Indlela yokubonisa intlungu phakathi kwendoda nentombazana

I-Robot yenye yezo mvakalelo ezikhusela ukuvela kobudlelwane. Kungokuthi ngamanye amaxesha asikwazi ukuqonda: yintoni into esiyenzela ngayo imvakalelo yethu kunye neminqweno yethu? Kunzima ukuqagela nokuziva umphefumlo womnye umntu. Ngamanye amaxesha ayisebenzi nakubantu abasondeleyo kunye nabasondeleneyo, oko kuthetha ntoni ngoko malunga nabantu abangaqhelekanga abanzulu kwiintliziyo zabo iphupha lokuba ababaziyo baya kuhluma baze bahlalisane kakuhle. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uqale ucinge ngobudlelwane nomntu, kufuneka ufumane: ngaba lo mntu unomdla kuwe njengoko unomdla kuye? Inqaku lethu lanamhlanje elibizwa ngokuthi "Ububele njani phakathi kwendoda nentombazana echazwe?" Uya kukuxelela ukuba iziphi iimpawu ezinikezwa ngumfana zingabonwa njengobonakaliso bokuqala.

Kukho imiqondiso emininzi ebonisa indlela uvelwano olubonakalisa ngayo phakathi kwendoda nentombazana. Kufuneka nje ukwazi ukuwafumana ngexesha, uqonde kwaye ubambelele - kwaye oku kwandisa amathuba okuqhubeka eyaziwayo. Emva kwakho konke, amadoda, nangona kubonakala ngathi, bahlala bexhala, besaba ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala, ukuba ababonanga nayiphi na imiqondiso evela kwintombazana ayithandayo. Kodwa le ntombazana ayinakwenzeka ukuba ilungiselele "isohlwayo", ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba lo mfana ubonisa umdla omkhulu kuye.

Ngoko, sinokumisela njani - njani uvelwano lwabo luboniswe?

Khawuleza uqaphele: uvelwano luya kufihlwa okanye lucaciswe ngokugqithiseleyo, kwaye ukuba isibini kulula ukubona, ngokokuqala, baya kuthi babe, njengokuba bathi, baqubuke.

Okokuqala kuzo zonke. Uvelwano oluvela phakathi kwendoda nentombazana ibonakaliswa kwiso. Akunanto yinto abayithethayo yokuba amehlo asemachibi omphefumlo. Ngoko ke, banokufunda yonke into umntu avakalelwa ngayo, yintoni abavakalelwa ngayo xa bakubona. Kufuneka nje ukwazi ukuyifunda.

Ngoko, uvelwano olufihlakeleyo lubonakaliswa ngamehlo adibeneyo apho indoda iphosa khona ngezinye izihlandlo. Ixesha leembono lixhomekeke kuninzi, into ephambili kukuba awuqapheli ukuba uhlolisisa. Nangona kunzima ukungaqapheli indlela umculi wamehlo akhe "ahlola" ngayo. Xa uzama ukubamba iliso lakhe - mhlawumbi uya kuthatha amehlo akhe, mhlawumbi, aya kuguqa ngokukhawuleza, kodwa akayi kukwazi ukuzibamba kwaye ngokukhawuleza umzuzwana uya kuphakamisa amehlo akho. Umfana uya kukukhangela ngokuqhagamshelana rhoqo - uya kuzama ukuhlala kufuphi nawe, ukuze akwazi ukuthetha nawe amagama ambalwa, okanye ukhangele nje ngokunyanisekileyo.

Uvelwano oluvulekileyo, nalo, lubonakaliswa ngombono, kodwa le mbono igxininisa ngakumbi kwaye iphakamileyo. Ngaphezu koko, ekubeni ukhange kangakanani kwintetho kunye namehlo akho, uya kufumana impendulo engapheliyo kuwe. Amehlo akhe abuza: "Uthanda ntoni na? Mhlawumbi siza kuzana ngakumbi? " Ukubukeka okunesibindi kukuxabisa kakhulu, uvakalelwa ngumntu wakho wonke, ukuyeka ixesha elide emilenzeni, esifubeni nasezinqeni. Emehlweni akhe, ungafunda imvume yokuba iifom zakho zibangele. Ewe, akubona onke amantombazana afana nale mibukiso evulekileyo-bacinga ukuba yingozi kakhulu kwaye ihambe ukuba umfana ubona kuye kuphela into yokukhwabanisa ngokwesondo, ngelixa isisigxina esincinci sokukhuthaza umntu ukuba ahlolisise owakhethiweyo kumacala onke. Ukukhupha umntu ngokubonakala kuyinto elula-xa ejonga intombazana, kwaye uyayithanda kakhulu, abafundi bakhe bayanda kwangoko, kwaye ke nayiphi na imbonakalo engeyiyo, ukunyaniseka okanye ugonyamelo kususwe, le ndoda ibheka ngenyameko, njengokungathi ikhupha amehlo.

Kodwa ukukhangela akusiyo kuphela isikhali samadoda nabasetyhini evumela umntu ukuba abonise umdla wakhe kwintsimi echaseneyo.

Okulandelayo kumgca uyisenzo. Ulwimi lwezandla luhluke kakhulu, ukuba uhlalutya kwisifundo sawo, unokuhlola kwaye uqaphele nawuphi na umntu ngaphandle kokusebenzisa ingxoxo, kodwa ukhangele nje izandla zakhe, ubonakala. Ukusetyenzwa kweempawu ezingabonakaliyo kwindoda kumntu onotyebi njengabasetyhini, kodwa kukho imiqondiso emininzi yovelwano, ichazwe ngokuchanekileyo kwimpawu.

Ngokomzekelo, ngokukhawuleza xa intombazana enhle ibonakala kwintsimi yembonjana yenkwenkwezi, ngokukhawuleza iqala ukungazi kakuhle ngokungazi kakuhle. Ukhawuleza uguqula i-vortex ephazamisayo ngesandla sakhe, udonsa ibhatyi lakhe, sele sele lihleli ngokugqibeleleyo kumfanekiso. Umfana unako ukukhawuleza ukuzula umbane okanye uthuli, ongekho ngokwenene-yinto nje yintsikithi ebiza ukuba ibonakale ilungileyo phambi kwento yokukhanga.

Enye intshukumo engaziwayo, leyo intloko inika indoda, ibonakala ngathi. Umfana ekuboneni intombazana eyithandayo imisa izithupha zaso zombini ngezandla emva kwebhola. Kutheni? Ukutsala ingqalelo kwintombazana ukuba ibe yintloko "yelungu" lomntu. Nangona oku akuthethi ukuba umnqweno wakhe kukukutsala ukuba ulale. Awukwazi ukunyathela kwizilwanyana kunye nemvelo, njengoko besithi.

Yaye isenzo sokugqibela esithetha ngomdla wesilisa sisigxina esikhethekileyo, xa evala izandla zakhe ezinqeni, uphendukela emzimbeni kwintombazana kwaye uqondise inyawo lezicathulo ngokubhekiselele, njengokungathi ihlose into yokuba uvelwano.

Ngoku makhe sithethe ngokumomotheka. Emva koko, esi sikhali esinamandla sabini zesini! Abantu bakholelwa ngokuphosakeleyo ukuba ukuba bayamomotheka, kuthetha ukuba bayabahawukela. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka, kodwa ukumamatheka kuyahluke kwaye injongo yawo iyahluka. Ezinye zisetyenziselwa ukuthetha malunga novelwano ngomnye umntu. Abanye - ukulungiselela umntu ngokwabo ngenjongo yento evela kuye. Kukho ukumomotheka okubonisa ukuba nesimo sengqondo esibi kumntu.

Ngoko, ukuba umnxibelelwano wakho uncumo nge "Hollywood smile" kuwo wonke umlomo wakhe, kodwa amehlo akhe akabonakalisi nantoni na imizwa evulekileyo kule nto - kuthetha ukuba umntu uyasondela kuwe ngeenjongo ezithile zokuzimela. Kodwa ubumnandi obukhulu, ukufudumala emehlweni kunye nokuhleka ngokukwenkcaza kubonisa indawo efanelekileyo yomntu onxibelelana naye kumntu wakho.

Kukhona omnye umomothekayo, owathi, nangona kubonakala ngathi ayimangalisa, usabonisa uvelwano olufihliweyo kumntu. Yiyo xa bakukhangela ngomusa, eveza phantse onke amazinyo ngokumomotheka, ukugoba iintloko zawo kunye ne-iso elilodwa. Kuyinto ephosakeleyo, kuthetha ukuba lo mntu uhlala kuwe, ngoku nje uziphathe ngokumnandi kwaye unomdla, kodwa ulungele ukukuxolela. Nangona kunjalo, akuyimfuneko ukudibanisa ukumomotheka okungenangqondo kunye ne-grin, xa ubuso bomntu buphazamiseka, iso liba lincinci, kwaye amazinyo angenayo ayabonakali.

Unika umntu, kunye nelizwi lakhe, athathwe ngumntu. Nangona kunjalo, akuyi kuba ngumkhwa wesifazana ukuthetha kwii-halftones eziphantsi. Indoda yindoda, kwaye kwingxoxo apho umntu enomdla kuye inxaxheba, uya kubhala ngokukhawuleza ukukhala kwangempela kwendoda. Uya kwangoko uqaphela ukuba ilizwi lakhe litshintshile njani. Ngabantu abalungile kunye naye ngexesha le ncoko, kwaye nangakumbi ke ngubani owenza iimpawu zokunakana kwintombi yakhe, uya kuthetha ngokukhawuleza nangentlonelo njengabadlali. Kodwa xa uthetha intombazana, isithintelo siya kutshintshwa, intetho iya kuba yimiqulu yokucula, ilizwi liya kuba linyameko kwaye liya kuthulula njengomlambo.

Njengoko ubona, kulula kakhulu ukucacisa ukuba uvelwano lwavuka phakathi kwendoda kunye nentombazana-ibonakaliswa kuyo yonke into evela kwizinto ezibonakalayo ezinesithakazelo, ukubonakalisa izinto ezintle kunye namazwi. Into eyona nto kukuqonda ikhwelo lomfana kwaye uyiphendule - kwaye uvelwano lwakho lunokukhula lube luhlobo olunzulu nolomeleleyo!