Kubafazi abaninzi, ukunqotshwa komntu kuyimfuneko enzima. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni: ngenxa yokungabi nenkalipho nokuzithemba, kunzima ukuqala ubudlelwane obutsha kwaye kubonakale bekhululekile-nokuba kunjani na, ongenamava kwimicimbi ebangelwayo, intombazana idlala ngothando kunye nokukhohlisa kulungele ukuqhuba ukude.
Ngaphandle kokusebenzisa iindlela zokunxibelelana kuphela (iifowuni, intanethi, i-imeyile, iSMS, i-MMS) ibhinqa liyakwazi ukufezekisa impumelelo. Kungakhathaliseki oko akufunayo: nje ngesondo okanye ubudlelwane obusondeleyo - kukho indlela yokuqwalasela umntu kunye nokuthanda ngaphandle kokuba abe neentloni ebusweni bakhe.
Indlela yokukhohlisa umntu ngomagama?
Xa uphuhlisa isicwangciso sokukhohlisa, qalisa ngegama lomntu ofuna. Nabani na umntu okhulileyo uya kujongwa kwaye uyamangaliswa xa ubiza igama lakhe elipheleleyo ngegama elifanelekileyo, ugweme amajelo angabonakaliyo kunye neengxaki ezingafanelekanga. Ukutshatyalaliswa komntu kunceda kakhulu ukufakwa kwexesha elifanelekileyo kwintetho yokusebenza kunye neentlobano zesini. Umzekelo: "Masigqibe ngoku okukhawuleza", "Yiza kufuphi". Zama ukungena ngokungenakuqondakala kwisigwebo ngasinye ubuncinane igama elichaza ukuvakalelwa komzimba: uthinte, isinyithi, uthinte, uthinte, ulume, ususe, ususe, njl. Isiphumo esivela kubo asikubonwa ngokukhawuleza, kodwa qi ni sekise ukuba indlela echanekileyo yokukhwabanisa i-fuel engumnqweno apho indoda ingakwazi ukuyilahleka intloko ngexesha elincinci. Olunye udidi lweempawu ezilingayo liyanconywa. Amagama abathandekayo, athetha ngokunyaniseka okanye ukuhlonipha, anokunandipha indoda nangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ukwabelana ngesondo, inkcazo yokunyamezela kunye ne-indefatigability ilungile. Qaphela nje - ukuncoma kufanele kuhlale kulungelelwanga, ukuze loo nto ingayithathi njengemzamo yokuzichukumisa.
Indlela yokuyengca ngefowuni: iibinzana ezilungeleyo
Xa kungekho mithombo yempembelelo ngaphandle kokuthetha, kunzima umntu ukuba akhohliswe, kodwa unomdla ngakumbi. Umgaqo ophambili kwincoko yefowuni kukunyaniseka, ukuze loo mntu azive ekhethekileyo, othandekayo kwintombazana. Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuba kuzo zonke izihlandlo ibhinqa kufuneka libe nelizwi elilungeleyo, liyanelisa iimfuno zokuziphatha zomntu ukuba ziyimfuneko kwaye luncedo. Imizekelo yamagama anjalo ayaziwa kubo bonke:
- "Ndikulandela, njengodonga lwamatye";
- "Ndiyabulela yonke into endiyenzelayo";
- "Ngaphandle kwakho, ndiziva ndedwa";
- "Ndikuphosakele";
- "Andiyazi into endiya kuyenza ngaphandle kwakho."
Kukho amashumi kunye namakhulu eentlobo zee binzana, kwaye ungaba buvila ukuziphinda rhoqo xa kunesidingo. Ukuzibonakalisa kubonisa ukuba indoda ilahlekelwa ngumdla kwiqabane elingamdumisiyo, ngoko kutheni ukuphinda le mpazamo? Ukudukisa umntu, ngamanye amaxesha ngokwaneleyo kwimeko efanelekileyo ngexesha lofowuni. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba intombazana ekhaya isebenza kwimicimbi esondeleyo, akufanele ixhomeke kwiingxelo zomoya:
- "Andikwazi ukubhala ngoku, ndisekuhlambela";
- "Lindani, ndiye ndimanzi emva kwelawa";
- "Biza kamva, ndimele ndiphazamise";
- "Ngoku ndiya kuvula iwindi, mhlawumbi ndiziva ndishisa", okanye ngokuchaseneyo "Ndiza kuvala iwindi, kubanda kakhulu."
Naluphina iinkcukacha zobomi obusondeleyo kunye neemvakalelo zomzimba ziya kukwenza umntu adibanise, kwaye, ekugqibeleni, kuya kumnceda.
Indlela yokukhohlisa umntu oqolileyo?
Indoda eqolileyo, ngokungafani nabafana abancinci, idinga amandla amaninzi amaninzi, enika amandla okunandipha ubomi. Kwakhona, amadoda aqolileyo ahlukaniswe ngumlingiswa omeleleyo, efuna ukufumana okungakumbi kunokuzama ukutshintsha uhlobo lwakhe. Ngoko ke, ukunyenga umntu oqolileyo, gxininisa ubufazi bakho kunye nobuntu bakhe, uziphathe njengentombazana kwaye ube msinya. Yaye zama ukunyamezela-oqolileyo, ngokukodwa otshatileyo, indoda ayiyi kupheka nje okokuqala.
Ukwehlisa umntu ngeSMS!
Indlela yokulinga efanelekileyo yokubhala imiyalezo emfutshane inokubangela ukuba ubudlelwane bomtshato bubuhlungu. Umntu lowo umyalezo wesicatshulwa ungenako ukumazi umthumeli, kodwa umfazi kufuneka kuqala okokuqala, ubuncinane ekuqaleni, bhala umfanekiso wezengqondo okhethiweyo, ukuze ungenzi amaphutha kumanyathelo okuqala. Ukutshatyalaliswa kwe-SMS kuhlala kuwumdlalo apho igama ngalinye okanye ibinzana ibalulekile. Ukuba lo mntu uzinzithemba, uqondise, ulula-ntliziyo kwaye ujabule, unomdla kwaye umlinge ngesigijimi esingenangqiqo, njengokuthi: "Ndiyaphupha ukuba ndibe nawe embhedeni," okanye "ndithandana nawe ezindlebeni zakho, unokundinceda nale nto?". Ukulungele ngale ndlela ukuya kwintlanganiso, loo mfana uya kufumana ubudlelwane, nantoni na ongayithetha. Indoda enzulu kunye nengqiqo yokunyaniseka ingasebenzi - loo mntu, kunoko, uya kuziva ephosakeleyo kwaye afune ukuphendula. Kumntu osesabayo akazange adibanise ifowuni, kungcono ukutshintsha umyalezo wokuqala okhangayo kwi-banal: "Sawubona. Igama lam (khetha igama) kwaye ndiziva ndedwa. " Umntu ozolile kwaye onzulu, onokuthi ungumntu oyedwa, uhlala wedwa kwaye akayithandi iinkampani ezinomsindo, ngoko kufuneka usebenze ngokufanelekileyo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuthini na ukunyenga umntu nge-SMS: ibhinqa idinga i-time-time sex or romantic relation - kubalulekile ukunyanga lo mdlalo ngokulula, ekubeni ngokwenene kuphela odibanayo kwaye okhungathekileyo ngaphandle kokujonga isini esahlukileyo.