye into, kodwa wenza into ehluke ngokupheleleyo? Amacacisa akhe amanyathelo athathekayo, oko kukuthi, ukuchasa. Yiyo ndlela abantwana abancinci nabasilisa abaziphatha ngayo, abangaqhelekanga njengoko kubonakala ngathi.
Akunzima ukuphuma kuloo mpikiswano, kuba kunesilingo esinzima sokwenza okufanayo. Kodwa umntu kufuneka abe nobulumko, ngaphandle koko intshabalalo iya kuba yinto enkulu kangangokuba ekuxolelaneni akukho nto ithetha.
Musa ukufuna into ethile kumntu wakho ngeli xesha. Musa ukucela ukwenza into ethile, ungayichazi. Ngethuba elithile, nqakraza kuyo kwaye uphile ubomi bakho-iyure okanye iintsuku eziliqela, akunandaba. Mxelele ngokukhawuleza ukuba ulungele ukuxolelana kwaye ulindele amanyathelo ukusuka kwicala lakhe.
Xa ufezekisiweyo, uza kuba nethuba lokubonisa yonke into ocinga ngayo. Kubalulekile ukuba angamqhubeki ukuba ayenze izenzo zakhe, kungenjalo ngenxa yokulimala uya kuqala ukuthululela i-ash embhede okanye abuye ekhaya ekuseni.
Izenzo zakhe: ikhefu.
Ngokukhawuleza, kungekho sizathu, utsho ukuba ufuna ikhefu kwaye uvale ubudlelwane bakho kwi-akhawunti kwakhona. Kuza kube nini ixesha elide kwaye kuya kuba yintoni imiphumo yelo nyathelo kunzima ukuqikelela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuphumla ebudlelwaneni akuthethi nto, ngaphandle kokuba ufuna ukwahlukana. Kodwa kukho imeko xa eya kunina okanye kumhlobo wakhe entliziyweni yakhe.
Ungazami ukuyibuyisela ngosuku olufanayo. Shayela enye elandelayo, uxolise uze uzame ukunyanzela ukuba ndidibane kwaye ndithethe. Cetyisa ukuba uqale kwakhona, vumelani ukunika oko kubalulekile kuye, uthembisa kunye ne-navri neebhokisi ezintathu. Ukuba udinga lobu budlelwane kunye nale ndoda, ukuba ulungele ukuyibuyisela nayiphi na indleko - isenzo.
Ukuba ukuphuka kwakho kubambezelekile, zama ukudlala nomona.
Ukuba le ndoda ishiye kwaye ayiyi kubuya, kuya kufuneka uyibale, ngokubuhlungu. Iveki iyahluke - kungakhathaliseki ukuba iya kuphi, kodwa ukuba ingekayinyanga, ithetha ukuba awuphumelelanga.
Zonke ezi zicwangciso zisebenza kuphela xa unenyameko malunga nolwalamano lwakho. Ukuba wena ngokwakho ulungele ukukhawulela ekuhlaselweni kwithuba lokuqala, ukuba umgqugquzeli wezo zonke izigxeko nguwe, ke le ntlawulo ibalulekile ukufunda kumntu wakho. Kodwa isiluleko esibalulekileyo kukuba singakwazi ukuzisa iingxabano kwimisebenzi yempi epheleleyo. Ngamanye amaxesha kungcono ukuthula ngaphandle kokugubha isiqhamo esibuhlungu sokuzikhukhumeza kwakho. Yaye ixhalabisa bonke abantu-amadoda namabhinqa.