Abo bathanda kakhulu ubomi kuzo zonke iimbonakalo zabo, abaze banciphise izandla zabo nentloko, banesibindi ukunqoba izithintelo zobomi, abaqondi abo bangenakuhlala, okwangoku ngenxa yezizathu ezithile zokuphelelwa ithemba, kwiimeko zokudakumba. Indlela yokuzinceda wena okanye abanye kwiimeko apho ungafuni ukuhlala khona, kwaye okwangoku akubonakali kuhle, kuhle, njengoko kwakungaphambili?
Kutheni oku kwenzekayo?
Ukuzifumana kwindawo apho ungafuni ukuhlala khona, unokukwazi ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Okubaluleke kunabo bonke ukufa okanye ukugula okubulalayo komntu osondeleyo. Esinye isizathu kukuba iingxaki zempilo kunye nezimo ezahlukeneyo zomzimba. Ingxenye yesithathu iyahlukana nomthandane wakho, ukungcatsha, ukukhohlisa kwabo bahlobo, abahlobo. Iingxaki zezinto ezine, ubunzima emsebenzini. Isihlanu sidimazeka kakhulu kwinto okanye kumntu. Iingxaki zibanokuba zininzi ezininzi, kodwa ezi zizona ziphambili.
Iimeko ezixhalabileyo zingakhokelela ekuphepheni ukuhlala. Kodwa ukuxinezeleka kwakushukunyiswa ngenye ingxaki okanye imeko evela ngasentla.
Ngoko unokuhlangabezana njani nomoya onjalo? Ingakumbi xa imeko ingenakuphikiswa, njengokuba kwenzeka ekufeni komntu osondeleyo.
Xa abantu beshiya ubomi babo
Yintoni ongayenza ukuba imeko yakho yokwehliswa ngokujulile kubangelwa ukufa komntu obathandayo ongeke wamukele i-vykik. Asiyi kuthetha apha malunga nelokuba ufuna ukusinda kule nkqubo enzima yobomi, zama ukulibala, uphakamise iingcamango ezinzima ngokungakumbi kwi-subconscious.
Ingxaki ngezenzo ezinjalo azidluli. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kunokuthiwa ngolu hlobo imeko yokuphila kaKumkani uSolomon iya kusebenza. "Yonke into iyadlula. Kwaye le nto! "Uya kudlula ixesha, umntu unenyanga, umntu unonyaka kwaye ngaphezulu kwaye intlungu ayibuhlungu, iya kuba yi-nestol ebukhali, ecacileyo, njengangoku.
Kwiimeko ezinzima zobomi, hlala kude nabantu, uzame ukuzithemba nabo.
Ukuba abantu abanjalo abengekho kwindawo yakho-tyelela isazi sengqondo okanye umfundisi wokholo lwakho. Aba bantu bayabizwa ukuba bancedise ngokubhekiselele kwimiba yezobugcisa kwabo babenenkinga yobomi.
Kunceda ukutshintsha imeko, tshintsha iingcinga zakho kwezinye iingxaki zabantu. Yaye ukhumbule, ukuphuhliswa kwakho kwangoku kuyiphumo sesiganeko ebomini bakho. Kodwa awuyena owokuqala kwaye ude nomntu wokugqibela emhlabeni ukuze ufumane oku. Namhlanje, isabelo esinzima siphumele kwiqashiso lakho, elinye ixesha, abanye abantu abangaqhelekanga baya kufumana isiganeko esinzima. Masihlupheke, kungekudala intlungu iya kuba yinkimbinkimbi, iyancipha ukuya kumgangatho wobugcisa, xa unokudibanisa nayo kwaye uyifumane.
Ubomi emva kokuhlukana nabathandekayo bakho
Ubuqhetseba, ukuxabana, ukungaqondi kakuhle kunye nesiphumo - ukuhlukana komntu othandekayo kunokuzisa abanye "kwindawo yokuphila abayifunayo." Iingcali zengqondo zincoma inani leendlela zokuphuma kweli lizwe.
Into yokuqala ongayenza ukuba uyayiqonda ukuba umntu othile kufuneka ahlulwe ngandlela-thile ebomini bakhe kwaye kwimemori yakhe ukutshintsha indawo yakhe yokuhlala. Okanye unako ukuhamba ixesha elide kwinyanga ukuya kwiidolophana kwenye idolophu okanye kwilali. Okokuthi, umsebenzi wakho awuyikuguqula imeko kuphela, kodwa nokunciphisa amathuba okuhlangana nomntu owenza isono sakho.
Ukutshabalalisa zonke iimpawu zendlu, kwindawo yakho, ezikukhumbuza ngazo - iifoto zakho ezidibeneyo, iireksi zediski, ukuzisusa kubangani bakho kwintanethi yoluntu njalonjalo.
Khumbula, kwimeko yakho inkulu ingadlala ekubuyiselweni kohlobo lokulingana kwengqondo, intombi, abazali, nabanye abantu abasondeleyo. Musa ukuncedisa ukunxibelelana nabo.
Iingcali zengqondo ziqwalasela
Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba abantu abafuna ukulungisa amanqaku ebomini bayakhohlisa. Ukuhamba kwabo ebomini akusayi kusombulula iingxaki. Yaye ukuba loo nto ayifuni ukuxinezeleka nokuzibulala kulandela isigaba sokuqala, xa ingxaki ibonakala ngokucacileyo, cinga ngokucophelela into ocinga ngayo ngokungaqalisi "i-snowball" yeengcinga eziyingozi.
Iingcali ze-Psychotherapists ziqinisekile, ngokuqinisekileyo umntu wakho osondeleyo okanye unengcinga malunga nokushiya, kubalulekile ukuba wenze ngokukhawuleza ngendlela ethile. Awukwazi ukujamelana nayo ngokuzimeleyo - funa iingcebiso kwi-psychologist, psychotherapist.
Yintoni endiyenzayo ukuba ndifuni ukuhlala nabathandekayo bakho?
Ngoko, umhlobo wakho osondelene unokunika ukuba uqonde ukuba akanako amandla okuphila, akafuni ukuqhubeka ekhona. Yintoni ongayenza, kwaye yintoni engafanele ivumeleke kulo mzekelo?
Inyathelo 1. Mamela ngokukhawuleza wakho umdibaniselwano. Musa ukumphazamisa. Ungabonisi iingxelo eziphambili zengqondo. Musa ukumgweba. Yeka loo mntu uthethe de kube sekupheleni.
Isenzo 2. Zama ukuqonda ukuba ngaba umntu uya kuzibulala okanye ngaba zizinto ezisongelayo, ukuziphatha ngokuzibulala?
Inyathelo 3. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba inkxaso yakho, ekufuneka inikezwe ngamandla akho onke, imeko ojongene nayo ayaneleyo, awukwazi ukujamelana nayo - memela umntu osondeleyo ukuba a tyelele isifo sengqondo.
Isenzo 4. Kunoko, yintoni ekufuneka ingabi nxalenye yakho. Akufanelekanga kule meko ukucebisa umntu ukuba "uphuze," "phumula," "ubale," "hamba uhambo." Akunakwenzeka ukuba ezi ndlela ziza kunceda umntu ekuphelelwe lithemba okukhulu ukuhlangabezana nokungafuni ukuhlala.
Iingcebiso zengqondo, ukuba awufuni ukuhlala
Ugxothwe emsebenzini, wanqoba iingxaki kubantwana bakho, umyeni wakho, unomntu osondelene kakhulu, uninzi lwamatyala aqokelelweyo, awuyi kubuyiselwa imali kunye nezinye iimeko ezinzima. Indlela yokuphuma yile. Khangela ukusuka kwicala lokudlala kwi-sandbox okanye abantwana basebantwaneni. Unendlela ekhethekileyo yobomi, okuya kuba kuhle ukuwamkela abantu abadandathekileyo.
Abantwana kwisibini bafumana ixesha elivuyisa okanye lusizi ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa banokuvuyela kangakanani okanye bafumane amava, ngokukhawuleza balibale malunga nale meko. Omnye unokuthi ulongamo - abantwana bathanda ubomi baze baphile umzuzu ngamnye ngawo onke amaseli omzimba wabo.
Kutheni abantu bengafanelekanga ukuba bafunde indlela yokuphila yomntwana yosuku ngalunye ubuncinane ubunzima?
Unokudandatheka ngenxa yesizathu, njengoko kubonakala kuwe, kwingingqi yakho engadingekile, indawo yakho, ngenxa yedwa. Kanti ke abaninzi banesizungu i-lyudinauchilis bajamelana nokunyaniseka kwabo nokungabi nantoni, befumana isilwanyana. Ekunyamekeleni kwakhe baziva befuna isidalwa esiphilayo. Ikati okanye inja, kwakhona, inika abaniniyo iimvakalelo ezintle, ubusuku obumnandi, obunqabileyo bodwa.
Kwaye kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba ukhumbule ukuba xa esinye isigaba ebomini bomntu sigqityiwe, esinye siqala rhoqo, apho kukho iintlanganiso ezinokuthabatha, iintlanganiso, ukuguquka okubalulekileyo okulungiselelwe wena.
Kwenzeka ukuba ukungafuni ukuhlala kubangelwa ishishini owenzayo ngoku kwaye akukusilethela ukwaneliseka kokuziphatha ixesha elide. Awusebenzi, ngoko indlela yobomi ozidalile yona, ikuyeke ukulungiselela. Uyakhathazeka ukuze uphile, awuyi kubona igalelo. Kodwa ingxaki ixazululwa ngokulula. Ewe, kunokuba kuyimfuneko ukuba uyingxenye kunye nomvuzo ozinzile kwimisebenzi engathandekiyo, ngendlela eqhelekileyo yobomi, oku kukukhokelela ekubeni ungafuni ukuhlala. Kodwa uya kuba nenxaxheba into eyenomdla kakhulu, nokuba yinto elula kakhulu kwihlabathi, kodwa uyayithanda kakhulu. Ungabi namahloni ngokwenza into enentsingiselo kunye nomsebenzi oyintloko ebomini bakho.