Amadoda ayengesabi ukuba ngama-romantic. Abazange bacinge ukuba le nto ayimkelekanga kwindoda yangempela. Banike ientyatyambo, baqhubela iintombi kumabhayisikobho, ukuba badlale. Ukuhamba nje kunye nencoko engaqhelekanga kwintengiso, yabanika umdla omnandi.
Amantombazana ayevakalelwa ngokwenene kwaye ayedinga. Babengesabi ukubonakala bebuthathaka okanye bebuthathaka. Emva koko, kukho umntu oqinileyo osondeleyo ongasindisa kuyo nayiphi na ingxaki.
Yintoni eyenzekayo kula madoda angakwazi ukujika iintaba ngenxa yowesifazane othandekayo? Kutheni abafana bayeke ukuzama ukufumana amantombazana?
Yintoni eyenzekayo ngoku? Amadoda anesiqiniseko sokuthi ahlukile kwaye, ngokwenene, iintlobo ezisengozini, ukuba aziboni ukuba kuyimfuneko ukufumana amantombazana. Ukuba uthe wagqiba ukuza kuwe, kwaye wavuma ukumnika inamba yefowuni, ngoko ke umlinganiselo oza kuwenza emva koko ukubiza nokumema kwintlanganiso. Kwaye, kungenzeka ukuba ukuba emva komhla wokuqala, awufumani elalilinikweni lwakhe, ngoko umdla kuwe uya kulahleka.
Akunakucinga ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuchitha amandla akhe ukufikelela kuwe. Kwaye, ngokukodwa ekubeni uyaqiniseka ukuba ukuba akunjalo wena, ngoko omnye uya kuvuma ngokukhawuleza kuyo yonke imeko yakhe kwaye akayi kuvela ngaphandle kwecala ngenxa yowesifazane.
Yisiphi isizathu sokuba abafana bayeke ukuzama ukufumana amantombazana, nje ungayifumani kakuhle. Isizathu esinokuba kukuba phambi kokuba amadoda akhuliswe ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Abafana ukusuka ebuntwaneni babesazi ukuba intombazana kufuneka ifunwe ukuba ufuna ukuba abe nawe. Ngaphambili, ukufuna ibhinqa kwakucingwa njengomsebenzi oqhelekileyo, nokuba, omnye unokuthi, uphawu lwaso naluphi na ulutsha.
Mhlawumbi thina, amantombazana nabasetyhini, sinokusola into yokuba indoda ayifuni kwaye ayikhathaleli intombazana. Akukhulanga kakuhle, njengomzekelo. Ngoku ixabiso eliza kuhlonelwa ootatomkhulu nootatomkhulu. Ngoku indoda kunye nomfazi balingana namalungelo abo.
Iphutha likhona kuthi, kwaye lisebenza kakhulu kwiminyaka yamuva nje yaba ngamantombazana. Kithina, akusengxaki, yiya kumfana oyithandayo, mbuze inombolo yefowuni, umemele ngomhla. Ngokuqinisekileyo asibuthathaka, sikulungele kwaye sihlawula isidlo sasemini kwivenkile ukuba loo mntu uyayithanda ngenhliziyo yakhe yonke. Sithumela imiyalezo ye-SMS, apho siza kuchaza yonke imvakalelo yethu nolwandle lwamancoma. Thatha kwizandla zakho ikusasa elihlangeneyo. Siceba kwaye siqonde onke amaphupha ethu namaphupha.
Ngoku awuyi kumangaliswa yintsapho leyo, apho imali ikhishwe ngumfazi, kwaye indoda iyasebenza njengomfazi wendlu. Kwaye, abaninzi abantu banelisekile ngolu hlobo lwemicimbi. Kwaye kunzima ukungavumelani nabo, ngoku amadoda akufanele azikhathaze ngokutshatyalaliswa kwexesha elide. Eyona nto, nangona edala intsapho, iinjongo zikaRhulumente zinokutshintshela kumahlombe ebhinqa.
Sivumela amadoda ukuba aziphathe ngale ndlela, ngoko sinokuyilungisa ngamandla ethu. Kuphela ukuba ukuba into ayihambisani nawe. Sitshintsha uqale. Indoda iziphatha kakuhle nomfazi ngokufanayo njengowesifazane.
Ngethamsanqa, ndiyakuthetha ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba kusekho amadoda anjalo ngexesha lethu, ngubani ngenxa yobudlelwane obude obuhle nentombazana. Kukho namadoda alungele ukukhusela kunye nenkxaso yabathandekayo babo.
Amantombazana, ukuba awufuni ukuya kwelinye ilanga uthathe intloko yakho ngeengcamango: "kutheni abafana bayeke ukuzama ukufumana amantombazana?". Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, musa ukuthatha ixesha elide ukuze ungadli kwaye uhlupheke. Hlalani nikhumbule ukuba uyintombazana ephosakeleyo efanelwe ukuthandwa, ukunyamekela nokunyamekela. Kwaye, nangona kunjalo, ufanelwe umntu wamaphupha akhe ukuwufezekisa.