Unentombi, uyonwabile, ufuna ukuba ikhule ibe namandla, zimeleyo kwaye iyavuya. Oku kungafezwa njani? Uthando olungunina lomama. Kubalulekile ukuba ugcine engqondweni yakho kwinqanaba lobomi bomntwana wakho. Ngaloo nto ke intombazana yakho iya kuba ngumfazi - uyonwabile kwaye uyonwabile, uyakwazi ukujamelana nayo yonke into ebomini. Ngoko, unina nentombi: i-psychology yobudlelwane ngumxholo wengxoxo namhlanje.
Ubuntwana: ube ngumzekelo kwintombi
Ekuqaleni, wena uliziko lehlabathi lonke ngentombi yakho. Kungenxa yokuba intombi ichitha iminyaka yokuqala yobomi kunye nexesha elininzi kunye nawe. Ngeli thuba naye ufunda rhoqo kuwe. Yintoni? Enyanisweni, yonke into - indlela yokonwaba, indlela yokudlala ngothando, indlela yokubonisa intlungu, indlela yokucaphuka okanye ukunyamekela abanye. Ngentombi, ungumntu ongaphezu komama. Ngoko intombazana kuyo yonke into iya kulandela umzekelo wakho: ukudlala ekhaya ngeedodoli, ukujika phambi kwesibuko, ukuzama kwiingubo zakho. Oku kwenza kube lula ukuzibonela ngokwabelana ngesondo kunye nokulungiselela intombazana ngokuzaliseka kokuzaliseka kweentlalo zentlalo - abafazi, abafazi kunye noomama. Zama ukwenza le nto!
Iingcebiso kumama:
- Lahla indlela yokuziphatha "yentombi yam ikopi yam." Khumbula, akufanele abe netalente yokudweba nje ngokuba uneminyaka engama-60 ubudala. Nika intombazana ilungelo lokuphuhlisa ngokuhambelana nokuzikhethela kwakhe. Emva koko ukuphuhliswa kweetalente zakhe kuya kuhambelana ngokufanelekileyo nangempumelelo.
- Unxibelelwano oluninzi kunye nolonwabo malunga nayo yonke into ehlabathini. Khuthaza ukuthembela kwakhe, uphendule ngesineke imibuzo engapheliyo. Oku kuya kukunceda uqalise ubuhlobo obusondeleyo obuya kuba sisiseko esiqinileyo sobuhlobo kamva.
- Vumela intombazana encinci kukunceda malunga nendlu kuyo yonke into. Mkhuthaze, nokuba ngaba kufuneka uvuselele kwakhona umsebenzi. Ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza, mncedise ukuba kukho into engasebenzi. Kwixesha elizayo, ngokuqinisekileyo ezi zakhono azakusetyenziswa.
- Intombi ukususela kumncinane kufuneka ibone ukuba abazali banobungane komnye nomnye, ukuba umama noyise bayamhlonela baze bamnyamekele. Oku kubalulekile. Intombazana ifunda ukuba kukho i-psychology ubudlelwane, indlela yokuziphatha kwintsapho, indlela yokunyamekela nokubonisa uthando.
Intombazana-intombazana: mayekeze amaphiko ayo
Kwinqanaba lolwakhiwo lolutsha, nayiphi na intombi ifuna 'ukuzincoma' kumama othile ukuze ikwazi ukuzama ukuzithemba nokukhula kwayo. Ngoko ke, xa uzama ukukhusela umntwana osetsheni kwiintsholongwane ezahlukeneyo (umzekelo, uthando olubi, ukukhulelwa okungenakulungiswa) - uya kuthukuthela aze aphelelwe umonde. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukuba ngeli xesha le ntombazana sele ikwazi ukufumana amava kunye nengcamango yakhe. Intombazana yakho ayifanele isenze ngokungaqhelekanga kwimigaqo yakho. Abantwana balindele ukuba sithembele, kodwa abafuni ukuba iimfihlo zabo zixoxwe. Kule minyaka ubudala intombazana ixhalabele nakweyiphi na imiqondiso yoxinzelelo kunye nokugxeka. Ngamanye amaxesha izigwebo zakho ezibuhlungu kunye nezilumkiso zenza izinto ezinzima okanye iingxabano.
Iingcebiso kumama:
- Ukulawula umda. Ungazivumeli ukuba ufunde i-imeyile yentombi yakho, ufunde i-SMS yakhe okanye ubambe kwi-drawers table.
- Thetha nentombi yakho malunga nemiba ephathelele kwisondo. Yenza oku, nangona kunjalo, ngendlela yokuba imibuzo yokuziphatha ngesondo ayifuni isongela kuye okanye, ngokulandelanayo, idlala. Intombazana kufuneka ive ukuba ubona kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngale ndawo, kunye nemiba yokukhulelwa.
- Zama ukugxeka abahlobo kunye neentombi zakhe, nangona ungazithandi. Kunoko gxininisa ukukhathazeka kwakho ngenduduzo yakhe ngamazwi: "Akumangalisi ukuba uMark akazange akulethe ekhaya emva kweqela, ndiyakhathazeka ngenxa yakho."
- Yincoma intombazana yakho. Dumisa, umzekelo, inwele zakhe, ukwakheka kunye nomfanekiso. Kudinga ukuthumela kwakho ukufumana ukuzithemba.
- Ungazami ukunyanzelisa "ukucima" kweemfihlelo zakhe. Abaselula bayazimela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ezinye zeemfihlelo zakhe eziza kumnika umngane wakho osondeleyo, kungekhona kuwe. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo nentombi enenkampani apho iphilile kwaye ilungu layo elithembayo.
- Musa ukuphikisana ngezinto ezingabonakaliyo. Iimbambano ezincinci (umzekelo, ukungcola egumbini) xolele ngokukhawuleza. Xa imeko iqhubeka kwaye ingxabano isongela uxhaphalo lwakho - khumbula, malunga ... nokuzihlaziya.
Abantu abadala: bajabule baze baxhase
Ukuvukela kwentsha kubuthathaka ngaphezu kwexesha. Nangona kunjalo, unina kaninzi akayi kubona ukuba intombi yakhe isiba ngumdala. Kwaye ke imbangela yongquzulwano ingaba nayiphi na into: ukuziphatha kwentombazana, oshiya kumama onobuhle, iifowuni ezingabonakaliyo ngeefowuni okanye umsebenzi ongekho nto umama ayifunayo intombi yakhe ukuba icinge. Isiphumo? Unina nentombi bathatha kakubi kakhulu. Intombi ayifuni ukulawulwa, kwaye umama unomuzwa wokuthi unokulahlekelwa kuqala. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokomeleza ulawulo lokuphila kwentombi. Umama uhlala efundisa intombi yakhe indlela yokuphila, ibeka zakhe izisombululo kwiingxaki zakhe.
Iingcebiso kumama:
"Yenza intombi yakho iphile ubomi bayo." Zama ukuyeka ukubonisana okuqhubekayo, umnxeba, ukutyelela, ukukhupha iimvavanyo. Oku kubuthathaka kwamanyathelo kubalulekile, ukwenzela ukuba intombazana encinci ingakhathazeki kakhulu yinkathalo yabantwana kwaye ibe nesibindi sokulandela indlela yakhe.
- Ungalindelanga ukuthotyelwa kwintombi yakho. Ungalokothi usebenzise i-darkmail engummangaliso ukuba uphumelele kwiipatheni zakho zokuziphatha kunye nemicimbi yokulungisa. Ungasebenzisi indlela, njengathi "Ukuba awuhlali ekhaya namhlanje - ndiya kugula ngentliziyo kwakhona. Ngaba awukhathalele ngokwenene umama? .. njalo njalo. Ngokuqinisekileyo intombi yakho ayinakuhlala isenza ngendlela ofuna ngayo. Kukhona njengomntu. Yaye nangona ethanda, uya kuzikhethela oko kukubakho ebomini.
- Ungamgxeka umntu othandayo kwintombi yakho. Intombazana inelungelo lokuzikhethela ngokomoya. Ewe, uyafuna ukuba akuthande. Zama ukubona kuyo into enhle, kunokuhlala ubeka iingxaki zayo.
- Ngaba intombi iya kuba ngumama kungekudala? Mnike inkxaso, kodwa yenza ngokucophelela. Ungatsho oku: "Kuhle ukuba unqume ukuba ngumzali." Ngokukhawuleza ukuba undenze, ndixelele. " Khumbula ukuba umama osemncinci akafanelekanga (kwaye akakwazi) ukuba namava amaninzi kunawe. Yaye uncedo lwakho kunye nemiyalelo iya kuba yinto ebalulekileyo kuye. Nika intombi yakho incede: "Ngomso ndihleli kunye nosana, kwaye uya kumafilimu kunye nomyeni wakho." Inkxaso enjalo iya kubonwa ngabantwana bakho ubomi bakho bonke.
Iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo zomama
Unonophelo oluninzi kunye nobunikazi. Khuthaza intombi yakho ukuba inxibelelane nawe ukwenza izigqibo ezinxulumene naye, kodwa ingamchaphazeli ngqo. Mamela iingcebiso zabaselula (umzekelo, malunga nokukhethwa kwesikolo, iimpahla, ukuzonwabisa) kwaye uzame ukuwalandela.
Ukugxekwa kunye nokuziphatha okuqhubekayo kudibanisa abazali kunye nabantwana. Esikhundleni sokubonakalisa iimpazamo kwiintombi zakho, mcebise ngokuthe rhoqo ukuba ungenza njani kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Yaye ukuba izimvo zingenakugwemeka - zisoloko zenza yedwa kunye nentombi yakho (kwaye ingekho ebusweni bayo nabahlobo okanye umhlobo).
Ulwalamano. Ungazami ukufana nentombazana engumfana nangayiphi na indleko. Awudingi ukukhangela
kwaye wenze njengabahlobo bentombi ukuba abe nolwalamano oluhle naye. Khumbula ukuba ufuna umama, kungekhona umncintiswano.
Ukungabi nokholo, ukuxhalabisa. Ukuthintela intombi yakho kwimiphumo yokuziphatha okumngcipheko (umzekelo, utywala, inkampani embi) ngumsebenzi ongcwele woomama. Kodwa ngelo xesha, intombazana kufuneka ivezele ukukhathazeka kwayo, kwaye ingabi yintsikelelo ebomini bayo, ngabahlobo kunye nezenzo.
Ukuhlambalaza. Oku akufanele kubekho phakathi koomama nentombi-ingqondo yezobudlelwane ayinyani ukunyanzelana. Musa ukuhlazisa intombi yakho. Ungalokothi usebenzise amagama athi "ewe, zijonge!", "Ewe unemilenze efana nomdlalo" okanye "yintoni ekhanda lakho - kungekhona inwele, kodwa utshani!". Ngaloo ndlela, usika amaphiko akho ngokwakho kumntwana wakho.