Xa simthanda umntu, sihlala sifuna ukuba lo mntu abe mnandi ngakumbi. Kungenxa yoko, ebona ukuba akakwazi ukufumana indawo yakhe ebomini, siqala ukuzama ukumcamngca, simvuselele, simkholise. Kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile, akusoloko sincedwa ngokuthokoza. Ngokuphambene noko, unako ukuthukuthela kunye nomsindo, ucele ukuba angene kwi shishini lakhe. Indlela yokusebenza kule meko kunye nendlela yokunceda ngokufanelekileyo umhlobo wakho ukukhangela indawo ebomini?
Ngaba ufuna into?
Okokuqala, ukuze uncedo lwakho lube luhle, kwaye ungalimazi, kufuneka uphendule ngokunyanisekileyo umbuzo: ufuna ntoni ebomini? Akunjalo, akunjalo. Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba ukusuka kwicala kungcono ukwazi oko kulungile kumntu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, eli gama lichanekileyo, kwaye ngakwelinye icala libuxoki. Mhlawumbi kukulungele ukuba ubone into engcono kuye ukuba uyayibheka imeko kwi-finance, kwaye ubheka yonke into ngokusebenzisa i-prism yokunyaniseka kwakhe kokuziphatha. Ngoko, ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukumnyusa kwizenzo ezithile, qiniseka ukuba abayingozi nakanjani. Kwenzeka ukuba ibhinqa ibonakala: indoda yakhe ayikwazi ukufumana indawo ebomini, kwaye ayiyivuyo. Ngoko ke, intombazana ethandekayo iqala zonke iindlela ezinokwenzeka kwaye ezingenakwenzeka zokushenxisa, ukudonsa nokudonsa le ndoda ibe yinto yolonwabo. Kwaye ngenxa yesizathu esithile akafuni ukuya kuye, kwaye ukuba wenzayo, uyaba novuyo olungakumbi. Kule meko, intombazana ayikwazi ukuqonda oko kwenzekayo, kwaye yintoni eyenzileyo. Abanye baqala ukugxeka abafana ukuba babonge. Nangona, eqinisweni, ababuleli, ngoko, ngenxa yokuba ubomi babo bububi.
Ngoko ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukumnceda wakho umthandayo, zama ukuyiqonda ngokwenene. Mamela oko akutshoyo, jonga indlela akwenza ngayo. Kuphela ukuqonda okuphezulu kweminqweno yomntu kunye neenjongo kwenza kube lula ukunceda ukufumana indawo ebomini.
Hlehlisa
Wonke umntu ufuna ukwenza izigqibo ngokuzimela. Ukuba uhlala ubeka uluvo lwakho kumntu, kungekudala kamva umntu uya kuqalisa ukumelana. Ngokukodwa ukuba ngumntu. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abafana bazikhethele oko bakufunayo ebomini. Xa abafazi besenza isigqibo sabo, kuhlambalaza isidima sabantu. Ngoko ke, nokuba uqinisekile ukuba uyazi ukuba umthandayo uza kuba ngcono kangakanani, ungamgxothi ukuba enze oko ufunayo. yenza izinto eziyinyabi, musa ukuhamba malunga nomfazi. Ngoko ukuba ufuna umfana enze ukhetho olufanelekileyo, ungalokothi uthethe ngokuthe ngqo. Akusiyo nto into yokuba umzekeliso uthi indoda yintloko, kwaye umfazi uyintamo. Kumele umkhokele, kodwa ukuze loo mntu abe nokucinga: yena ngokwakhe ukhetha le ndlela. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukunceda umntu ochaphazelekayo ukufumana indawo yakhe ebomini, zama ukukhawuleza kwaye ushiye. Mhlawumbi uza kufuna ngaphezu kweenyanga enye ukuzisa kwisigqibo esifanelekileyo. Ngoko gulani uze ungazami ukufezekisa olunye usuku. Ukuba "uqhuba ihashe", ngoko, mhlawumbi, umfana akayi kukuphulaphula okanye uya kwamkela iziphakamiso zakho njengesizathu sokulungiselela uhlazo. Ngoko ke, ungalokothi uthi yonke into kanye kanye ngqo. Ngokuchaseneyo, zama ukubonisa uluvo lwakho ngendlela ebonakala ngathi utsho nje ukuba uzama ukukholisa into ethile. Ukwenza oku, ungalokothi uqalise inkulumo yakho ye-sphraz: "Ndicinga ukuba ufuna ...", "Ndicinga ukuba lixesha lakho ...", "Kodwa uPetya wenza oko, kungekhona kuwe." Kubalulekile ukuthetha ngokubanzi, ngokungathi uthetha ngezinto ezingabalulekanga, unokuthi ukuhleka. Umzekelo: "Yaye uvile ukuba iTaras iya kusebenza kuyo ...", "Andizange ndicinge ukuba iVovkasmo ...", "Kodwa uPasha uyamthanda ...". Ziyi binzana ezibangela ukuba abantu bacinge ukuba ngaba bona bafanele batshintshe into ebomini, ukuba abanye abantu bawenze. Kubantu, umbono wezokwebelana ngokulala kubaluleke kakhulu. Nangona bengayivumi ngokuzwakalayo, abafuni ukugqithisa ngakumbi kuneVova, uPetya okanye omnye umntu. Ngoko ke, ngeengxoxo ezinjalo unokuyitshintshisa loo nto umfana ukuba atshintshe ebomini bakhe. Musa ukuthelekisa nabani na, xelela nje.
Nika inkxaso yokudumisa
Ukuba indoda yakho isagqibe ukukhangela indawo yakhe ebomini, soloko umdumisa kwaye umsekele. Ngendlela, kulo mzuzwana kungase kuvele ukuba akenzi oko ukulindele nonke. Ngokomzekelo, baqulunqa ukuba uya kuba ngumprofeti owaziwayo, kwaye ngokukhawuleza waqala ukupenda imifanekiso. Khumbula into esiyithetha ngayo ekuqaleni kwe nqaku: ukufumana indawo yakho ebomini kuthetha ukwenza oko umntu oyithandayo, kungekhona wena. Ngoko ulungele ukuxhasa naluphi na ukhetho lwakhe. Nangona ucinga ukuba awuyikuzikhethela kwaye ayizuzi. Khumbula ukuba ukufumana indawo ebomini akukona ukuba ube ngummeli-mpahla ophumeleleyo owenza iifowuni. Ukufumana indawo ebomini kukuba uzive uthuthuzelekile kwaye ujabule koko wenzayo. Ngoko, ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba, ngokwenene, phantsi kwekharityhulam yoncedo, ufuna ukuzisa amaphupha kunye neminqweno yakho ngomntu, ke unqume. Kwezinye iimeko, uya kulindela ukucaphukisa kunye nokudumala, njengokuba, kunokwenzeka ukuba awuyi kufumana into oyithembayo.
Ungaze uvumele umntu wakho othandekayo ahambe ngokujikeleza ngeengqungquthela, kodwa ungadlulanga-udumise. Ukuba uphinda uphinda uhlaziye, indlela enhle ngayo kunye nendlela yonke into ilungile ngayo, ngoko ekugqibeleni, iya kuba yirekhodi eligqityiweyo, nokuba yiyiphi enye ingayithobeli ingqalelo, okanye ibonwa njengomthombo wokucaphukisa. Ngoko ke, khumbula ukuba yonke into kufuneka ibe ngumlinganiselo. Unokugxeka okuncinane, uchaze iimpazamo ezicacileyo, kodwa kufuneka kwenziwe ukwenjenjalo ukuba umfana acacile: uthetha oku kuphela kuba uyazi - unokukwenza konke ngcono. Futhi ungakulibali ukuba umntu ngamnye unomlingani wakhe kwaye uqonda yonke into ngendlela yakhe. Omnye ufuna ukugxeka, umntu ukuba adumise, kodwa umntu ulungele ukuthetha ngokuphindaphindiweyo nangaphezulu. Ngoko ke, ukuzama ukunceda wakho umthandayo, yenza konke ngamehlo kwizinto ezikhethileyo zobuntu bakhe, imbono yokudumisa okanye ukugxekwa. Khumbula ukuba umntu onokugxekwa kanzima uqokelela onke amandla abo aze ahlasele ekulweni, kwaye omnye umntu unesizathu sokuyeka nokubeka izandla.
Ukuba ufuna ukukunceda wakho umthandayo ufumane eyakho ebomini, zibuze ngoko kuqala: kodwa ngaba unokuba naye xa uphando luphela? Ngaba iya kuba yinto ekhangayo, ingqiqo, inomusa kuwe? Ngamnye wethu unendlela yethu yobomi kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abo esibabathandayo bangakwazi ukuhamba kunye nathi ngokuzithandela kwethu. Ukuba uyazi ukuba uyamthanda kwaye uqonda umhlobo wakho kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni umkhondo ekugqibeleni ukhetha, ngoko sele usuqedile isiqingatha somsebenzi. Xa umntu ekhangelelene nomntu okhangele kuye kwinqanaba elifanayo, oku kubangela umntu kwizenzo kwaye yenza ezininzi ukufezekisa. Ewe, ngaphezu kokwabelana neminqweno yenkwenkwe yakho, xelele, kodwa ungacinezeli, uncede, kodwa ungathathi nto yonke. Kumele afumane indawo yakhe ebomini ngokwakhe, kwaye uzama ukuba ngumlingane othembekileyo kwaye uthembekileyo oya kunceda ukuhamba nayo yonke imingcele kwaye aphumeze oko akufunayo.