Omtsha "ubawo" kwintsapho

Abaninzi abangabhinqa abangabantwana, abanabantwana, bafuna indoda enhle ngokwabo, kunye noyise. Kunzima ukukhula umntwana omnye. Ufuna emva kokulungileyo nokuthembekileyo okungamxhasa nokumkhusela kumaxesha anzima. Ukubonakala komntu omtsha kunempembelelo ethile kwintsapho yakho encinci. Okhethiweyo wakho makabe esondela kumntwana kwaye ungaphuli kuwo. Kwakhona, unxibelelwano lomntwana kunye nonina wakhe wesibini luxhomekeke ekubeni uxoxisana noyise.

Ukuba umyeni wakho wangaphambili ungumntu oqhelekileyo, akayiphuzi, anele kwaye ufuna ukubona umntwana wakho emva kokuqhawula umtshato, ndicinga ukuba akufanele sithintele oku. Kuye kufuneka ubeke zonke iimeko zokunxibelelana naye nomntwana wakho oqhelekileyo. Zama ukungena kubantu ngabanye uze ungaphosisi, kunye nokwakha izithintelo ezinokuthintela ukunxibelelana kwabo.

Ukuba ubaba oyimvelo uya kuba yinto embi ngokubonakala komntu wesinye umntu kunye lwakho nosana, ngoko uyiphathe ngokufanelekileyo. Emva kwakho konke, uhlala uqaphela indlela abayeni abahlala beba ngayo abantwana babo kumama wabo kwaye oku kuphelisa ngokubuhlungu. Ukuze ugweme iimeko ezinjalo, ungavumi ukuba uyihlo abone umntwana wakhe.

Ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna ukubiza uyise ngokwakhe, zama ukuphazamisa oku.

Kwaye uyise ongumama, unokubiza ngegama okanye ubiza uyise ukuba umntwana uyavuma ukuba uya kuba nobawo ababini. Kwakhona, vumela umyeni wakho wangaphambili ukuba athathe inxaxheba ebomini bomntwana wakho, kukunceda ngezinye iinkxalabo. Umzekelo, ukuhamba naye, kukhokelela kumacandelo athile kunye nezinto. Xa iqabane lakho okanye umyeni wakho wokwenene uthenge isipho kumntwana, xelela yakho yinkwenkwe yangaphambili xa efumanisa komnye umntu engacingi.

Indlela yokwazisa ngokufanelekileyo umntwana kumyeni wakho ozayo? Ukuba umntwana usemncinci, malunga neminyaka emihlanu ubudala, ngoko uyaziqhelanisa ngokuthe ngcembe, musa ukukhawuleza. Iintlanganiso zihlelwe kungekhona ekhaya, kodwa kwenye indawo, zithi epakini, xa uhamba okanye kwikhafefe. Xa indoda yangaphandle ivela kwindawo apho umntwana ekhona khona, kuya kutshatyalaliswa ngumntwana kwaye akayi kusondela kuye. Indoda kufuneka ubonise ukuba imbono yengane yakho ibalulekile kuwe kwaye awukwazi ukuyinika. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyaqaphela ukuba awukhathali ngqalelo kuye, kodwa uhlawula yonke ingqalelo "kumalume", ngoko uya kuqala ukungahambi kakuhle, ukukhuthaza ukugula nokunye.

Xa umntwana wakho sele ejwayele ukuhamba naye, uya kumbuza ukuba akayikukhumbuza ukuba lo "malume" uya kukuvakashela. Ukuba intlanganiso iyenzeka, shiya kubo imizuzu embalwa yedwa, mayeke ukutshintshana, bathethe. Ungathumela umntwana wakho naye kwindawo ethile, yithi, esitolo kwisonka. Ngoko banokusondela. Ukuba umntwana wakho unentloni, ungakhathazeki, ufuna ixesha lokuba asebenzise enye indoda.

Ukuba umntwana akafuni ukumbiza ngokuthi "daddy", musa ukunyanzelisa. Makhe abize ngegama okanye umalume. Njalo unakekele umntwana wakho, ungalibali ngaye.