Kutheni umntu engasondeli ubuhlobo obusondeleyo? Masizame ukuyifumanisa.
Ubuhlobo obusondeleyo bufaniswa nekhamera kwi-IFle. Uyayixabisa kakhulu inkululeko kwaye akanakulungele ukuya kwimilinganiselo eyingozi xa kukho ithuba lokulahlekelwa yiyo. Inyaniso yokuba uye waya kwiindawo ezininzi zokuphula umthetho: wayeka ukuya kwiiklabhu kunye nabahlobo, akafaneki ukuhlangana nabahlobo-oku kungenayo inxaxheba kuye. Ndikholelwe, inyaniso yokuba siyinqumle inkululeko yabo kubo ayinakuyithandwa. Kodwa, nanko, uloyiko lokuba uya kubotshwa ngesandla nangenyawo. Kule meko, kuyimfuneko ukucacisa kumntu wakho ukuba isicwangciso sakho asibandakanyi ukumbeka ekhoneni ngaphandle kwakhe. Emva koko, kukholo lokuba ulwalamano oluqinileyo lugcinwa.
Sekunjalo, enye yezinto ezibalulekileyo ezichaphazela amadoda kukuba bonke abahlobo bakhe bakhululekile kwaye abaxinzelelwanga buhlobo. Emva kokungena ebuhlotsheni obusondeleyo kunye kunye nawe, unokuba ngumhlambi omnyama kubahlobo. Kwindoda, akukho nto yimbi kunokuba ibonakale ihlukile kubahlobo bakhe. Ukuba umntu wakho uxhomekeka kakhulu kwiingcamango ezizungezile, ngoko uya kufuneka ukhuthazele, okanye ukhangela iqabane elitsha, ngubani oza kuzimela ngokwengeziwe kwizigqibo zakhe.
Bonke abantu bafuna ukuba nentombazana. Kodwa, ininzi yabo iyaqonda ukuba intombazana iindleko ezongeziweyo. Isiphoso sempahla somntu sihlala sisithintelo phakathi kwentliziyo yothando. Kule meko, mhlawumbi kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba ukhethiwe ukuba imali ayikudlala indima ebalulekileyo kuwe. Kodwa, ukuba usacinga ukuba ufanelwe iintetho ezintle kunye nezipho ezibizayo, ngoko akufanelekile ukuphula intliziyo yomfana kwaye uqaphele izicwangciso zakho zamanye amazwe.
Akanayo indawo yakhe yokuhlala, apho angakumema khona. Vumelani ukuba ukuhlala nabazali akusivivinywa kwintliziyo ephazamisekileyo, nokuba ngaba abazali bezingelosi.
Uhlala unengqondo, kwaye akukho mntu ophilayo onokukwazi ukujamelana nezicelo zakho. Ewe, awuboni ezi mpazamo kuwe. Kwaye uyabona nje ukuba indoda yakho ikukhupha zonke izandla kunye neenyawo. Ngokwemvelo, kuwe kule meko kukho kuphela umntu oyedwa-nguYe! Kodwa, kubalulekile ukubheka ukuziphatha kwakho okanye, ukuba kunzima, cela umntu wakho ukuba anike iingcebiso. Ukuba uyathandekayo kuwe, ngoko kufanelekile ukuya kwihlabathi uze uzame ukutshintsha. Ngale ndlela, uya kuzisa uvuyo kwimibutho yakho.
Unomdla kakhulu. Uhlala utsho ukuba ufuna ukuba nabantwana, usapho. Kwaye, ngokubanzi, uphupha umtshato kwaye ngokukhawuleza, kulunge. Inyosi, khumbula ukuba yindleko kakhulu indoda? Inkululeko. Musa ukubeka izimvo zakho kuye. Emva kwexesha, uya kufuna okufanayo. Kwaye, kholwa kum, ukuba uthetha esi sigqibo ngokwakhe, uya kukuxabisa ngakumbi ubuhlobo bakho.
Mhlawumbi isizathu sokuba indoda yakho igxeke wena? Usemncinci kakhulu, mhlawumbi ufuna ukuhamba kwaye ujabule, kwaye ubudlelwane nentombazana akuyikho inxalenye yezicwangciso zakhe.
Amadoda abesele anamava obundlobongela obukhulu, qaphela into edabukisayo, kunzima kakhulu ukuya kubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Kufuneka bafunde kwakhona ukuba bathemba, bathande. Bahlala becinga ukuba ulwalamano olulandelayo luya kukhula ngokucwangciswa kwesikimu esidala kwaye zonke iintombazana zifakwe kuvavanyo olufanayo. Akuyimfuneko ukucinezela kwaye, ngaphezu koko, ukuphikisana nomntu onjalo. Nantsi into enhle kakhulu - ukunyaniseka, ukufudumala, uthando nothando. Kwaye, i-iceberg yakho, ekugqibeleni iya kuguqa phambi kwakho. Kwaye, xa oko kwenzeka, xa ekholelwa wena-uya kuba ngumzekelo, oza kuthwala ngawo.
Bantombazana abathandekayo, nangayiphi na ingxaki ebubudlelwaneni, kubalulekile ukujongwa kwingcambu! Ungazami ukutshintsha nokuphula amadoda - akusiyo umsebenzi onombulelo ongenamsebenzi.