Umtshato, amadoda kunye nabasetyhini baphathwa ngokuhlukileyo. Abasetyhini abaninzi ukususela ebuntwaneni baphupha ukuba babe ngumtshakazi. Kodwa abanakufumana umntu ohloniphekileyo ukuba ahambe phantsi kwesithsaba. Kodwa kunzima kakhulu kumadoda ukufumana umngane wobomi kunowesifazane. Abasetyhini sele beyazi ukuba ngubani umyeni wakhe wekamva. Ziziphi iimpawu afanele ukuba nazo kunye neliphi iimeko afanele ukuba nazo. Kwaye amadoda malunga nomfazi wexesha elizayo bacinga njalo: akafanele abe nomona, ehamba. Ufanele abe ngumlingo, enemilenze emnandi, umzimba nomphefumlo. Bazama ukufumana yabo kuphela, badibana entlango yolwalamano lwabafazi abahlukeneyo. Bahlala bedidekile ngabo, abafumani oko bafuna okanye balindele.
Kodwa zonke ezo mpawu abantu abazicingayo, umfazi kufuneka abe neyakhe, uyanzima ubomi bethu kunye nabo. Amadoda awayikuvavanya kakuhle iimpawu ocinga ukuba zilungele kuwe. Kwaye abayi ku kutshata nawe.
Amadoda alungele naliphi na ixesha ukuyeka umsebenzi wabo kwaye enze enye into. Bakulungele ukuthuthela kwelinye ilizwe. Abasetyhini abaninzi sele balungele ukuvumelana nesi sigqibo. Kodwa oku kakubi. Ewe, indoda iya kuvuya ukuba intombazana ilungele ukumlandela ukuya ekupheleni kwehlabathi, kodwa akayi kutshata. Bakulungele ukudibanisa ubomi babo kunye nomntu onokumkhawulela, umgatye kwesi sigqibo.
Amadoda athetha abafazi abazimisele ukulala ngesondo. Amadoda kwintsapho awakuthandi abafazi abakulungele ukungena kwiqabana lokunyamezela phantsi koxinzelelo, okanye ngubani olungele ukubandakanya nanini nayiphi na imini nawuphi na ummandla. Umtshato ngaye ngowokuqala ukuqonda.
Amadoda, njengokuba uyazi, angathandi umona ogqithiseleyo, kodwa ukungabikho kwakhe akukhangeli. Ufuna umfazi onokuzimela aze azilungiselele ulonwabo.
Ukuba umfazi engonwabanga yena ngokwakhe, umsebenzi wakhe nokuziphatha kwakhe, oku kuya kumnxusa indoda. Kwakhona, isimo sengqondo esingathandekiyo kumntu siya kuba yiphutha lakhe elibulalayo. Bakulungele ukufaka iigxalaba zabo ezinzima ngexesha, kunzima. Ukungafani nobuntu bomntu kuya kumsongela.
Ukuba umntu uzonxila aze ahlaziye kwaye aziphathe kakubi, akufanele uphenduke amehlo. Kodwa ungaqali ukuhlambalaza kunye nokutshatyalaliswa naye. Mthintele imeko okanye ushiye umkhwenkwe wakho ngomso, ulungiselele i-swagger enhle.
Zama ukukhathaza indoda rhoqo, uyibiza ngaphandle kwesizathu. Oku kunokukhokelela ekubeni uyatshintsha ingqondo yakhe ngokutshata. Kwakhona, ibhinqa kufuneka lihlale lizinyamekela, ngakumbi xa umntu exakekile okanye ediniwe. Kodwa into ephambili akuyikuyidlula ukuze umntu wakho angakukhangeli kwaye akhathazeki.