Ngokomyinge wepesenteji, inani labantwana abaneengxaki ezahlukeneyo zeengqondo zenyuka kakhulu. Iingcali zichonga iingxaki ezimbini ezibalulekileyo, malunga nokunyuka kwinani labantwana abanzima.
Isizathu sokuqala - izinto eziza kubakho komzimba, zibandakanya iimeko ezinobungozi, imimiselo emibi kunye nezifo ezingapheliyo zikamama ngexesha lokukhulelwa, izinga eliphantsi lokuphila komnotho-qoqosho, ukukhathazeka okukhulu komama ngethuba lokuzala umntwana, ukuxhwaleka xa bebeletha.
Isizathu sesibini esikhuliswayo, esi sizathu sinokuhlukaniswa kwemimiselo ibe sesibini. Ukungabikho kwengqwalasela eyiyo kwinkqubo yemfundo kwimindeni enokwenza kakuhle, apho abazali bezinikezela ngokupheleleyo kwimisebenzi, kwaye umntwana uyaqhubeka ngaphandle kokuthatha inxaxheba. Kwaye ukhetho lwesibini, xa umntwana ehlala kwintsapho engasebenzi, apho abazali bekhokelela indlela yokuphila kwaye abafundanga umntwana wabo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba zeziphi izizathu zokuba umntu omncinci eba nzima, ibonakaliswa yimpawu eziqhelekileyo. Aba bantwana bahluke kwiontanga zabo ekuziphatheni nasekuphuhliseni, njengomthetho, banomdla, banomdla, bavaliwe kwaye baxhalabile. Bahlala bexabana nabafundisi, abazali, ootitshala kunye noontanga. Ngenxa yesiphoso sabo, kukho ukusilela kwimisebenzi yenzululwazi nemfundo yamaqela abantwana, ingaba isikolo okanye i-kindergarten. Ngenxa yoko, isimo sengqondo sotitshala, kunye nabazali, sihlahloka, umphumo we "snowball" uphuma, xa i-negative nge-round round of events igxininisa ngakumbi.
Indima yabazali kwimfundo yabantwana abanzima inkulu, ukuba ayithethi into ephambili. Ngoko ke makhe sibone oko kuthatha ukuba bazi abazali ababanzima. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abanobunzima bomntwana "obunzima," kunye neendlela ezifanelekileyo zemfundo kunye kunye nenkxaso yenani leengcali (i-psychoneurologist, i-psychologist yengane, ootitshala, ootitshala) baba ngabantu abaqhelekileyo kunye nabahlali ngokubanzi, kwaye ezinye iinkalo zombutho we-nervous system zilawulwa ngobuchule kwaye zincedo namhlanje , ihlabathi eliphuculayo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ekubunjweni kobuntwana "obunzima" lubuhlobo obufudumele, obuqondayo kwintsapho, phakathi komntwana nomzali, phakathi kwabazali bobabini. Kwiimeko apho kungekho nxu lumano, intsapho isecaleni somtshato okanye umtshato, oku akuchaphazeli imeko yomntwana. Umntwana uya kuba engaphinde alawulwe kwaye akwanele, okuchaphazela ukuziphatha kunye nobudlelwane kubambiswano.
Ngoko, yintoni enye efunekayo ukuba wazi abazali bezingane ezinzima? Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali bazama ukufakela zonke iimpawu zomntwana wabo kumagxa azinzi ze-neurologists, kodwa esi sigulo, njengazo zonke ezinye izifo zomntu, siphathwa ngendlela enzima kwaye kuthatha imishanguzo enqunywe ngugqirha yincinci encinane yento umntwana ayifunayo ukuphuhliswa kakuhle. Ngoku kukho isidingo sokwenza le ndlela enzima, eya kubandakanya, njengabazali ngokwabo, oogqirha kunye nootitshala, kunye nolwazi lwabo nezakhono kuya kunceda umntu omncinci ukuba abe ilungu elipheleleyo loluntu, okwazi ukufumana imfundo esemgangathweni kunye nokudala Ingqungquthela efana nomgangatho wesantlalontle njengentsapho.
Okokuqala, abazali kufuneka bamise oonxibelelwano kunye nabantwana babo, bathethe ngakumbi nabo, babuze imibuzo malunga nokukhathazeka kwabo kunye neminqweno yabo, bavakalise izimvo zabo kule nto, banike imizekelo ebuntwaneni babo, ubazise ukuba unjani i-collide, iyenzeka kuwo wonke umntu kwaye abaninzi banqoba ezi ngxaki. Ukongezelela, abazali kufuneka bahambelane nombono omnye kunye nomgaqo-nkqubo ekukhulisweni komntwana, i-toga izakusindisa yonke intsapho kwimibango engadingekiyo ekhokelela ekubambiseleni ubudlelwane. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abazi indlela yokulahla iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo, ezi zinto zingenakuncediswa kuphela ngabafundisi, kodwa nabazali, basebenzise iindlela zokubhaliweyo ngokusebenzisa ubugcisa (ukudweba, imodeli, njl.). Ngokombono weengqondo ze-psychologists, kwifom echanekileyo kuyimfuneko ukunciphisa ixesha lokuba umntwana ahambe emva kweTV kunye nekhompyutheni, akusiyo imfihlelo yokuba aba "bahlobo" babecala ngokugqithiseleyo ingqondo engabonakaliyo yengqondo yabantwana. Ngoko ke, esikhundleni somntu omdala ukuba enze ishishini lakhe, kwaye umntwana ukuba athumele ikhompyutha, ngaloo ndlela alahlekise ubukho bakhe, kungcono ukufumana isizathu esifanayo, kule njongo, iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zezithethe ezide zikhohliweyo (ezi ziza kubakho iindwendwe ezidibeneyo kwiivenkile, ii-movie, epakini, ukucoca indlu). Ukuba kunokwenzeka, abazali bafanele bathathe inxaxheba kubomi bokudibanisa beklasini okanye iqela lomntwana wabo, ngoko baya kukwazi ukuqonda oko umntwana wabo anomdla kuzo kwaye abahlala kuyo, bona iingxaki zokuthetha kwakhe kunye notitshala kunye nabafundi abalingana nabo kunye nokuthatha amanyathelo afanelekileyo ekupheliseni. Abazali bafanele ukuba bahambisane nezenzo zabo nezenzo zabo, njengoko beyimzekelo yokulingisa.
Umntu omdala ofuna ukunyanisekileyo uncedo "umntwana onzima" kufuneka ahlale elungele ukumnceda nokumphulaphula, ukumhlonela nokumthemba, ukunika lonke uthando lwakhe nomsa. Kodwa naye kufuneka afune kwaye angazikhangeli ekumiseni umyalelo kunye nemithetho.