Okokuqala, kufuneka uqokelele iingcinga zakho kwaye uphumule. Kuwusizo phambi komhla ukuba uphephe intloko yezona zihloko eziqhelekileyo, ongayenza incoko engafanelekanga. Ngoko unokuphelisa ukuthula okuhlazo kwaye uguqulele incoko ngendlela efanelekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo sifuna ukwenza impembelelo kumntu omtsha, ukuba avele engcono kunokuba sinyani. Musa ukudlula le nqwenelo. Xa uzama ukulawula imeko, ungazami ukukhokela kwingxoxo. Yenza intetho yakho ibe yintetho encokolayo, kungekhona i-monologue yakho kunye neembonakaliso kunye nokuvuma. Amadoda njengothixo, qwalasela oku. Nangona kunjalo, ukuhlala kunye neentliziyo zibukeka bubuqili emva kwegama ngalinye kwaye ugxininise intloko yakho, nayo ayikufanelekanga.
Musa ukuhamba nomhla, ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nayiphi na ingxaki, ziyeke ngaphandle komnyango, ungazami ukubatshela kunye nesoka lakho, mcele icebiso. Ukuqeshwa kokuqala yithuba elichithwe kakuhle, ubuncinci, kwaye kungenakufumana i-psychoanalyst. Abantu abangaziwa kakhulu abazidinganga iingxaki zomnye. Mhlawumbi baya kukuphulaphula, kodwa kuphela ngokuzimela.
Khumbula izihloko ezingavunyelwe ukuthetha ngomhla wokuqala: ukugula, imali, yakho kunye nobomi obusondeleyo, amadoda akho edlulileyo kunye nobudlelwane naye, ukuhleka ngawaphi na umntu.
Zama ukuphulaphula ngaphezu kokuthetha. Njalo bonke abafazi abazizilumko. Namela ingqalelo nayiphi na into ebonakala yincinci kwintetho enokuthetha ngayo. Yithobela ingqalelo loo ndoda ithetha ngamantombazana akhe adlulileyo. Ukuba uyabaphendula kakubi kubo, ngoko mhlawumbi uya kuthetha ngawe ukuba ubuhlobo bakho buphela.
Ungazami ukuxelela ngolunye ubusuku yonke into malunga nawe: apho ufunda khona, usebenze, uphile, uphile kunye, njl. Okokuqala, awukho kwintatheli-ndlebe. Kwaye, okwesibini, ushiye ubuncinane ulwazi olumalunga nawe ngokwesihlandlo sesibini nolandelayo, uya kuthetha ntoni na? Kwindoda, umfazi ongaziwayo uyamthakazelisa, into engapheliyo. Kwaye ukuba sele usuqala ngomhla wokuqala entendeni yesintu, ngoko ulahlekelwa ngumdla kuwe ngokukhawuleza.
Zama ukufumana izihloko eziqhelekileyo, umdla oqhelekileyo kwingxoxo. Abantu ababelana ngeenjongo kunye neemfuno ezifanayo, bathandwa omnye nomnye.
Ukuthetha ngawe, kuthetha kuphela izinto ezintle ebomini bakho, kodwa ngeyona ndlela idibene neefowenu zangaphambili. Sitshele ngezinto zakho zokuzilibazisa, kodwa ngaphandle kobuxhatshazi, ngokubanzi. Cinga ngezinto ezimbalwa ezihlekisayo, ezihlekisayo ebomini bakho. Amadoda afana namantombazana anengqondo ehlekisayo, abangenako ukwesaba ukuhlambalaza. Sitshele ngempumelelo yakho, impumelelo, kodwa ngaphandle kwe-pathos kwaye uqhayise. Nantoni na oyithethayo, yiba nesimo esihle, akukho zikhalazo.
Xa usuku lwakho luphelile, ngasese, uvelise incoko yakho, khumbula into othethile ngayo ngomfana ngosuku lokuqala. Oku kuya kukunceda wenze umfanekiso oqhelekileyo womntu odibana naye kwaye uhlalutye usuku lwakho. Kwakhona uya kuba nako ukuphawula iimpazamo zakho. Kwaye nangona umhla wokuqala ngowokugqibela, uya kufumana amava anenzuzo kwaye ufumane impendulo kumbuzo: ukuba uthini ngomhla wokuqala kunye nomfana.