Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba umfana unomlutha nje kunina. Nguye umzekelo womfazi kuye. Yona iipees zayo ezihle kakhulu kunye ne-borsch. Uya kunika ingcebiso efanelekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi lo mfazi uhlala nawe.
Le meko, ngokuqhelekileyo, ibonakala ukuba inkwenkwe yakhula ingenabo uyise.
Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, umama, ezama ukwenza yonke into ukuze loo nkwenkwe ingaziva iphosakele, iyakumkhathaza kakhulu kwaye imbophe kuye. Ukongezelela, ngenxa yokungabikho kwemfundo yindoda, le nkwenkwe ayisoloko ikwazi ukuzimela. Uyasetyenziselwa ukuba uhlala ephethe ukutya, ahlambulukile kwaye anxibe iimpahla, imali, kwaye ngelo xesha akadingi ukwenza nantoni na. Umama uya kuhlala eqonda kwaye exolela, ukuze angayi kwenza.
Emva kwexesha, yena nomfazi wakhe othandekayo baqala ukuqonda ngokufanayo. Kodwa awuyena unina. Ufuna ukukhulula kunye nokuhlakulela, kungekhona i-infantilism kunye ne-whims.
Indlela yokuxhatshaza umntu ukuba agijime kumama wakhe onke? Okokuqala, zama ukuthetha naye. Cacisa ukuba uyamhlonela kakhulu umfazi owabelethayo kwaye uyamthanda kakhulu, kodwa ke, usemdala kakhulu ukulungisa iingxaki zakhe ngoncedo lukaMama. Mkhumbuze ukuba yena, njengendoda yokwenene, kaninzi ulahla uncedo lwakho, kuba akusona ishishini lomntu ukukhalaza kubafazi. Kwaye unina naye ungumfazi. Ngoko mhlawumbi akufanele umcaphukise ngeengxaki zakho. Yena emva komntu osemncinci kwaye ukuba umntu uyayithanda, kufuneka akhusele ekuhluphekeni. Cacisa ukuba uyalibala malunga neengxaki kwiiyure ezimbalwa, kwaye umama uhlala ecinga ngayo kwaye uphazamiseka.
Ukongezelela, kufuneka ukhethe ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba wena ngokwakho awunakuxhamla ngale meko. Wena, kunjalo, awunalo luhlobo lobomi njengonina, kodwa uzama ukufunda. Ngoko ke, kumntu ulindele ukuthelekiswa kunye nodumo, kwaye akuthelekisi nomama. Kukwafanelekile ukukhankanya ukuba zonke iingxaki ezivela kwintsapho kufuneka zixazululwe kunye. Emva kwakho konke, okokuqala, okokuqala, ubomi bakho buqu kunye nawe kuphela uyazi zonke iinkcukacha kunye neenkcukacha. Ngoko ke, akufanele ufune uncedo kubahlobo, izihlobo okanye umama. Ungumntu omdala kwaye onengqiqo, ngoko kufuneka akwazi ukufumana indlela yokuphuma kwimeko.
Ukuba indoda ayinayo ingxoxo kwaye ayiyi kulukhupha ukuba igijime kunina yonke ixesha, zama ukuthetha nomama ngokwakho. Kwenzeka ukuba ibhinqa ngokwabo ayiyivuyo le meko. Kule meko, cacisa ngombono wakho uze ucele uncedo. Ekubeni umama ungowomthandi wakho unamandla angatshintshiyo, unokummisela ukuba ayeke ngenxa yezinto ezincinane ezigijimela endlwini yakhe.
Okubi kakhulu, xa unina womyeni wakhe echasene nomalokazana kwaye uyavuya kukuba unyana wakhe uyamxabisa ngaphezu komfazi wakhe. Apha awukwazi ukulinda uncedo. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukwenza ngokwayo. Uyazi ukuba uluphi uhlobo lwemiba eya kumama wakhe. Ngoko, zama ukuwaphepha. Yenza nantoni na eyenzayo, kodwa ikhulu elinamakhulu amaxesha angcono. Ukupheka izitya zakhe ezithandayo, ukutshintsha ngokufanelekileyo iileyiti, ukuzondla nokuzixabisa. Ewe, le nto ayikho ulwalamano olupheleleyo, kodwa kukho amaxesha apho ungaphila ngale ndlela okanye akunjalo.
Kodwa akusiwo onke amabhinqa angakwazi ukuma elide. Ngoko ke, zama ukubeka umbuzo ngokucacileyo. Kakade, akufanele usebenzise ibinzana elithi "nokuba mna, okanye umama. Akukho mntu owaneleyo uya kunqaba ukuzala unina. Wena ngokwakho uyazi kakuhle kakuhle kwaye uqonde. Kodwa malunga nokungabikho ukuhoxiswa kwindlu emva kweengxabano ezincinane okanye ukungquzulwano, kusenokuba kulungile ukuthetha ngoku. Chaza inkwenkwe yakho ukuba ubomi obunjalo abuhambisani nawe. Uhlala kunye kwaye ngoko, ukwakha ubudlelwane obunzulu. Ngoko ke, ukuziphatha komntwana omncinci kukucaphukisa kwaye kukucaphukisa. Uhlala ubona kwindoda enamandla oyithandayo, kwaye ngoku uye waba yinkwenkwe encinane. Ngoko ke, kufuneka uguqule into ngokukhawuleza. Uzama ukwenza konke okusemandleni akhe, ngoko kutheni akufanele aphinde acinge ngesimo sakhe sengqondo ebomini nasebudlelwaneni.
Kule meko, abanye abantu bacinga ngako, kuba besaba kakhulu ukulahlekelwa ngumfazi wabo othandekayo. Kulula nje, ukwesaba kwabantwana kunye neengxaki zihlala ngaphakathi kwaye azivumeli ukuba zifike umzuzu otyhafisayo. Ukuba yonke into ihamba ngale ndlela, intanda yakho iya kushiya unyoko wedwa, kwaye uya kuba nako ukukwakha ubudlelwane bakho ngaphandle kokuthatha okwesithathu, okungenani kule meko.
Kodwa mhlawumbi umntu uya kuqokelela izinto aze ahambe. Umama. Unokwenza, ngokuqinisekileyo, ubuyisele kwaye uvumelane nale ndlela. Kodwa, mhlawumbi, kulungele konke ukucinga ngako. Zizikhethele wena, ngaba unokuziva unobomi bukaMama emva kwakho konke ubomi bakho? Emva kwakho konke, kuvela ukuba iqabane lakho liluhlu oluthathaka kunye ne-spineless rag. Akazi indlela yokuphendula ngenxa yezenzo zakhe nokulungisa iingxaki. Kulula ukufihla emva kwabo bonke abaya emlilweni, nangaphakathi emanzini, ngenxa yonyana omncinci othandekayo. Abantu abanjalo basetyenziselwa ukuba bonke abantu bafanele bawakhusele baze bancede. Kodwa bona abanako ukwenza into enje kumntu. Kwaye kumama wakho othandekayo. Qaphela ukuba lo mntu akaze abe yindonga yakho yamatye. Awuyi kufikelela kuyo. Ukuba kukho iingxaki ongazikwazi ukuzisombulula ngaphandle kwakhe, uya kubalekela unina. Kwaye akayi kunakekela oko kwenzekayo khona. Into ephambili kukuzikhusela. Abantu abanjalo banomncinci kakhulu kunye neengcamango. Abakwazi ukwenza izigqibo zabantu abadala, ukuthatha uxanduva, kwaye ngokubanzi, baziphathe njengomntu omdala.
Hlaziya izenzo zakhe nesimo sengqondo kuwe, ngaphambi kokuba uhambe uye kumthabatha phantsi kweengubo zikamama. Mhlawumbi kulungele ukuyeka kwaye uhambe ngendlela yakho, ngaphandle kwayo. Emva kwayo yonke into, onke amabhinqa ahlala ephupha lokuba yindoda yomntu, i-museum, i-princess, kwaye ayiyena umfana, umpheki kunye nomhlengikazi omanzi. Kutheni ufuna umntu omdala endlwini? Yintoni oya kwenza ngayo xa abantwana bakho bevela, kuba umntu onjalo angaba nomona ngendodana okanye intombi yakhe, kuba ngoku akayi kuhlawula ngokwaneleyo.
Ngoko cinga ngokucophelela uze uzigqibelele ukuba ungubani umntu onyifuna ngokwenene. Emva koko sele uye kuwubuyisela okanye uthathe izinto ezisele.