Ngoko yintoni umehluko phakathi kweminyaka kunye nendoda eqhelekileyo? Lo mbuzo unezintshisekelo zeengqondo kunye namagqirha kumazwe ahlukeneyo. Ngokomzekelo, kwiintsapho zaseFinnish kukholelwa ukuba ekuzalweni kwembewu enempilo mahluko phakathi kweminyaka phakathi kwabatshatileyo kufuneka kube ubuncinane iminyaka elishumi elinesihlanu.
Nangona kunjalo, ngokwenene, yonke into ibonakala ihluke. Azikho ezininzi iintsapho "ezichanekileyo" eFinland. Ngokomyinge, indoda yaseFinland ikhulile kunomfazi iminyaka emithathu kuphela. Iingcali zesayensi zaseFinnish zikholelwa ukuba le ngenye yezizathu zokuba kungabikho abantwana abaninzi abanempilo bazalwa.
ESweden, iingxelo ze-Finns azithembeki. Ingaba umntu okhulile ngokwesondo kufuneka alinde omnye iminyaka engama-15, xa intombi yakhe ikhula? AmaSweden, emva kokufunda inani elikhulu lamabhangqwana abatshatileyo, banquma ukuba umehluko kwiminyaka phakathi kwendoda nomfazi fanele ukuba ngaphantsi Iminyaka engama-6 . Kwaye, ngokumangalisayo kukuba, umgaqo ophezulu ekukhetheni iqabane lobomi kwakungenalo uthando, kodwa ukuhlala kakuhle kwabafazi. Okokuthi, iqabane elifanelekileyo lomtshato yindoda enomvuzo omhle, umsebenzi ohlala unomdla kwaye unomdla. Yaye uthando ... lukwesibili.
Ukujonga okufanayo kwimihluko yobudala kuyafumaneka kwiNgesi. Nangona kunjalo, banomdla komnye umbuzo. Ingaba inqanaba lomqondo labayeni lichaphazela impilo yabantwana babo?
Ezi zifundo zenze isiNgesi sisisayensi sibe nomphumo obangelisayo - umntu onobuqilileyo, amathuba okuba abantwana bakhe bazalwe bephilile. Bachaza oku ngento yokuba amadoda anengqondo ephakamileyo ayaphumelela, enomsebenzi omhle, ngoko ke enze ukuba banomdla omkhulu kubasetyhini obuhlukile. Ngokuqinisekileyo, eNgilani, malunga nesiqingatha seentsapho, indoda ayineminyaka emdala kunomfazi iminyaka engaphezu kwe-5, isiqingatha esisele seentsapho sahlukaniswa ngokwahlukileyo kwiindawo apho umlingane omncinci kunomfazi wakhe, kwaye apho apho umfazi engaphantsi komyeni wakhe iminyaka engaphezu kwe-6.
Njengamaxesha onke, amaMerika azihlukanisa. Baye banquma ukuba umda wobudala phakathi komntu nomfazi phantse ayichaphazeli impilo yabantwana babo. Okubaluleke nakakhulu yimihla apho umfazi alahlekelwa yintombi yakhe. Iintsana ezinempilo zizalwe ngabo balahlekelwa ubuntombi babo eneminyaka elishumi elinesixhenxe ukuya kwishumi elinesibhozo. Kwaye banamathuba okwandisa ukudala intsapho epheleleyo kunye nabantwana (kunye namaMerika aneentsapho ezincinci nangaphantsi ngamnye ngonyaka). Kubantwana basetyhini abaqala ubomi besondo ngaphambili, okanye, ngokuthe ngqo, emva kweli xesha, izifo ezininzi ziqheleke ngakumbi.
Oogqirha baseRashiya, emva kokulandela imininzi yemitshato, bafumanisa ukuba emnye wemitshato emithathu, indoda indala kunomfazi iminyaka emi-2 ukuya kwe-5. Phantse ngokulinganayo kweentsapho apho umfazi sele ekhulile iminyaka emininzi kwaye apho umlingane uneminyaka engama-6 ukuya kwe-10 ubudala. Imitshato encinane phakathi koontanga. Ngokwezibalo, imitshato ephakathi komntwana oneminyaka elilodwa idla ngokugqitywa xa iselula. Kwaye kuphela kwiintsapho ezingamashumi amabini umehluko yobudala phakathi kwabatshatileyo iminyaka engaphezu kweyishumi.
Kukho omnye umzekelo onomdla. Ibhinqa elide kakhulu kunomyeni wayo limfumana ngaphezulu. Ukwahluka kobudala obuncinane phakathi kwabatshatileyo, ubuncinane amathuba okuba umfazi athathe umyeni wakhe ngokwemali engenayo.
Kodwa ngaba kulungele ukubethelela ukubaluleka kakhulu kumbakala kwiminyaka yobudala? Ngenhlanhla, sinemitshato emininzi yothando kunokuba lula. Yaye ukuba kukho uthando, ubudala abukho nto ebalulekileyo. Ndicinga ukuba umfazi kufuneka abe mncinane kunomyeni wakhe. Loo ntsapho iya kuba namandla.