Ngaphambi koNyaka omtsha, iingxabano zivame ukuhlaziywa. Indoda ethandekayo ayifuni ukukuthatha ekuphumleni kwamanye amazwe atshisayo, kwaye kuvela nokuba akazange acwangcise ukubhiyozela uNyaka omtsha kunye nawe kwinkampani enye. Kuwe ekhaya, izihlobo ezikude zibuza, into ongayilangazelela ukuyibona. Umphathi uyanceda ukuba uye emsebenzini, nangona iholide. Izingane zicela izipho ezibiza kakhulu. Izizathu zentukuthelo zininzi. Yaye indlela yokuphela yokufunda ukuxolela.
Ziziphi izikhalazo ezingenakuzixoxela?
Zonke iinjongo zomzimba womntu zilawulwa yinkqubo yesiseko yomnyuba kunye nokuqonda.
Sidla, sishukume, sitsho-zonke ezi zenzo singayeka kwaye siqale xa sifuna. Kodwa ngaba sikwazi ukukhawuleza okanye ukunciphisa umsebenzi weentliziyo, kunokuchaphazela ukusebenza kwesisu nesisu somzimba? Ngokudakisayo, kodwa ngeendlela ezininzi - ewe. Xa sivakalelwa ngumsindo, umsindo kunye nentukuthelo, ukuveliswa kwamanye ama hormone ukwandisa, okwenzeka ngokukhawuleza kwintlalo. Ukunyuka kwentliziyo, ukunyuka kwengcinezelo, umsebenzi wegciwane lomzimba uyaphazamiseka. Sichaphazela imeko yabanye abantu. Egumbini apho uxhatshazo lulawula khona, uxinzelelo lufumaneka kubo bonke abakhona. Kwaye phakathi kwabantu abonwabileyo, abanomdla, kwaye kulungile kwaye kushushu kuthi.
Iimvakalelo ziyasasazeka. Kwaye kwenzeka ntoni emzimbeni ukuba usulelo aluphilwanga? Isigxininiso sesifo sifana, kodwa asipheli. Kwaye ngokunciphisa ukukhuseleka, kubuyeka kwakhona. Izikhalazo ezingaxolelwanga ziqokelela ngaphakathi, zityhefu kwaye ziqala ukuchaphazela ukuziphatha nokuthetha. Umntu uba mabi nakungendawo. Ukongezelela, iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo zibonakala kubuso. Ukuxolela ngenye yeenkqubo eziphambili zokuzilungisa kunye nokuvuselela. Ukuhlakulela ukuhlambalaza, umntu njengokuba uzichaza njengexhoba kwaye ... uchukumisa abanye ukuba bamcaphuke ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
Ungashiya njani izikhalazo kunyaka omdala?
Hlaziya imeko. Nangona kubonakala kuwe ukuba ucatshulwa ngokungafanelekanga, cingisisa, ungayenza ntoni ukuziphatha okunjalo? Phendula ngokunyanisekileyo:
- Ngaba unokuthintela uphuhliso olubi lwezehlakalo?
- Ngaba wakhubekisa abo bakucaphukisa? Mhlawumbi ubuhlungu bakho, akazange azalisekise izithembiso zakho? Ngaba umxhaphazi wakho ulungile? Wayekulindele ntoni kuwe? Ngaba wayenokwenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo? Mhlawumbi wayengenakho ukukhetha?
- Ngaba uyayisebenzisa ngokunjalo isimo somntu okhubekileyo? Musa ukufihla emva kwezikhalazo nokutshintsha uxanduva lwakho kubomi bakho kwabanye?
- Ngaba uyazivumela ukuba uqhutywe?
- Akunjalo nawe unyanzelekile kwabanye?
- Ukuba ukhutshwe ngobomi (kungekhona ukuba ukubonakala, ukungabikho kwemali, ukudibanisa), ngoko wenzeni ukuba uyitshintshe?
- Ngaba uyayilwela into efanelekileyo ngokugatya inyaniso? Ukuvavanya ubomi ngobunono kwaye ungabi nomona ngeenkulungwane, iindwendwe ze-movie kunye nemizekelo ephezulu. Awubi ngaphezu kwabo - uhlukile. Kwaye akukho nto iphosakeleyo. Zama ukufikelela kwisiqhelo sakho, kuba isiqhelo siyinto efanelekileyo.
- Cela ukuxolelwa kuwo wonke umntu okhubekileyo, nangengqondo, kodwa kungcono ukwenza loo nto. Ngokomzekelo, ngokusebenzisa intanethi okanye i-imeyile. Unyaka omtsha unikeza ithuba elihle lokwenza oku ngokuchanekileyo nangokungahambi kakuhle, ukuqala ngokuvuyisana. Musa ukoyika ukuba bacinga kakubi ngawe, kunoko isenzo siya kubangela inhlonipho. Ukuba ungumkholi, vuma kumbingeleli, i-Lent yithuba elifanelekileyo kakhulu.
- Buyisela impembelelo kubenzi bezono ngokubonisa uphawu. Impindiselo enhle kakhulu: ukujonga kakuhle, ukuba uphile kwaye uphumelele.
- Ukuziqhelanisa ukuba ube nefuthe kwiingcamango zakho. Uya kuqala ukuthabatha iziganeko ezivuya.
- Ukukhulula indima yexhoba, yikhuphe isikhumba segrikhi uze uyitshise. Qalisa ukuchazela abantu ukuba kutheni ungafuni into ngaphandle kokwenza izizathu. Iqabane licela bonke abahlobo kunye nabasebenzi abasebenzisana nabo kwi-Eve's New Year's dinner, kwaye ufuna iholide yentsapho yokuthula? "Mthandi, siyaxolisa, kodwa kunzima kakhulu ukuba ndikholise iindwendwe ezininzi." Yithi hayi ngokukhululekile, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo. Uya kumangaliswa, kodwa akukho nto eyoyikwenzekayo! Abantu abanelisekanga abacaphuki, beva ukukhanyela. Kwaye abo babonisa ukunganeliseki okanye baqala ukucwina, bezama 'ukutshutshisa', abakhathalele ngemfuno yakho.
- Ungaphenduli okubi ngenxa yobubi - oku kuya kukunika ikopi yomenzi wesono.
- Yenza ukhetho olugqibeleleyo kwaye ube ngcono: bhala phantsi iimpawu ezisixhenxe zabantu abakuthandayo. Faka uluhlu olukufutshane nebhedi. Njalo ekuseni, ukuvuka, gxininisa enye yeempawu uze uzame ukubandakanya emini. Ngenyanga leyo ezi zinto ziya kuqinisa, kwaye ube yingxenye yomlingiswa wakho.
- Khumbula: amacala kufuneka aqoshwe kwisantya, kunye nemihlali - gweba kwi-granite.
- Ndiyabulela intlekele imihla yonke ohlala kuyo. Ngokwenene akunjalo? Ukuba unayo imilenze nemilenze, isiqwenga sesonka kunye nophahla phezu kwentloko yakho, uyonwabile kwaye ucebile ngaphezu kwama-80% ebemi behlabathi. Njalo kusihlwa khumbula oko kwenzeka kuwe. Ukubulela kunceda ukugxila kwizinto ezintle nezixabisekileyo.
- Nceda umntu obi ngaphezu kwakho. Yizisa umthi weKrisimesi kwaye unyamekele kwi-hospice okanye kwiintandane, nondle umceli okanye ubuncinane isilwanyana esingenamakhaya. Nika izinto ezingadingekile kumahlwempu. Izenzo ezilungileyo ziphilisa kakhulu umphefumlo.
- Ngethuba lokuvutha komsindo, gcina ukuphefumla kwakho ixesha elincinci. I-carbon dioxide eyongeziweyo igxininisa umsebenzi wengqondo kwiziko lokuphefumula, kwaye kuphuma umsindo.
- Ukuba ukukhutshulwa kwakukhunjulwa, qhafaza. Ukuba uyedwa, khalaza phezulu kwezwi lakho. Yithi: "Ndiyomelele!" Oku kuya kutshabalalisa ingcamango engalunganga kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe ibe yinto yokucinga yowomqoqo.
- Misela indawo engalunganga ngokufanelekileyo. Kanye ngeveki, zidibanisa ezintle: ukuhlangabezana nokusa kwendalo, ukuya kwimiboniso yezobugcisa, amakhonsathi omculo, yenza oko kukukhulula ukuzonwabisa.
"Yonke iya kudlula, kwaye oku kuya kudlulela" - yayigwetshiwe kwintendelezo kaKumkani uSolomon, ibonwa njengomntu oyingqondi kunazo zonke ngexesha lakhe. Isikhalazo sakho sincinci kakhulu ukuzalisa ubomi okanye ubuncinane omnye unyaka. Ewe, ukuba awuyikuxabisa kwaye uyayithanda ...