Ixesha elikhawuleza lihamba ngayo! Kubonakala ngathi ininzi nje yakusondeza ekhaya ikhaya lakho elimangalisayo esibhedlele kwaye ayikwazanga ukuyikhumbula. Ixesha ladlula, umntwana wakhula, wanda ngamandla, wakhula. Kwaye ngathi ngathi sasingafuni, kodwa ixesha liyeza xa umntwana wethu udlulela ekubeni ngumntu omdala. Ukungena kwixesha lokuguquka, abantwana bethu bahamba kuzo zonke iingxaki kunye nobunzima beli xesha. Abantwana bethu bangatshintshi nje ngaphandle nangokwenyama, kodwa ukucinga kwabo, ukuqonda kwabo kwatshintsha. Umzimba uphuma kwisigaba esinye ukuya kwesinye. Abazali abaninzi banenkinga enkulu ekukhulumisaneni nabantwana kule minyaka. Kufuneka ukwazi kakuhle indlela yokusinda kwixesha lokutshintsha ngaphandle kokonakalisa ubuhlobo nomntwana wakho.
Ngexesha lokutshintsha, abantwana bethu bahamba ubunzima obukhulu kunye nobunzima. Umzimba kule minyaka uguquka kakhulu, inguqu yengqondo yengane, ukutshatyalaliswa, ukuguquka kwembono. Kule minyaka, inkqubo ye-nervous child is overloaded with all these changes and changes in the body.
Umda weTshintsho - kutheni kuyadingeka?
Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba iminyaka yokuguquka ivela kubantwana abaneminyaka eli-11. Kodwa kumntu kwenzeka okanye kwenzeke kamva kamva, nakumntu ngaphambili. Ngelo xesha, umntwana uyaguquka ngokubanzi, kokubili ngaphakathi nangaphandle. Ngenxa yokungakwazi ukuqonda zonke ezi nguqulelo, abazali kunye nabantwana bafumana ukungquzulana nokuxabana. Ngeli thuba umntwana uzama ukuqonda nokufumana indawo yakhe kulobu bomi. Ukusuka kumntwana omhle, ohlala kutshatyalaliswa nje yintsapho yakho yonke, iqala ukukhula ingozi, konke oku kuchaphazelekayo ukuzithemba kakhulu, ngoko ungamangaliswa ngexesha lokuguquka - oku kuqhelekileyo. Kodwa konke oku kunokuba nempembelelo embi kwimeko yomntwana wakho. Unokuba ngumsindo, unomsindo, umntwana uvale kwaye angavumeli mntu, uchithe ixesha lakhe ngokuzimela. Ngexesha lokutshintsha, abantwana bancike kakhulu kwimibono yabangamaziyo. Kubaluleke kakhulu kubo ukuba baya kucinga malunga noko baya kuthetha, bacinga ukuba wonke umntu uyazijonga. Ngako oko, naluphi na ukuhleka, ukugxeka, ukuthetha kakubi, konke-oku oku kuqhuba kwikhoneni kwaye kuveliswe ukulimala komntwana.
Abazali kufuneka bazame ukungena kwindawo kwaye baqonde indlela yokuphila kwithuba lokutshintsha. Into engcono kakhulu abazali abangayenza ukuzama ukuphakamisa ukuzithemba komntwana. Mbonise ukuba unokufumana into ethile, zama ukumnika inkxaso yokuziphatha. Lapha, unike imizekelo ebomini bakho, phawula iimpazamo zakho.
Into ephambili akuyi kucofa
Akukacaci ukuba ngubani ojongene neminyaka yokuguquka: abazali okanye nabantwana. Ungaze uzame ukusombulula ingxaki ngoncedo lokumemeza, nayiphi na into enqatshelwe, kunye nemfundiso engaphantsi kokuziphatha. Xa unqabela into ethile kumntwana, uyayibona njengengxaki kwaye wenza okuchaseneyo, nokuba ngabazali. Okona kubaluleke kukuba, ukuqonda kubazali ukuba umntwana wakho akakude ukuba ngumntwana omncinane, omele ajongwe aze anakekelwe, sele eselungele kakuhle - kunye neemfuno zakhe, imigaqo, izimvo zobomi kunye neminqweno. Ubomi bufundiswa ukufundisa ngexesha elinjalo umntwana sele eseluncedo. Ngoko ke, indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma kwimeko enjalo ukuzama ukunika iingcebiso, ukuthetha naye ngokulinganayo. Musa ukumphoqa ukuba enze into kwaye alungise ubulumko bakhe, akunakunceda. Abazali abaninzi bayazibuza ukuba bangaphila ixesha lokutshintsha ngaphandle kokuxabana nomntwana wakho? Kodwa a baninzi basebenzisa iindlela ezilula kakhulu.
Iingxaki zomntwana wakho zifanele ziphathwe ngokuqonda, ngeengxaki zabo, nokuba zibonakala ziyizihlunu kwaye zikhohlakele kuwe. Ukuba unqabile ukunceda umntwana ngeengcebiso kwaye udibanise iingxaki zakhe, akayi kuphinda akuthembe. Uya kuziva ukungaboni kakuhle kwakho, akayi kukwabelana ngeengxaki zakhe nawe, kwaye zonke iinzame zakho ezilandelayo zokunceda ukuqonda ingxaki ziya kubonwa ngabo. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba umntwana akaqhagamshelana nabazali bakhe konke. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kulunge ukuqhagamshelana neengqondo zengqondo, okanye ukusebenzisa isevisi yokuthembela. Ungasebenzisa iinkonzo ze-psychologist mahhala kwaye uxoxe ngxaki kunye naye.
Kodwa ke, musa ukumnyanzela umntwana wakho ukuba enze into ayithandayo. Ngokomzekelo, kunokudansa, ubugcisa, i-gymnastics, umculo. Vumela umntwana wakho anqume oko akufunayo nento enokuyenza kulobu bomi. Ukuba unyanzela umntwana ukuba enze into ethile, ekugqibeleni uya kumshiya loo nto, kwaye uya kwenza oko akuthandayo. Kungcono ukuthetha nomntwana, ufumane malunga nezicwangciso zakhe, unqwenela nantoni na kwaye ubonise ukuba ukhethe oko ukwenze.
Akukho nto yokunqabela nantoni na
Ubudala benguqu lunokufumana ngaphandle kweengxaki, ukuba ufumana ulwimi olufanayo nomntwana. Ngokuqhelekileyo ulutsha lubonakala lubonakala lukhulile, ingakumbi kwiingqungquthela zabo. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho waqala ukuzisela utywala kunye nogwayi, ungakhathazeki. Kwiimeko ezinjalo akudingekile ukulungelelanisa ama-scandals kubantwana kunye ne-hysteria, ayiyi kutshintsha ukusuka kulo kwaye ayiyi kuyeka ukwenza. Kufuneka sixoxe ngale ngxaki nomntwana, simxelele yonke into enokuyenza kunye nenkunkuma yaloo nto akwenzayo, makhe ahlalutye yonke into, enze izigqibo malunga nezenzo zakhe. Ungazami ukumsongela uze ufake ingcinezelo kuye. Akayi kukuxabisa. Kule minyaka, abantwana abaselula bayacinga ngekamva labo, bazama ukuhlala olunye usuku. Ngefom yezolile, umxelele zonke iimpazamo zokunyamezela kwakhe, ngoko wayezicingisisa.