Ngamnye wethu, ukuya kwisayithi ukukhuphela umculo okanye i-movie, ubuncinane xa ufumana ulwazi malunga nomxholo woonopopasho. Oku akumangalisi, kuba ishishini loonografi lizisa inzuzo enkulu. Ukugqithiswa okunjalo kweziza zoononophelo kwakungqiniswanga nje ngeentengiso ezibanzi ezinikezela ngeenkonzo zabo, kodwa kwanomdla woluntu kwizinto eziphathekayo zolu hlobo. Njengoko bethetha, ukuba kukho imfuno, kuya kuba ne-offer. Kutheni le ndlela yokuthabatha umdla inomdla kuninzi?
Idatha yesatisti
Ngokomphandi, i-30% yeenkcukacha ezithunyelwe kwi-Intanethi yi-pornographic. Ngama-40% wabasebenzisi benethiwekhi bavakashela ezo ziza kwaye bahlala khona imizuzu engama-15 ubude kuneendawo eziqhelekileyo. Ngoko, kwisibini yesiqhelo esithandwa kakhulu se-porno nsuku zonke malunga neephepha ezigidi ezili-100 zijongwa. Ngenxa yokuba le nkcukacha ziqokelelwa ngo-2005, umntu unokuqiqa ukuba kaninzi kangakanani la manani anyukile ngaphezu kweminyaka engama-7 edluleyo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba nabani na oya kukwazi ukunciphisa okanye ukunciphisa ukuphuhliswa kwemboni yezobisi. Amashishini amakhulu asebenza kulo malunga neebhiliyoni ezili-12 zamaRandi ngonyaka.
Kuyathakazelisa into yokuba bonke abatyeleli besithathu kwiindawo zoononondazi ngumfazi. Uphononongo lubonise ukuba e-US kunye namazwe athile aseYurophu, ama-96% abathathi-nxaxheba bavame ukutyelela ii-pornos sites. 67% bavakatye ubuncinane kanye ngenyanga.
Eli nqaku liza kuxubusha ngezizathu zokuba abantu bebukele iilori. Uphando lwesigqibo esihle sabantu lenze ukuba kube lula ukufumanisa izizathu ezi-8 eziphambili ezichaza intsingiselo yabesifazane abathile kwimibala engamanyala.
Umnqweno wokwanelisa isidingo ngokwesini ngaphandle kwamadoda
Njengoko uyazi, ukunganeliseki ngokwesini kunempembelelo embi kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo zowesifazane. Kukhokelela kwizifo, iintsholongwane, ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa. Ngamanye amaxesha amabhinqa kwimeko enjalo ayinto engaphezulu kwengozi kuluntu. Yintoni esinokuyenza ukukhusela oku?
Abaxhasi baFrud bacebisa ukuba bavuselele amandla abo ekusebenziseni ubuchule okanye omnye umsebenzi. Kodwa akusiwo wonke umntu okwazi ukudweba, ukugcoba, njl njl kwaye andithandi ukwenza konke. Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa kubantu abangenalo imfuno ekhethekileyo. Ngoko ke, ekujonge kule vidiyo, banikezela ukuphuma kwamandla okulala ngokwesondo kunye nokukhawuleza okwexeshana.
Misa phambi kwesiganeko esikhethekileyo
Ukuze udibanise kwisiganeko esikhethekileyo, amanye amantombazana abuye abukele iipopayi. Ingaba ngumhla, isidlo kunye nomyeni wakhe okanye ukuya kwiklabhu enomgomo othize, loo vidiyo ibancedisa ekunciphiseni ukuxhatshazwa ngaphambi "kwesiganeko" esizayo.
Ithuba lokufunda amatsha amatsha
Abanye basebenzisa imifanekiso engamanyala njengesikhokelo, njengomyalelo wemfundo yesondo. Izinto ezifundwayo zingasetyenziswe kamva kwizibini zobomi ngokwesini.
Abazange bafumaneke kulo mkhakha abantu banokufunda ulwazi olutsha kunye nokuqala ukuluqonda ngokukodwa ubuncinane. Kamva, kwimeko yokwenene, intombazana iya kuziva ilula kwaye igweme ukunyakaza okungadingekile.
Ukufezekiswa kweengcamango
Amantombazana angayifumananga enye yeemfuno zabo zesini ngenxa yobuhlamba, okanye ukungabikho kwamathuba okwangoku, bakhetha ukuba ubuncinane babone indlela abanye abenza ngayo.
Ukongeza ubukhali kulwalamano
Ezinye izibini zitshatile ukubukela iividiyo ze-porn ukufumana iimvakalelo ezintsha. Ububudlelwane obude, ubomi bobulili bunokuxhatshazwa, kwaye xa bebukela iividiyo, loo mbhangqwana ufumana umthamo omtsha wolonwabo, obangela uhlobo oluthile lokuphila kwabo ngokwesondo.
Ukubonisa ukunyanzelwa kwabo ngokwesondo okanye ukubuyisela ukunganeliseki kwabo
Abanye abantu baneengxaki zokuziphatha ngokwezesondo ezahlukeneyo. Ngokomzekelo, kukho ukuphambukiswa, njengomnqweno wokubambisana nomntu wesini somntu okanye ukuthintela izitho zobundlobongela phantsi kweengubo. Njengokuba uluntu alugwebi ukubonakaliswa kwaloo mpazamo, baya kuhlala bekhona. Ukuba umntu onokrexeza ngokwesondo usengatshatanga, unokufumana iingxaki ezinkulu kulwalamano. Ukuze kuphephe imiphumo emibi yokuphambukiswa ngokwesini, abantu abanjalo bajonga iividiyo zoononophelo baze baveze amandla abo ngokwesini.
Ukongezelela, elowo uneepesenti ethile yokuphambuka. Omnye unokuningi, umntu unomncinci.
Jabulela phambi kwesondo
Ezinye iimbini ezingenayo ingxaki zesini, jonga iividiyo kunye ne-porno ukuya kwilizwe elifunekayo, oko kukuthi, ukuvuya. Baphinde basebenzise njengemvelaphi yesini, okwenza ixesha elide ligcine imeko yokuzonwabisa.
Fumana injabulo yokuzonwabisa
Kanye njengamadoda, amantombazana angabuka amavidiyo angamanyala ngenxa yokuba ihle kubo. Amanye amavidiyo angamanyala anesicatshulwa esicatshulwa kakuhle kwaye adutshulwa ngokulinganayo ngokulinganayo kunye neendlela ezimbalwa ezingafaniyo ezahlukeneyo ezibekwe kwinethiwekhi.
Iingcali ezininzi zamangaliswa kukuba abanye ababhinqa babonayo i-porn kuphela ngenxa yokuzonwabisa kwabo. I-Specializing in education sexuality, Ph.D., i-Logan Levkof, ngokuchaseneyo, ithetha ukungabi ncamango kwengcamango yokuba i-porn ikhona kuphela kubayeni nabasetyhini, oku akunakwenzeka. Ngokutsho kwakhe, abaninzi abafazi banomdla kule nto kwaye baxubusha iminqweno yabo yesondo kunye nomnye.
Izizathu zokuba kutheni amantombazana kunye namadoda atyelela iisayithi zezinto eziphathekayo zoononophala zingahluka. Bonke ngabanye. Abantu abakhetha ukhetho olunjalo alukho ukuphambuka okukhulu, njengokungathi abachasileyo bezocografi. Abantu abanjalo abafumani ukwamkelwa kwamaninzi kwaye babonwa njengengozi kuluntu. Kodwa kunobungozi kakhulu ukucinga abantu abaneengxaki zesini zesipodavlennymi.
Ukuba ungomnye walabo abaya kwiimviwo ezifanayo, kufuneka unamathele kwi-golden mean. Musa ukukhawuleza. Ungaze uqhathanise iqabane lakho kunye nomdlali we-video ye-porno. Oku kunokubangela ukuba azikhukhumeze aze akhokele ekuxabaneni. Ngaphezu koko, akufanelekile ukubeka endaweni yabo ngobomi bakho bobulili.
Eli nqaku alinakukunyanzela ukuba ukhangele iifostile, kodwa akayikukhupha. Unikwe kuphela ulwazi olunokukunceda ufumane iimpendulo kwimibuzo enokukukhathazayo. Mhlawumbi uqonda kakuhle umnqweno wakho wesondo.