Ngaba nguye kuphela "Indlela yokufumanisa oko kufuneka ukwazi ngaye Ngendlela yokujonga ukuba uyayithanda? Nokuba ungatshata njani kwaye ungenzi iphutha xa ukhetha?
Okokuqala, kufuneka uxoxe naye ngendima yomyeni, kwaye uzibone njengomfazi. Oku kufanele kube yinxalenye yengxoxo yakho yansuku zonke. Kungcono ukuqala ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka. Kodwa khumbula, oku akufanele kube ngumbuzo kunye nomlutha! Sebenzisa ixesha lokusebenzisa, ukufumanisa ukuba ngubani ngokwenene.
Ingxoxo enjalo inefuthe elihle ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane. Oku kukuphelisa ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ungathetha naye yonke into, ukuphazamisa kwingxoxo kuya kutshabalala kwaye uya kubelana ngeengcamango zakhe. Kodwa into ebalulekileyo kukuba uyamthanda umkhethileyo kwaye uzama ukufunda okungakumbi ngaye. Ubuhlobo obuqinileyo busekelwe kolwazi, kungekhona kwimibono. Ukuba ukuba "uthande" kuthetha "ukuqonda" umntu, ngoko umanyano wakho uya kuba namandla kwaye ahlangane. Ukuba wenza konke ngokuqhubekayo, kwaye ugxininise kumntu, kwaye kungekhona ekutyelele iikhamera okanye iikofu, umphumo awuyi kuthatha ixesha elide. Kwaye unokuyayiqonda kakuhle into oyikhethileyo. Enyanisweni, ukutshata kwaye ungenzi iphutha akunzima kunokuba kubonakale kunzima.
Akuyimfuneko ukutshintshana. Ngaphandle koko, ekugqibeleni, uya kulahleka ixesha kunye nempilo, ngoko mamela indoda yakho kwaye uvuselele umnqweno wokuthetha ngaye. Mcele ukuba avule kuwe kwaye kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuba ulahle umntu ongafanelekanga. Ukukhetha umntu ngomoya, umkhuthaze ukuba uthethe ngentliziyo, ukuba atshate kwaye angenzi iphutha, kufuneka uqonde iqabane lakho. Maye amazwi akhe athande naye. Amadoda athande abafazi abazimisele ukuphulaphula. Emva kokuba usebenzise ukuthetha ngolunye uhlobo, umntu akayi kubona ukuba uyambuza. Kodwa nangona uqaphela oku, uya kuqhubeka ekuthetha nawe kwaye uthetha ngaye. Emva koko, wonke umntu uyazi ukuba abantu bathanda ukuthetha ngabo. Amadoda amaninzi aya kunqwenela ukuba bayaqonda ukuba uyakwazi ukuphulaphula.
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuqonda indlela umntu azixabisa ngayo. Uyavuya ukuxelela nawe ngemfanelo yakhe, kodwa ngokukhawuleza - ukungaphumeleli, kunye nokutshata kwaye ungenzi iphutha, kufuneka ukwazi zonke iinkalo zomthandi wakho. Ufuna nje umonde omncinane kunye nokuqonda. Ukuphulaphula ngenyameko kuye, ungayikhohlwa malunga nodumo ukuze umthobele kwaye uzuze. Ngaloo nto ubonisa ukuba uyona mlingane ofanelekileyo kakhulu.
Ngoko, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba kukho into ekhethekileyo malunga nayo eyahlukanisa nabanye, ngoko yodwa kunye neyodwa efunayo kwiqabane lakho. Kule nqanaba, abaviwa baphononongwa. Ukuze ulawule kakuhle, mbuze imibuzo, kwaye ungathethi ngawe. Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ufanelekile, ngoko uya kumxelela ngaye.
Xa udibana nendoda, zifumanisa izinto zokuphila kunye neenjongo zakhe zokuphila ukuze uqinisekise ukuba ufanelekile, nokuba ungatshata naye, nokuba uya kwenza iphutha xa ukhetha. Kodwa kuqala uchaze ngokucacileyo iimpawu kunye neenjongo zakho. Ungakwazi ukubhala phantsi, ngoko unokuzifanisa kamva neziphumo. Izimpendulo akufanele zihambisane, kufuneka zifaniswe.
Ngaphambi kwam, ngokubodwa, kwakuyimibuzo enoba ndikhethile umntu ofanelekileyo. Siye sadibana neenyanga ezi-7 sele Ngaphambi kwakhe kwakukho abesilisa, kodwa ngomhla wesibini ndaqonda ukuba babengenabo isibini. Kwenzeke ngokuzenzekelayo. Kwaye ngoku ndaqala ukucinga ngakumbi ngekamva nangaloo migaqo yonyulwayo ephendula yam. Ukubona ukunakekelwa nokuqonda emehlweni akhe, ndaqonda ukuba uyandithanda ngokwenene kwaye uyilungele yonke into kum. Kubonakala into encinci, kodwa kuphela umntu onothando ngokwenene uya kuthi "Ndifuna ukuba nomntwana kuphela kuwe". Ekuqaleni andizange ndiyiqonde intsingiselo yalo, kodwa ngoku, emva kokufunda uninzi lweencwadi, ndiqonda ukuba akukho mntu oya kufuna umntwana kuphela, oko kuthetha ukuba sele sele ethembele ekukhethweni kwakhe. Yaye yedwa olungele ukulinda kuwe yonke imihla. Enye into eyenza ndicinga kwaye ndenze isigqibo esibalulekileyo ebomini bam ... sitshatile.