Yintoni eyenza lo mntu kuwe kuphela?
Mhlawumbi, impendulo yakho yokuqala iya kuba uyayithanda. Ewe, oku kungathandabuzekiyo. Kodwa umbuzo uhlukile. Ingaba nguye ofuna ukumchitha ubomi bakho bonke? Kubalulekile ukuba ncinane ubuncinane uluhlu oluthile lwenkcubeko yakho, ukuze ukhusele umtshato ngezizathu ezingekhoyo. Umzekelo, kulungile ukutshata nje ngokuba, njengoko ucinga, ixesha liphela. Akukho mzekelo akufanele uphile le ngcamango okanye uvumele abanye bakhuthaze. Amaxesha apho intombazana ingaba mdala kakhulu ukuba ingatshatanga, kwaye ngoko ke isifundo sokugwetywa, sele sidlulile. Phonsa le ngcamango. Yaye khumbula, yonke into inexesha layo.Ngaba ulungele indima yomfazi?
Ngaphambi kokuba utshatile, cinga ukuba ulungele ukuba ngumfazi, kuba umfazi akuyinto into yokuba ngumhlobo okanye umtshakazi. Oku kuya kubandakanya ukuvela kweemfanelo ezintsha kunye nokuqwalaselwa okungakumbi kunye nefuthe. Ungacingi ukuba ngoku uya kulahlekelwa ukuzimela kwakho, kodwa kufuneka uqaphele ukuba xa utshata uza kufuneka ucinge ngezinto ezithile kwaye wenze isigqibo sokuba yintoni ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe - intsapho okanye nemikhuba endala.Ngaba ukulungele iingxaki zemali?
Umtshato uhluke kwiintlanganiso kunye nokutyelelwa kukuba akuyiyo iqabane lakho elihlawula isidlo kwivenkile yokudlela okanye uhlawulela amathikithi e-movie, kodwa uyayenza ngokubanzi kubhajethi jikelele. Ukongezelela, kule mbambano yokudibanisa ayiyikuphela. Ngokuchasene noko, ubomi bentsapho kuthetha ii-akhawunti ezitsha eziza kufuneka uzihlawule, umzekelo, izibonelelo, ukutya, njl. Kwaye kufuneka uxoxe ngale miba kunye, ukuze kungabikho nkxalabo yezemali engathandekiyo. Emva kwakho konke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba usebenza zombini, okanye umntu omnye kuni, kubalulekile ukuba uyazi ukuba unesiqinisekiso malunga neengxaki zemali kunye neemeko ezingalindelekanga.Ngaba ulungele ukuhlala uthembekile?
Okokuqala, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho ninyamekela kwimimiselo efanayo kunye nezinto eziphambili kwimpilo. Nangona uyamthanda umntu wakho, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ulungele ukuba naye, okanye unesidingo nakwabanye. Kwaye ukuba kunjalo, ngoko kufuneka uvume ngokunyanisekileyo kwiqabane lakho kule nto, okanye uvale izahluko zobomi bakho obudlulileyo ngonaphakade. Kungenxa yokuba ukunyaniseka ngenye yezinto eziphambili eziza kwenza umtshato wakho uqine kwaye uhlale.Ngaba unokunyamezela indlela yakhe yobomi?
Ukuba awuhlali ndawonye, ngoko ayiyi kubakho indawo yokujonga ngokukhawuleza iqabane lakho kunye nemikhwa yakhe. Nangona kunjalo, awuyi kukwazi yonke into ngokufanelekileyo, kodwa kufuneka ube nombono womntu ongekho kuwe. Yaye ukuba ufumanisa izinto ezikukhohlisayo, ngoko kufuneka uzame ukusombulula le ngxaki ngokufanayo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ucinga ukuba awukwazi ukunyamezela le nto kunye neqabane lakho alidibana nawe, mhlawumbi kufuneka ulinde ngomtshato kwaye ushiye yonke into kwisiganeko ngaphambi kokuba wenze izigqibo ezibalulekileyo.Ewe, ezi ziminye yemibuzo ekufuneka ufumane iimpendulo ngaphambi komtshato. Yaye ukuba awuqinisekanga ubuncinane enye yeempendulo, ke ungagqizi. Kungenxa yokuba ukuba ufuna ukufumana umtshato onomdla, omde, kufuneka ujoyine ngokuqinileyo, ngokuzithemba ngokupheleleyo kuwe kunye neqabane lakho.