Ukuzalwa komntakwabo omncinci okanye udade ohlala esicinezelekileyo esithile kumntwana osekhulile ngoku. Ngenxa yoko, abazali abaninzi banomdla wokulungiselela umntwana omdala ngokuzalwa komntwana omncinci. Abazali banako ukunceda abantu abemi bomthonyama ukuba bamkele kwaye bathandane!
C ukuzalwa komntwana wesibini, amazibulo ekugqibeleni aze atshintshe indima yomntu omnye kumsebenzi womdala. Kwiminyaka emininzi ayengenayo umntwana omdala, kuya kuthatha ixesha lokuba afunde ukuphila ngemithetho emitsha. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - ukukholelwa ukuba ngokuzalwa kwesinye isana, uthando lwabazali aluhlulelani ezimbini, kodwa luphindaphinda.
Abazali kwafuneka banqobe ekusebenzeni ubuninzi beengxaki ezazibonakala zingenakulinganiswa nokufika kwamazibulo. Ukongeza kwimisebenzi esele iyaqhelana noomama nabantwana abancinci, ngeli xesha elinye liya kudibaniswa: ukudala indawo yokuthembela kunye nentuthuzelo phakathi komdala nomntwana omncinane. Iingcali zengqondo zicetyiswa ukuba zixelele umntwana malunga nokuzaliswa kwakhona kwentsapho ngokukhawuleza. Akuyimfuneko ukungena kwipeyinti engavumelekanga yomzimba, kodwa iindaba zobuqhetseba nge-stork zifanelekanga nakwiimvumba ezineminyaka elilodwa. Xelela inyaniso-kwifom efikeleleke kumntwana, ukumlungiselela ukuzalwa komncinci kwangaphambili.
Nangona abazali begqiba ngesizathu esithile sokugcina imfihlo yokukhulelwa ixesha, umntwana uya kuziva ukuba into ebalulekileyo yenzeka kwintsapho. Ukungayiqondi into ephosakeleyo, i-crumb iyakwazi ukuxhalabisa, ukuxhatshazwa. Ekugqibeleni, unokuziva engakufanelekanga ukuba abazali bakhe bathemba. Ngoko ke, kungcono ukuxelela umntwana ukuba umama oswini unomzalwana omncinane okanye udade. Cacisa ukuba ngoku kuncinane kakhulu - ayikho enye ibhontshisi. Kodwa yonke imihla ikhula, kwaye "indlu" yayo iya kuba enkulu. Ukuba awukwazi ukuba ungaqala kuphi, jonga ulwazi kwii-encyclopaedias malunga nemfundo yesondo yomntwana.
Iingcebiso zeengqondo:
- Hlanganisa kwi-positive! Umntwana omdala unomona ongaphantsi kwabazali kuba mncinci - le mpendulo iyabonakala kubantwana abaninzi. Kodwa kukho ukungafani! Ngako oko, musa ukulungelelanisa ukubonakaliswa okungahambiyo kokuqala: abayi kuba. Umthetho kwiimeko. Iingxelo ezinjengokuthi "Emva kokuzalwa komntwana, thina kunye noPapa ngeke sikuthande kangangoko" kungcono ukuthatha indawo engcono kakhulu: "Xa usana luzalwe, siya kulawulwa amaqebelengwane amnandi kakhulu!". Okanye: "Ugogo uya kuza kusityelela inyanga kwaye akuxelele zonke iindaba zakho ezizithandayo!"
- Ukulungiswa kwindlela yokuphila akuphepheki. Zonke iinguqu ezibalulekileyo ngendlela eqhelekileyo - umzekelo, ukuvela kwe-nanny entsha, ukungena kwi-kindergarten, isikolo-mhlawumbi senziwa ngaphandle kweenyanga kunye nesiqingatha ngaphambi kokuziswa. Okokuqala, iingcinezelo ezimbini (ukubonakala komntwana osanda kuzalwa kwindlu kunye nokulungelelanisa ne-kindergarten) ziya kutshatyalaliswa ngexesha. Ngoko, umntwana uya kubakhuthaza ngokulula. Okwesibini, ukuba unika umntwana wokuqala kwi-kindergarten emva kokuzalwa komntwana wesibini, unokufumana ukuba ngaba abazali bafuna ukumbulala.
- Kwabantwana, iibhere zeeteddy kunye neetreni azizona nje amathoyizi, bangabangani bokwenene! Sebenzisa le nto ukuze ukwandise umlinganiselo wokubaluleka kwintsana. Xa uye esibhedlele, xelela umntwana ukuba kutheni ufuna, ndixelele ubude bakho buza kuhlala ixesha elingakanani. Masibeke ithoyizi yakhe eyintandokazi esikhwameni sakho - ucezu lwakhe luthando luya kuba yinkxaso yakho! Qala "isikhwama sesipho" ekhaya - ngezikhathi ezithile, faka i-trifle enhle kumdala (imoto, i-pupa, i-candy). Vumelana kuphela ukuba kwisikhwama sezipho awukwazi ukubheka ngaphezu koko, zithi, nganye iintsuku ezintathu.
Iingxaki kunye nesisombululo seentsuku zokuqala neveki
Ukunyamekela intsana kuthatha ixesha elininzi kunye namandla. Ungazami ukuba nexesha lokulungisa yonke imicimbi nayiphi na indleko. Kungcono ukuthatha umoya ocolileyo, ukhulule kwaye wabelane nabantwana bakho uthando lwakho! Iimidlalo eziphuhlisayo ezithuthukayo zifufumla kwikhoneni elide, kwaye isicelo somntwana omdala ukuxelela elinye ibali ngaphambi kokulala embonakala ngathi lihlekisayo? Lapha, ubuncinci ukuba ube nexesha lokushuqa iipuni ezimbalwa ze-porridge ibe ngowokuqala, kwaye ugijimise kwisitya phakathi kokusondeza nokunyamekela umntwana osana! Yeka! Ngomnqweno wokwenza konke ngendlela engcono, ungalibali malunga nento ephambili: uthando aludingi ixesha elilodwa. Ingabonakaliswa ngokoqobo ngomzuzu. Ngaba uncelisa? Mxelele ngeli xesha ityala lezingane kumntwana omdala. Ayikho ixesha lokukhanda kunye kwiplastiki? Thenga intlama ekulungele ukulungiswa - kwaye ngelixa uwenza umsebenzi wesikolo, makumvumele umdala ukuba aqheke iifomfayile kwintlama okanye ukubunjwa kwama-pretzels. Beka kwiphepha lokubhaka, ufafaze nge-sinamoni kwaye ubhake-imizuzu engama-20. Yaye isidlo sakusihlwa silungile! Ixesha elinjalo lokudibanisa liza kunceda umntwana omdala ukuba afundeke aze amthande omncinci.
Iingcebiso zeengqondo:
- Ukuba oko kunokwenzeka, makumbone umntwana omdala akubone wena kunye nosana olusesikweni esibhedlele (okanye ufike ekukhutsheni). Ewe, ngoku ingqalelo yakho ingqalelo yintsana, kodwa asimele sikhohlwe ngamava okuzalwa. Cinga ukuba uya kuba nolonwabo xa wena kunye nomyeni wakho niyilungiselela isipho kuye ngokuhlonipha ukuba ngoku yena ngowona mdala! Kwaye kuya kuba mnandi kuye ukubona ukuba ufake isithombe sakhe okanye udwebe etafileni yokulala esibhedlele! Mbonise umntakwabo okanye udade omncinci, ndivumele ukuba ndithinte izibambo kunye nezithende ezincinci. Ngexesha elifanayo, cacisa ukuba xa nje umntwana engadla kuphela, wakhala kunye nenkohlakalo - kodwa emva kwexesha izinto ezininzi ezithakazelisayo ziza kudibanisa kuloluhlu. Yilungele kwaye inyaniso yokuba inzala yokuqala ayikwazi ukwabelana ngolonwabo ngumzali ngenxa yexuba elixubha. Inkwenkwe yaphuma ngaphandle egumbini ngezinyembezi, yenqaba ukuqhelana nosana olutsha, mhlawumbi lwabonisa ubundlobongela kuwe okanye i-crumb. Ungayisebenzisi kakubi umntwana kwaye ungazithukutheli - mnike ithuba lokuhlala ezi zivakalelo ezixakekileyo: indlela kuphela yokukwazi ukujamelana nayo. Ndikholelwe, kuya kuba yithuba elifutshane kakhulu, kwaye abantwana bakho abayi kuba namanzi!
- Eyokuqala, iintsuku ezinzima emva kokukhupha esibhedlele, kubonakala ukuba umdala wenza oko kanye, okuthintela: ujika ngaphantsi kweenyawo zakhe, akanakwenzeka. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba lukhulu kangakanani isilingo sokusinika kwiiveki ezimbalwa "ukutyelela" kunyoko, zama ukukwenza. Akunandaba, ukuba awuyi kuphinda uhambele umdala kunye ne-raznosolami okanye ubalekele ukumlungiselela ama-pajamas ahlambulukileyo. Kodwa umntwana akayi kuziva ephihliwe kwaye engadingekile. Yaye ukuba ugogo ufuna ukukunceda, mema ekhaya lakho.
- Emva kokuzalwa komntakwabo okanye udade omncinci, abantwana asebekhulile bavame ukubonisa indlela ebizwa ngokuba yi-regressive behavior. Ngokukhawuleza baqala ukukhwela kuzo zonke iine, "zenze" kwiipasties, zithinte ukutya kunye nepuni uze ufikelele kwibhotile yebhotile. Baxelisa omncinci ukuba "afanelwe" uthando lomzali. Thatha lula. Musa ukukhuthaza le midlalo, kodwa ungagxininisi ukuba umntwana aziphathe ngokubhekiselele kwiminyaka yakhe. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza yonke into iza kubuya kwisiqhelo.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngokufika kwintsana ebomini bomntwana kwimpilo yomntwana omdala, kukho ukunciphisa. Nangona kunjalo, zama ukuwabonisa ukuze amazibulo angenayo imvakalelo yokuba ukususela ngoku ufanele ayenze kuzo zonke iifom. Ngokomzekelo, endaweni yokuxhoma umntwana, mnike umdala ukukunceda. Makhe amanqule kwi-spade encinane, anike ithayile ecocekileyo, isasaze i-cream cream (udibaniso olunxulumene naye).
Indlela ulwalamano phakathi kwabantwana oluza kubakhiwa luxhomekeka ngokukodwa kwimeko yengqondo yengqondo kwintsapho. Umahluko kuminyaka awunzima. Nangona kunjalo, ezinye zeendlela ezinxulumene nazo, kuyafaneleka ukuqikelela:
Mozulu. Umnyaka-mali uza kufakwa ngokukhawuleza ekubonakaleni komntakwabo okanye udade omncinci, ngokukhawuleza baba ngabahlobo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo baya kudlala kunye. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngoku ukuba umzimba wakho uphila ukusuka ekuzalweni kwangoku, udinga uncedo ngokukodwa. Umncedisi (nanny okanye ugogo) uya kubakhokelela ngokubanzi ubomi bakho!
3-4 iminyaka . Umntwana okhulileyo uhamba ngolo hlobo olubizwa ngokuba yingxaki yeminyaka emithathu-kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kukhokelela ekuphatheni okumhlophe kumntu onobubele be-phlegmatic parents. Unokufumana ukulungelelanisa: zama yonke imihla ukunika ixesha, oza kuchitha kuphela nomdala. Futhi musa ukushiya abantwana bodwa ngaphandle kokulawulwa kwimizuzu embalwa: abaneminyaka emithathu ubudala abaneminyaka engaboni ngokupheleleyo imiphumo yezenzo zabo.
6-7. Kwakhona yinkinga enzima kumntwana omdala: uya esikolweni, ahlangane nokuhlukana kwengqondo kubazali bakhe. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuyo yonke indlela enokukhuthaza ukubonakaliswa kokuzimela kumdala. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngezikhathi ezithile, mnike ithuba lokuba "mncinci"; masizihlekise, ungahambi olunye usuku esikolweni.
Ngaphezulu kweminyaka eyi-10. Abazali babonakala bephinde bava nolutsha lwabo - kwaye luyamangalisa! Umntwana wokuqala unokuzimela ngokuzimeleyo kunye nokuhlwa kwasemini ukuze ashushu, kwaye ahlambulule izinto, kunye nebhokhwe yokudlala. Nangona kunjalo, inkxaso yakho yemoya kumntwana omdala isadingeka. Jonga kwimicimbi yakhe yesikolo, fumana ixesha lokuphulaphula ukuvuma ngesothando lokuqala - kwaye ukuthembela phakathi kwakho kuya kuqiniswa kuphela.
Iingxaki nezisombululo zonyaka wokuqala
Kunyaka emva kokuzalwa komntwana omncinane, abantwana bayakha ubudlelwane babo. Umdala uya kuba mnandi ngakumbi ukuthetha kunye nomncinci: apha waya kwisibhedlele, kwaye intombazana leyo yamomotheka kuye, yabamba izandla. Kupholile: ukuqonda ukuba ngokungenangqiqo uyigunya kunye nesithixo! Umntwana omdala Unokuziva unomona kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uphukise abazali. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba empeleni umntu omncinci uphenduka waba yi-monster kungekhona ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukukucaphukisa. Injongo ephambili yezinto ezintle kwaye "nechohuchi" ukuqinisekisa ukuba abazali bayamthanda ngaphambili. Ngoko ke, musa ukukhangela imbonakalo yothando - ukunyamekela kunye nomsa ongenakunceda!
Iingcebiso zeengqondo
- Khumbuza umdala malunga neenzuzo zesimo sakhe. Unokwazi ukutya kakade i-strawberries, ngelixa ubuncinci ubisi lobomama kunye neesobho. Yena, njengomntu omdala, uye e-cinema nakwimidlalo, ukhetha amathoyizi akhe, unceda unina. Kodwa musa ukufuna kuye ukuba ngumdala! Ngamanye amaxesha ungahlekisa ukuthetha into efana nale: "Lindela umzuzu, ndiya kugcwalisa i-plate ngokutya komntakwenu omkhulu (odade), kwaye ndiza kutshintsha i-diaper yakho."
- Zenzele nomthi omdala osapho lwakho. Dweba kwiphepha elikhulu le-Whatman, kunye namahlamvu, unamathisele iifoto zonke zamalungu entsapho. Xa umntwana ebona ukuba bobabini kunye nomntakwabo (udade) ziyinxalenye yendlu enkulu yentsapho, oku kuya kubangela ukuba kube nobumbano kunye nokubumbana.
- Umntwana ophezulu unyanzelekile rhoqo kusasa ukuba aphume ebhedini elifudumeleyo, agqoke aze aye kwi-kindergarten okanye kwisikolo. Kwaye umntwana omncinci angakwazi ukulala kuze kube semini kwaye angahlukaniswa nonina ngomzuzu. Kakade ke, ucaphukisa! Ngexesha ngamaxesha, cwangcisa "iholide engachangekanga": ubuncinane kanye ngenyanga, thabatha umdala ukusuka kwintsimi (esikolweni) ekuqaleni. Kwaye kwanokukhululeka ngokupheleleyo kwizifundo. Le mini, esichithwa kunye nosapho, ngelixa abanye ontanga badla i-porridge kwishedyuli okanye bahlala kwiidesiki, baya kuba yeholide lomntwana.
"Xa umntwana efunda ukuhamba, uphando lwakhe luya kuba lukhuni." Uya kuqalisa ukunyathela kwiimpawu zomntwana okhulileyo, aphule iincwadi zakhe aze ahlakaze abamakishi. Zama ukuqiniseka ukuba indawo ekhoyo yokuhlala yomdala (kungakhathaliseki ukuba igumbi labucala okanye itafile yangasese), akukho mntu udibene ngaphandle kwemfuno. Akunjalo wena okanye umninawa okanye udade wakho. Isiqhelo somncinci kunazo zonke kwigama elithi "akunakwenzeka." Ngoku abantwana bafunda "ukwabelana" nabazali babo kwaye bafumana ukunyaniseka. Iinyembezi kunye nokulwa kule nqanaba ziphantse ziphephe. Ndikholelwe, kwixesha elizayo uza kudla ukuva kubantwana bakho: "Yeka uvuyo endikunomntakwethu okanye udadewethu!" Emva kokulungiselela umntwana omdala ngokuzalwa komncinci, abazali baya kuqinisa kuphela intsapho yabo.