Ulindele ixesha elide ukuba kuvele le ndoda ebomini bakho ... kwaye ngoku, nonke, nibambene, ngabazali bakho bayavuya kwaye banwabile ngenxa yenu, phambi kosuku oluvuyoleyo nolulindelwe ixesha elide ebomini nganye intombazana, kodwa emphefumlweni wenu unenkxalabo, ezininzi iingcinga kunye nokwesaba. Yintoni intombazana ecinga ngayo ngaphambi komtshato, kwaye yintoni imifanekiso ephezu kwentloko yakhe?
Ukwesaba ukuchaneka kokukhetha kwakhoOlu loyiko luhanjelwa ngamnye umtshakazi. Ukuba ulinde ixesha elide lomntu wakho umlingane kwaye uthande owakhethiweyo, akukho nto yokwesaba, ukhethwa okanye ayikho, iinjongo, njengokuba uyazi, azikho, kuba wonke umntu uyinto kwaye uyinto enhle, inyaniso yokuba sele udibene nayo endleleni yakhe ayikho ngengozi . Kodwa umtshato, ngokuqinisekileyo, akufanele ube ngumthwalo, kufuneka udibanise, udibanise, wenze abantu baqaphele, baqikelele, bafunde ukwenza izinto ezizenzekelayo. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, kungcono ukutshata kunokuba ukwesaba ukwenza le nyathelo ebomini bakho kwaye ungalokwazi ukwazi uvuyo lobomi bentsapho kunye nonina. "Iingcuka ziyesaba - musa ukuya ehlathini."
Ukwesaba ubomi bentsapho kunye nokulahlekelwa ngumntu ngamnye
Ngaphambi kokuba uthi "EWE", cinga ukuba ulungele ukuchitha ubomi bakho kunye nomntu ofanayo, ukuba uphile kunye ne-nimradosti kwaye mhlawumbi unyanzelekile, kuba umtshato awuhlali uhlala uxolo. Abantu bavavanywa kwiimeko ezixinzeleleyo, ukukwazi ukuphuma kuzo zonke iintlobo zeengxaki. Musa ukuphikisana ngezinto ezingabonakaliyo, umntu omkhethile njengomlingane wakho osenyongweni, onokuhlala efumana ingxaki. Ngethuba lokuqala, abantu baqhotyoshelana, bafana nokufana komnye nomnye, kodwa bayaqonda ukuba umntu ngamnye uyanyamalala, oko kungabangela ingxaki enkulu kwiintsebenziswano, ngoko kubalulekile ukusebenzisana omnye nomnye, ukuqonda omnye nomnye. Kubonakala ngathi oku kulula kakhulu ekuqalekeni. Bonke abantu bahluke, abantu abafanayo abakho, kodwa oku kudibeneyo, wena ungumntu ngamnye. Ukuze ungalokothi ulahlekelwe ngumntu ngamnye emva komtshato, musa ukuyeka uthando nokukwenza oko uthanda ukukwenza ngaphambili, izinto ezithandwayo kunye nezinto zokuzilibazisa akufanele "ngenxa yomtshato" zinyamalale ebomini bakho, wenza ubomi bakho bube mnandi njengoko ufuna. Emva kwakho konke, okhethiweyo wakho uyakuthanda ngenxa yokuba ungubani, ngoko-ke soloko unomdla kuye kunye nabantu bakho bonke.
Uloyiko lokulahlekelwa kwemvakalelo
Le ngcamango iphinda yenzeke kwiintombazana ngaphambi komtshato. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba into enokuyenza yinto yokuhlaziywa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kukhwankqisa kangakanani, kodwa ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa uthando kuthetha ukuba uyayithanda. Umlinganiselo apho ubudlelwane abasandul 'ukutshata emva kwemitshato buya kuhlala buxhomekeke kubasanda kutshata nabo. Umtshato ngumsebenzi osisigxina, onomsebenzi onzima kubudlelwane bakho, ongenakukuyeka phantsi kwakho. Amaqabane kufuneka ayanyanisekile omnye nomnye, musa ukuxoka kwaye ningakhohlisi, ninyamekele kwaye nithandane.
Ngoko, ukwesaba oko kuthethwa yiyobuyatha. Ukunyamekela iimvakalelo zakho, ukuba uyazifuna ngokwenene kwaye zikhona, qaphela, zenzani iintsikelelo zomnye, zenza izinto zobuqhophololo, ngokuqhelekileyo, zivuyiswe ngamaxesha omtshato ocolileyo. Kodwa into ephambili ukutshata ngothando.
Uloyiko lokungcatsha umntu omthandayo
Iingcamango ezinjalo zivame ukutyelela iintloko zamantombazana. Nanku kubalulekile ukuba ungabonakalisi kwaye ukhulise loloyiko entloko yakho, ngenxa yoko oku kuphazamiseka, ukuhlambalazwa, ukuxinezeleka, ukungacaciswanga, ukunyaniseka, oku kunokukhuthaza ukuhlaselwa. Kufuneka ube nobulumko. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abatshatileyo baya kuhlambalaza, xa bedibana nolwalamano lwabo, ukungakhathaleli, ukungafaneleki kwaye bawufuna bonke kwicala baza bafumane. Kubalulekile ukuthembela, ukuphulaphula nokuvalelana. Khumbula indlela odibene ngayo, ngenxa yolu thando, isitywina kwipasipoti yakho yatshintsha kakhulu ubomi bakho kwaye iyahlula "ngaphambili" nangemva "," ubudlelwane bomtshato emva kokuba umtshato ungatshintshi, isimo sakho kuphela siya kutshintsha.
Ungamvumeli iqabane lakho ukukopela kuwe, nakwiingcinga zakho. Konke okusemandleni akho.
Bytovuha
Musa ukuyivumela ukuba ibe, cwangcisa indlela yakho yobomi kunye nexesha lokuphumla. Emva kokuba wenze ubomi bube lula kuwe, ukuphumelela kwangoku kwitheknoloji, fumana ixesha kwaye uphume kwindlu rhoqo ngangokunokwenzeka.
Iingcamango malunga nokulungiselela umtshato . Oku mhlawumbi kuyona nto ibumnandi kakhulu kwintombazana. Unenkxalabo malunga nento yonke - ukusuka kumbala wendwangu yesitya ukuya kwinkokeli yentshukumo. Njengomthetho, ininzi yokulungiselela umtshato ithatha umtshakazi.
Ngoko, ukwenzela ukuba eli xesha libe yinto ebalulekileyo ebomini bakho, ibe yinto engafanelekanga kwaye ibangele ukwesaba, kubalulekile ukwenza isicwangciso nokuxubusha uxanduva lomntu ngamnye ukulungiselela kulolu suku. Hlukanisa imisebenzi phakathi kwabo, umyeni, abazali nabahlobo abasondeleyo abakulungele ukukunceda. Isicwangciso sinokukunceda ukuba ubeke ixesha ngokufanelekileyo, ngaphandle kweluhlu kufuneka kube njalo kwi-vass kwizandla zakho, ukuze uqhubeke uncedisa kwaye utshintshe. Chaza zonke iimeko zokubaluleka, ukulungelelanisa yonke inkqubo yayilula.
Ngokukrakra ngokupheleleyo kunye nokuxinezeleka, akunjalo, akunakunqandwa - kuba yena nomtshato, ndifuna ukuba yonke into ihambe ngokugqibeleleyo, yinto ebalulekileyo, kodwa kungekudala yonke into iya kuba yindoda, ibe ngumfazi kwaye iya kukhunjulwa zonke iingxaki ngokumomotheka. ecaleni komntu osondeleyo nomthandayo othandayo kakhulu!