Musa ukubeka ityala ngezinyembezi.
Musa ukuxelela unyana omncincileyo: "Abafana abakhala." Ngaphezu koko, oku akuyinyaniso: abafana abancinci beza kubala ngaphezu kwamantombazana. Oku kuchazwa yinto yokuba kuthelekiswa nenkqubo yeentlungu zeentombazana, abafana abancinci abasakhulayo. Yingakho balala ngaphantsi, bakhala ngokukhawuleza, kunzima ukuzola. Ukuba ufuna ukukrazula iinyembezi zendodana yakho, amanye amazwi amnandi akwanele (nangona kumantombazana le ndlela yokuzola, njengomthetho, isebenza ngokungafezeki). Kufuneka usebenzise umdla wakhe kwihlabathi elikujikelezayo: vula kwaye ucime ukukhanya izihlandlo eziliqela, bonisa intaka ngaphandle kwewindow, okanye ithoyilo entsha. Musa ukugxeka umntwana ondala ngokukhala. Umntwana, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngumntu wesini, unelungelo leemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo (zombini ezilungileyo kunye nezimbi).
Musa ukukhawulela inkululeko.
Xa ubona ukuba unyana wakho uphuphuma ngamandla amaninzi, makumgijime, agxumeze, atyuke. Ngokuqhelekileyo amakhwenkwe ahamba ngokukhawuleza kunamantombazana kwaye kubalulekile ukuba baphonse amandla. Ngoko ke, ungazami ukukhawulela inkululeko yomntwana, ukumshiya kwi-arna okanye ukumphoqa ukuba ahambehamba ngesitrato ukuhamba. Imidlalo ebonakalayo iya kunceda impilo kunye nengqondo yengqondo yomntwana.
Makhe ndizame.
Amadoda nanini na ubudala abanomdla kwilungiselelo lezinto ezizungezile. Kwaye ndiyathanda yonke into edibene neteknoloji. Enyanisweni, esemncinci inkolelo ayibonakali kubo - bafunda isakhiwo sezinto ngokusebenza, ukuhlalutya nokuwaphula. Ngoko musa ukucaphukisa kwaye ungabi ngomsindo kwonyana wakho omncinci ngenxa yesinye idayi okanye ixhobo zokusebenza eziphukileyo. Kungcono ukususa zonke izinto ezixabisekileyo kunye neendawo zokujonga kunye nokufikelela kwintsana, kwaye yenza ukuba iimvavanyo zakhe zikhuseleke.
Musa ukukhawulelana neminqweno yomntwana kuphela ngenxa yokuba kubonakala ngathi akufanelekanga kwinkwenkwe. Ndikholelwe, akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngento yokuba unyana ufuna ukuqhuba ibhere ye-teddy kwisihlalo sabakhubazekile okanye idlala nedonsa. Musa ukukhathazeka, ukuba inkwenkwe ithanda imidlalo yamantombazana. Into ephambili kukuba umdlalo uzisa uvuyo lwebhokhwe kwaye uvelise uvuyo.
Mamela.
Kubonakala kuwe ukuba inkunzi ekhukhulayo yenza izinto ezilikhulu ngokukhawuleza kwaye ayikwazi ukugxila kuyo nayiphi na into. Musa ukuphazamisa umdlalo wakhe. Zama nje ukumgcina ehlala kwindawo yakho yombono. Yenza indlu ibe yinto ekhululekile kunokwenzeka ukuba imivumba kunye nokusukela kwiminyaka yokuqala ifundise kwizinto ezisiseko zokukhusela: awukwazi ukubalekela kumama kwisitalato, ukhuphuke etafileni, usuke esihlalweni. Abafana, ngaphezu kwamantombazana, badinga imithetho ecacileyo yokuziphatha.
Nika unyana wakho ixesha elide.
Bonke abantwana banamathele kunina, kodwa abafana banzima kakhulu kunabesifazane abaselula, bafumana ukuhlukana okufutshane kumama wabo. Ngoko ke, ukuba kunokwenzeka, lungiselela ubomi bakho kangangokuba iminyaka yokuqala yokuqala emithathu umntwana echitha ekhaya nawe, upapa okanye omnye umntu osondeleyo. Oku kuya kunceda umntwana aziva ekhuselekile. Ukuba uyayifaka kusasa kwintsimi, inokuphila ubomi obukhulu bokuxinezeleka, uzive ulahliwe. Zama ukwenza ulungelelaniso kwi-kindergarten njengothambileyo kunye nokuhamba ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka.
Musa ukumphatha njengesikhulu.
Sekuneminyaka engama-2 ubudala, qalisa ukuqeqesha unyana wakho ukuba athathe amathoyizi akho ngaphambi kokuba ulale (yenza konke okokuqala). Xa umntwana ekhula kancinci, makakuncede kwimisebenzi yendlu elula, nokuba ngaba kukho okuya kuba khona ukudideka kunokulungileyo. Siyabulela oku, uya kuqonda ukuba imicimbi yasekhaya ayikho kuphela "ishishini labasetyhini". Chaza kumntu omncinci indlela aphatha ngayo amantombazana. Ukuze bangakwazi ukukhubeka, kubalulekile ukubathanda nokunyamekela. Kwaye abantu abadala kufuneka bakuthobele kwaye bahloniphe. Fundisa le nkwenkwe imigaqo efunekayo yomthetho.
Thetha, funda, kucula.
Njengomthetho, abafana baqala ukuthetha, banegama elincinci elincinci kunamantombazana. Ngako oko, thetha kangangoko kunokwenzeka ngonyana wakho, xelela okwenzekayo malunga nawe, funda izibongo, iimbali kunye namabali, uhlabelele iingoma zabantwana. Oku kuya kucebisa isilwanyana somntwana, kwaye kumncedise ukuba afunde ngokukhawuleza iziseko zentetho.
Mkhulule ngexesha.
Ukufikelela kwiminyaka emithandathu unyana wakho omncinci uya kuxhomekeka kakhulu kuwe, kodwa ke upapa uza kuphuma phezulu, oya kuba ngumlawuli wakho ongenakuphikiswa kumntu wakho omncinci. Nangona oku kungabonakala ngathi kuyisiganeko esivela kwixesha elizayo, kufuneka ulungele ukuziphatha ngoku. Oku kwahlukana kumama kuyimfuneko ebalulekileyo ekuphuhlisweni kwenkwenkwe.
Zama ukungaphuthelwa nantoni na kwimfundo yendoda yakho encinci, ukuze kamva xa ekhula, akufanele uhlazeke ngokuziphatha kwakhe. Yaye loo nto ibhinqa lakhe elithandekayo, lakuxelele ukuba "mbulela."