Namhlanje siza kuthetha ngezizathu zokuxhwabalala kwabesetyhini abaninzi. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo kunye nendlela yokuzikhupha oku, ukuba, ngokwenene, uyazifuna.
Abaninzi, abafazi abaninzi baya kufumana amancedo amaninzi ekuncedeni isimo sabo sodwa. Uninzi lwabantu luya kuthi: "Ndiyintle kwaye ndedwa " okanye "Ndiziqhenyce kwaye ndonwabile," kwaye oku kuya kuthethwa ngokunyanisekileyo kunye nokuzingca. Kodwa, kholwa mna, bonke baphupha ezintliziyweni zabo ukuba babe nomthandayo oya kubanceda bazive befuneka kwaye bathandwa.
I zizathu ne zizathu.
1. Inkululeko yesenzo. Akukho xanduva. Akufanele ulungelelanise nabani na, lungisa ukutya uze ufake izinto ngokulandelelana. Awunayo ukuphuma nokulungiselela izinto ngendlela abayithandayo. Ukugqoka kunye nokusebenza kungenziwa njengoko ufuna ngaphandle kokukhangela umntu, kwaye ngokubanzi-yenza okufunayo.
2. Unokuhlala uqwalasela ingqalelo kunye novelwano kubahlobo, kuba unesizungu kwaye unganqongophala kwindoda.
3. Usuvele udlule intlungu yobudlelwane obungaphumelelanga obuphulaphula intliziyo yakho, kwaye awufuni ukuphindaphinda kwimeko - iingqungquthela ezingapheliyo zingcono.
5. Kutheni udibana nomntu oyedwa, ukuba kukho amadoda amaninzi, ahlole kwaye akhethe ngosuku ngalunye olutsha.
6. Awunaso ixesha. Uxakekile kwaye uqhuba ubomi obuxakekile. Ukuba umntu uvela, uya kuphula zonke izicwangciso zakho. Uphumelele ngaphandle kwayo.
7. Okona kubaluleke kakhulu - wena kwaye akukho mntu uya kukunqabela ukuba ubencane nabanye abantu, bhinqa i-mini, uye kwiiklabhu kwaye uholele indlela yokuphila njengoko uthanda kwaye ufuna. Kanti ungacingi, jonga ekhaya kakuhle, ungacingi ukuba ucinge ukuba ungamnika ntoni, akudingeki ukuba upheke ngokumnandi kwaye udibanise indlela yokudibanisa ubomi bobulili. Nangona kunjalo-akuyi kubakho ukuthengwa, ngelixa uwedwa, kwaye ke, akukho ntlungu kunye nosizi.
8. Kanti ke, unokuhlala uzizisola: ngokwenene unobungozi, unobuncwane obukhulu kunye nesifuba esincinci, omdala, ompofu, ongathandekiyo kunye nabantwana. Ayikho injongo. Kwaye ukuba akuyiyo injongo - kutheni utsho utshintshe uzame ukutshintsha? Zihawukele - kulula kakhulu kwaye ziyamnandi.
Nazi izizathu ezibalulekileyo nezizathu. Abaninzi bayazigweba ngosizo lwabo.
Ziziphi izizathu zokuxhwabalala kwabasetyhini abaninzi?
1. Ukuziphatha. Khangela, yiyiphi yale mizekelo ifanelekile, ibuhlungu njengoko kubonakala ngathi, kuwe?
- Assol. Ungumfana ohluphekileyo, onentlungu, elinde inkosana egqibeleleyo kwihashe elimhlophe. Kulo mfanekiso, wenza 2 iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo: ubhale ebunzini lakho: "Ndifuna indoda". Kusuka kwababhinqa, amadoda agijima, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni. Kwaye okwesibini: xa ekugqibeleni, uzive-oko, lonwabo, kwaye emva koko: uNuu ... ngandlela-thile akakhange abukeke kakhulu njengesiqingatha sesibini - unesiphene, akukho ukuqonda okufanayo kunye nesigidi-magama kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo akakuthandi ukuba uthanda yakhe nkosana. Ngokuqhelekileyo, akukho mvume evela kwicala lakho, kwaye wena, uchaza ukuhlukana kwakho ngento yokuba "akayi kuphinda" kwakhona abe yedwa.
- Owesifazane ophezulu. Ukugqwesa, usebenza, unentembelo, unelisekile ngokupheleleyo ngomsebenzi wakho kunye nemeko yakho yezemali. Ukubukeka ngokuzimeleyo nokuzimeleyo, ngokwenene bathanda amadoda kunye ... kuphela. Kwaye konke ngenxa yokuba umntu oyika ukulahleka kwimvelaphi yokuzithemba nokuzimela, uyakoyika ukuba akayi kufana neli nqanaba "leenkwenkwezi". Ukuba uqhubeka nokukhuphisana namadoda ngobuninzi, njl. - Ubungozi bokushiywa wedwa ngonaphakade.
- Umntu ogulayo. Unomtshato okanye umtshato owaphula intliziyo yakho. Akukho nto ilungile ukulinda kwaye ubomi bakho buphelile. Uzixhaphaza ngeenkumbulo, ukhangela kwiifoto zakho zakudala. Khawucinge nje ukuba ngoku unomnye kunye nendlela amkhathaza ngayo. Hmm ... Amadoda amasha akakwazi ukuba, kuba asisoze athelekiswa na ngaphambili. Ngokuqhelekileyo, unokuzizisola ngokwakho, udla intlungu kunye nesizungu nge-tshokoleta.
2. Isizathu sesibini sokuba unesizungu kukuloyiko. Uloyiko lokungcatsha, ukungcatsha, kwaye uyaqiniseka kwangaphambili ukuba oku kuya kwenzeka nakanjani kuwe. Uloyiko lobomi bentsapho - kodwa ngokukhawuleza awukwazi, kuba lo mthwalo uxanduva, kwaye ngokukhawuleza awuyi kuqikelela ithemba kunye neminqweno yomyeni kwezinye izinto zasekhaya okanye zesondo.
3. Abafuni ukunxulumana nam. Kwaye inyaniso kunye nenyaniso - akukho mntu uhambayo kwaye unikezela ngesandla nangentliziyo. Ngokukhethekileyo. Kwaye uhamba ngendlela efanayo: indlu yendlu. Ewe, umqondo wokuya kwindawo ethile, ngokukodwa kwimibutho eklabhu, njl njl Akukho mntu uyazi kakuhle, ingakumbi kwiimyuziyam.
4. Ubuvila. Ewe. Kunjalo. Abasetyhini abaninzi banamavila endaweni ethile encinci ukuphuma okanye ukuhlangabezana nabahlobo. Kungcono ukulala ebhedeni ekhaya.
Ngamafutshane, imbangela yokulondeka kuwe isentloko yakho. Bonke abafana beebhokhwe? Ewe uya kufikelela. Ngaba uthanda ukuzibulela uxolo kwaye ucinge ukuba sele usuwe ngaphezu kwemashumi amathathu, kwaye unayo isikhulu? Ngenxa yoko, kwaye akayi kuyenza. Ewe, uthanda ukucinga ngako kunokuba usebenze-uhlale wedwa.
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Ngaphezulu, zihlalutye. Kutheni utshabalalisa abanokuba ngabagijimi? Khangela ngenyameko kuyo yonke into: ukubonakala, ukuziphatha, indlela yokugqoka, imikhwa, njl. Kungenzeka ukuba kufuneka utshintshe into yakho - kwaye yonke into iya kumnandi.