Iingcali zikholelwa ukuba kwiminyaka engama-6 ukuya kwe-7, abaninzi abantwana sele bekulungele ukuhamba kwimidlalo ukuya kuqeqesho. Kwaye umsebenzi oyintloko kubazali kufuneka ukuba uncede umntwana kule nto.
Okokuqala kufuneka uqale nawe. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba unganeliseki kangakanani nenkqubo yemfundo yangoku, umntwana wakho akafanele ave ukuphononongwa okungathandekiyo malunga nendawo apho kufuneka afundiswe khona ixesha elide.
Ukuba umntwana uya kuvela kwiintsapho zakhe kunye nezihlobo ezinjengeli "sikolo esiyinyabi", "uya kuhlupheka apho uhamba", "ukufunda kukuxhatshazwa", njl., Akunakwenzeka ukuba umntwana uya kulindela ngoSeptemba 1 kunye nesimo sengqondo esibi, ukwesaba ukufunda kuya kusekwa kuqala.
Kwiklasi lokuqala, izabelo zendlu azikasethi. Kodwa umkhwa wokuzimela, ngaphandle kwezikhumbuzo zokwenza izifundo ukuba zikhuliswe kwiintsuku zokuqala zesikolo. Kwaye okokuqala, abazali kufuneka baqonde ukuba ukulungiselela umsebenzi wesikolo ngumcimbi obalulekileyo kwaye ungathinteki kumfundi. Ngoko ke, isimo sakho sengqondo ekufundeni umntwana, ubonisa ukuba kuyimfuneko kwaye kuyimfuneko. Ukuphazanyiswa ekusebenzeni kwezifundo (umzekelo, ukuze udle, okanye ubukele iTV, okanye uhambe ngokukhawuleza kwivenkile yesonka) ayimkelekanga. Ngaphandle koko, kuba ngabazali ngokwabo babonisa ngokuziphatha kwabo ukuba ukwenza izifundo akuyona nto ebalulekileyo kwaye unokulinda nalo.
Kucaciswa ukuba ixesha apho abantwana banokugcina ingqwalasela eyahlukileyo kwixesha ngalinye. Umzekelo, umlimi wokuqala angasebenza ngokuqhubekayo, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka, malunga nemizuzu eyi-10-15. Kodwa abantwana abadala abakwazi ukuthatha ixesha elingaphezulu (imizuzu engama-20), abafundi beeklasi zokugqibela basebenza umsebenzi wama-30-40 imizuzu ngokuqhubekayo. Impilo ebuthathaka okanye ukukhungatheka komntwana kuboniswe ixesha lokunciphisa.
Ngokumalunga nalokhu ngasentla, akudingeki ukuba umtsalise umntwana ukuba uphenduke. Ngokuphambene noko, ukuba uyatshintsha ukuhamba kwakhe, uvuka kwaye afana, wenza izinto ezithile zamehlo, oku kuya kumnceda ekunciphiseni ukuxhatshazwa kwaye uqhubeke nokusebenza ngokuphumelelayo kwemisebenzi. Emva kokunyamekela umsebenzi kuyimfuneko ukuthatha ikhefu. Ukusukela ukuba usebenza kude kube sekupheleni, kude kube yinto yonke eyenziwe, le ndlela inika umphumo omncinci kwaye unyuse umbane.
Musa ukumphoqa umntwana ukuba enze umsebenzi wesikolo emva kokubuya esikolweni. Makhe abe nesidlo sasemini, aphumle okanye athathe uhambo, kuba emva kwesikolo umntwana ukhulelwe, kungekho ngaphantsi kwabadala abasuka emsebenzini. Olu ludaka aluyi kuvumela umntwana ukuba agxininise kwaye ahlale egxile. Ngaphezu koko, ininzi yomsebenzi wesikolo ubhalwa umsebenzi. Yaye xa ixinzekile, izibonda ezilula zivela njenge-scrawl.
Khawucinge ngeso simo, umntwana uyakhathala kwesikolo aze ahlale phantsi ukuze enze umsebenzi wesikolo. Akaphumelelanga, ngoko kufuneka uphinde ubhale kwakhona, kodwa kuya kuba nzima - ukusuka apha usizi, iinyembezi. Le meko, ngokuphindaphindiweyo imihla ngemihla, yenza ukwesaba komntwana ukwenza iimpazamo nokunyaniseka emsebenzini wesikolo.
Abanye abazali baphoqelelwe ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo ngokuhlwa xa bebuya emsebenzini. Kodwa ngokuhlwa, ukukhathala kuqokelela ngakumbi, kwaye yonke into iphinda - ukungaqondi kakuhle imisebenzi, ukungabi nentshisekelo kulo mbandela. Ukungaphumeleli kuphindwe, abazali abanelisekile. Isiphumo sinokuba kuphela ukuba umntwana akafuni ukwenza izifundo.
Ngoko ke, ixesha elifanelekileyo lokulungiselela izifundo ezifundwe ukusuka kwiintathu ngemini ukuya ezintlanu ngokuhlwa.
Xa umntwana enza umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo, musa ukuma emva kwakhe uze ulandele zonke izenzo. Kuya kuba okuchanekileyo ngakumbi ukujongana nemisebenzi kunye, kwaye uhambe ukujongana nemicimbi yabo. Kodwa umntwana kufuneka abe nethemba lokuba abazali baya kuvela kwaye bancede, ukuba kukho into engacacanga kuye. Kufuneka uchaze ngokuzithelekileyo, ngaphandle kokucaphukisa, nangona kufuneka uyenze amaxesha amaninzi. Emva koko umntwana wakho akayi kuyika ukucela abazali bakhe uncedo.
Ukuba usenza isigqibo sokuncedisa umntwana, kufuneka ukuba inxaxheba yakho ichaze ukuba le nto ibonwabileyo, ifumaneka kwaye inomdla. Kufuneka uyenze naye, kungekhona kuye, ushiye imisebenzi yokuzaliseka. Ngaphandle koko, ukungabikho komkhwa womsebenzi ozimeleyo kunokudlala indima ebalulekileyo ebomini bakhe.
Cacisa umntwana wakho ukuba kungcono kwaye kulula ukujongana nesihloko esitsha ekhaya, ukuba kwakungacacanga esikolweni, kuba unokucela imibuzo engapheliyo ngaphandle kokungabaza. Emva kokuqonda ukuzaliseka kwemisebenzi kakuhle, kuya kuba lula kwaye kukhawuleze ukuxazulula iingxaki zolawulo esikolweni, kunye nokufunda ulwazi olutsha kwesi sihloko kwezi zifundo zilandelayo. Ukuba unomdla kumntwana kwisifundo ofundayo, awuyi kuluphoqa ukuba enze umsebenzi wasekhaya, funda iincwadi.
Njengoko sibona, ukungafuni ukufundisa izifundo kungekhona ngokungalindelekanga okanye kwiinyanga zokuqala zesikolo. Yenziwa ngokuthe ngcembe ngenxa yokwesaba ukuhluleka.
Ukuqinisekisa ukuba umsebenzi wesikolo awukhuthazi ukwesaba, kodwa uqiniseke ukuba ubunzima bunzima, ukuvavanya imizamo yomntwana. Ukuvunyelwa, inkxaso kunye nodumo kuya kuvuselela, kodwa unyango olubi, ukuhlekwa usulu, ukuhleka usulu, kubangelwa ukuthukuthela kunye nokwesaba ukungaphumeleli. Ngoko kholwa kumntwana, kwaye uya kukholelwa kuye, naye.
Nazi iziphakamiso ezimbalwa kubazali abafuna ukulungisa imeko, apho umntwana engafuni ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo.
Okokuqala, ungadluli umntwana ngemisebenzi eyongezelelweyo, ngaphandle kokuba yena ngokwakhe efuna. Uncedo ukuqonda nokuyenza kuphela into eceliwe.
Okwesibini, cacisa yonke into ngomntwana ngokuzithoba, ungakhathazeki. Dumisani rhoqo umsebenzi ofanelekileyo. Kwaye iimpazamo zihlelwa kunye kunye nokuzilungisa, ukulungisa ingxaki efanayo.
Okwesithathu, qalisa izifundo zakho ngokwenza imizekelo elula, ngokuthe kancinci. Emva koko ukuzithemba akuyi kuthusa umntwana kude nemisebenzi enzima. Ukwandisa ubunzima bomsebenzi, hamba emva kokuba wenze ukukhanya.
Ndiyathemba ukuba eli nqaku liyakunceda ukuchonga nokuphelisa isizathu sokuba umntwana wakho angafuni ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo, kwaye uyazi ngoku ukuba wenzeni ukuba umntwana akafuni ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo!