Ngokuqhelekileyo unokubona kwisitrato, kwisitoreji okanye kwi-polyclinic yabantwana, njengoko unina ujezisa umntwana ngokwenkohlakalo encinane. Kwaye, oko sibona kwisitrato kunokuthiwa yiqhezu elincinci. Ukuba ngaba abazali bephakamisa izandla zabo kumntwana abangaziwayo, ngoko kwenzekani ekhaya? Kutheni abazali bebetha umntwana, endaweni yokuthetha naye baze bachaze okulungileyo, kwaye yintoni embi?
Abazali bafanelekile kumntwana, ukuze bangabi. Ewe, ke umntwana "uvula amehlo akhe" kubazali, kodwa, njengommiselo, sele ihamba kakhulu kwaye umntwana sele esetyenzisile indlela yokuziphatha. Kuyinto evamile kuye, xa isicaphulo esinamandla sibuthathaka. Le mpawu wayeyibona ekhaya kwaye ikhula, ithatha lo mzekelo kuye. Wonke umntu kufuneka acinge ngako, kodwa ngaba abazali banelungelo lokubetha abantwana kwaye kutheni benzayo?
Umntwana ohlala ehlwaywa ngokusebenzisa i-strap yasekhaya uya kuziphatha ngokugqithiseleyo kwisitrato, kwi-kindergarten nasezikolweni. Akayiqondi isizathu sokuba kulungile ukubetha intwana, kodwa ibethwa.
Abazali kufuneka baqonde ukuba abanalo ilungelo lokubetha umntwana, kwaye ngokubanzi ukubetha into yokugcina yomntu.
Kukhangeleka kakhulu xa bebetha umntwana omncinci. Ingcola yakhe ibhulukwe? Fumana ibhande! Ngaba iimpahla ezingcolileyo zifanele iinyembezi zomntwana? Akukho bunzima ekuphoseni izinto ezingcolileyo kwi-stylalka kwaye baqhubeke beqhuba ishishini labo. Ukugqithiswa kwisidlo sakusihlwa, isinkwa esiwileyo soomama abaninzi siba isizathu sokubetha umntwana. Hayi, ke, akukho mntu ushilo ngokubetha kwimo yayo ecocekileyo, oko kukuthi, egazini, kodwa ukubetha ebusweni, ukubetha emlonyeni, okanye izandla kunokuthiwa ukubetha, kuba oku kubangela umntwana ukuba abe nobuhlungu emzimbeni.
Ngamantombazana, isijeziso somzimba sichaphazeleka ebuntwaneni ngenxa yokuba kamva bayazikhethela abayeni babo ngomntu oya kubaphatha ngamandla. Ngoko ukulungiswa kwengqondo yomntu, ukuba imodeli yentsapho ifakwe ebuntwaneni. Kuya kuba ngabazali ngeenkqubo zabo izenzo zobomi bentombazana kwaye zichaphazela ngokuthe ngqo ukukhethwa kweqabane elifanelekileyo.
Ukubetha umntwana kukubonakalisa ubuthathaka, ukubonisa ukuba abazali abazange benzeke, abanakukwazi ukuhlangabezana nayo.
Umntwana ubona isigwebo njengento yokuthotywa. Unentloni, akanakukhathazeka, kodwa akakwazi ukwenza nantoni na malunga nale meko. Kamva, xa ekhula, uqala ukuzonda abazali bakhe. Umntwana akafuni ukubuyela ekhaya, ngenxa yokuba i-diary indayari iyisizathu sokuhlaziswa. Yintoni elandelayo? Ukubalekela ekhaya, kwinkampani yesitalato kunye nokunganakwa abazali, kuba baya kutshaya, ngoko ke yintoni umahluko owenzayo ...
Ukusebenzisa izijeziso rhoqo, umntwana uyeka ukuva intlungu kwaye ubonakala elula nje. Bonke abazali abaya kufezekisa kukuba bazondayo ngokwabo. Kwaye uneminyaka eyi-13-16 yobudala inobunzima, ngeli xesha kungcono ukugcina umntwana phantsi kolawulo, kodwa kungekhona ngebhanti, kodwa nje ngeengcebiso kunye neengcebiso. Kufuneka ube ngumhlobo womntwana.
Ukuze ulahlekelwe yintembeko yomntwana, kuyimfuneko ukuyeka ukumbamba ibhande. Iingxaki zixazululwe ngokuthetha nokuchaza. Futhi ungatsho ukuba umntwana akayiqondi amagama. U yaqonda. Kalula awuzange uchaze ngamagama. Ukuthetha nomntwana kuyimfuneko ngokukhawuleza xa ikhutshwa esibhedlele, kubalulekile ukuba umntu omncinci uyayiqonda amagama yabazali bakhe, adibanise kuwo. Ngoko kuya kuba yincinci ngaphezu konyaka kamva, akufanele uthabathe ibhande. Ngenxa yokuba abazali abanalo ilungelo lokubetha abantwana babo.