Kutheni, ukususela ekuzalweni , izibonakaliso zesondo zihanjiswe. Amantombazana adlala amadonsa kunye nezitya zezingane, amakhwenkwe, kumatshini wokubhala kunye nemfazwe ngamabhotile. Oku kwenzeka ngo kwamkelwa kwabantu abadala. Emva koko, xa sikhetha amathoyizi ebantwaneni bethu, nathi sinokukhokelwa ngokwesini somntwana. Amantombazana athenge iimboli, isitya, umshini wokuthunga umtshini, umqhubi. Kwaye amakhwenkwe, imoto, ibhokhwe, abaqulunqi. Ngoko kuvela ukuba abantwana abavela kumncinci kuncinci bazikhethele zona amathoyizi, ngesandla sethu esilula. Intombazana ethatha umshini wokubhala okanye ipastile emdlalweni wakhe - eli bangela kubangelwa ukuvutha komsindo. Kwaye abantu bahlala besithi "uyintombazana, thabatha idonsa!". Kwimeko efanayo nabafana.
Xa umntwana ehamba kwiklasi yokuqala , unesiqulana esitsha sabangane, ukuqhagamshelana nabantwana sele kusezingeni elithile. Njengoko abantwana beziva bexanduva ngakumbi, bakhula. Kukho iimfihlelo. Ngokomzekelo, xa intombi ibuya esikolweni kwaye ixelela abanye ngonina, "Umama uyakuthanda i-Vitya esikolweni, wandibamba nge-pigtail".
Xa bekhulile , abantwana bayazifihla. Ukuba ngaba abazali banokwenene, banokwabelana ngemfihlelo, kodwa zonke iimfihlakalo aziyi kubonakala. Ngeli thuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthembela kumntwana, kunye nokuzithemba kubantwana babo kuphela ngenxa yokukhuliswa kakuhle. Ukuba unesiqiniseko sokuthi unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho ayiyi kuvela kwinkampani embi, abayi kusebenzisa utywala, iziyobisi okanye umsi, ngoko sele ufumene indlela efanelekileyo yokukhulisa abantwana.
Ngoku baxubusha kakhulu ngokusungulwa kwemfundo yesondo esikolweni. Uninzi lwabazali abachasene nale ndlela. Ngoluvo lwabo, imiba enjalo kufuneka ixoxwe ekhaya. Ndifuna ukuqaphela ukuba abaninzi abazali abafuni ukuthetha kwesi sihloko. Kukho izizathu ezininzi, zihlazo, ayikho ixesha lezinto ezinje, okanye zithenga i-encyclopedia kwaye zivumele umntwana ukuba aziqonde. Kodwa unako ukunika iingxabano ezininzi ekuncedeni iiklasi ezinjalo esikolweni. Okokuqala, wonke umsebenzi ocacileyo wenziwa ngutitshala oza kubonisa ngokuchanekileyo yonke ingcaciso, kwaye angakwazi ukuphendula ngokufanelekileyo yonke le mibuzo. Okwesibini, abantwana baya kufunda konke "kwizandla zokuqala", kwaye kungabikho kubahlobo besitalato. Okubaluleke kakhulu. Emva koko, zingaphi iziganeko zokukhulelwa kwabafundi besikolo, izifo zesitho zangasese, ukungazi ngokulula kokukhulelwa komzimba. Yonke into oyifunayo, abafana bayakufumana kwi-professional.
Ukuba abazali abafuni iingxaki ngokukhula kocwangciso lomntwana, ngoko kuyimfuneko ukuthetha naye kwesi sihloko. Thetha ngamanyathelo okukhusela, ukukhulelwa kwezilwanyana, izifo ezidluliselwa ngesondo, nemiphumo yesondo (ukukhulelwa). Emva koko unako ukuphepha iingxaki ngemfundo yesondo.
KwiSoviet Union, kwakungekho nesondo . Kwaye injalo ibambelele kude kube ngoku, abazali abanako ukuphakamisa izihloko ezinjalo, kuba abazange bathethe ngesicwangciso esinjalo. Masiphule imigangatho yamandulo. Ihlazo, oku akuyiyo into yokuba abazali mabayeke. Ukuthetha nabantwana yindlela efanelekileyo yokukhusela iingxaki zomntwana, zomzimba kunye nokuziphatha. Yiba yinkwenkwana okanye intombazana, baya kukwazi yonke imiphumo, oko kuthetha ukuba kunemithwalo eninzi ukujongana nale ngxaki.