Kuphela kuphela "kodwa" ... Nguye kanye umntu, oye waxinezeleka, akahlali lula kuso. Akuyimfuneko ukuba ube nokuziphatha okufanelekileyo, kodwa indlela efanelekileyo.
Izinto ezibangelwa ukudandatheka
- Ukuthatha amayeza athile kunokubangela ukucindezeleka. Ekubeni le meko ihlala yesikhashana, ayifuni unyango olukhethekileyo kunye nendlela.
- Inkunkuma okanye izifo ezinzulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu banelungelo lokubonakalisa ukudakumba xa omnye osapho lunezifo okanye ulwa nesifo.
- Iziganeko zokuqhuma ebomini: iziganeko ezinjalo ziba ngumsebenzi omtsha okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ukulahlekelwa kwawo, ukuphumelela, umtshato okanye umtshato, umtshato okanye umhlala phantsi, njl.
- Iziganeko zengxabano rhoqo kwiintsapho okanye ngabahlobo.
- Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwexwabile okanye utywala: malunga nama-30% abantu abanexilongo okanye utywala baxilisayo baxinezeleka.
- Ukufa okanye ukulahlekelwa ngabantu abathandekayo kunye nabathandekayo ngokuqhelekileyo kukhokelela kwiindawo ezixinezelekileyo.
UMarina, oneminyaka engama-32 ubudala:
- Ndadibana no-Alexei ngexesha elifanelekileyo lobomi bakhe. Wabona ukulila ngokwenene kunye neengxaki ebomini: ukufa komntwana, umtshato, ubunzima bezezimali ngenxa yemboleko kunye neengxaki kwilizwe. Kule meko, ubomi bomntu bulahlekelwa yintsikelelo, kubonakala ngathi akukho mntu ngenxa yakhe nangenxa yoko kukufanelekile ukuba aphile ... Kuba mna uLyosha yayiyintsikelelo yobomi bam, wayeyilo lam elizayo kunye nethemba lam. Ngokwemvelo, kwakunguye mna owayefanele "ambuyisele ebomini," ukunika ithemba ngekamva. Enyanisekileyo, kwakungelula. Okubaluleke kakhulu - ndamnika uAlexe ukuba aqonde ukuba ndimfuna. Saba njengabafazi bomntu ababini: bathetha ngezinto zonke ehlabathini, bachitha ubusuku, bahamba ngeendlela ezithulekileyo zobusuku, baya kwiimvumi, baze bafumana umdlalo oqhelekileyo-ukuqhuba epakini ekuseni. Emva kweenyanga ezintandathu kuphela ndaqaphela ukuba imeko iyatshintsha. ULyosha utshintshe imisebenzi, ubunzima bezimali buphelile, kwaye emva konyaka ndakhulelwa ...
Iingcebiso zengqondo:
Kukho imeko ezinzima kwaye ezingenakulinganiswa ebomini kuba kunzima ukuba umntu aphume kwimeko yokudakumba. Abantu beza kuncedisa, lo mntu uxabisa kakhulu kwaye abo banganika umntu into engenayo. Kwiimeko kunye no-Alexei noMarina, le ndoda yafumana into ayiphosayo kwaye yintoni elahlekelwa ngayo: umlingane womntwana nomntwana.
Kuya kuba nzima ukukhangela imeko xa kungekho ezo zinto ezihlawulelwayo ukuba umntu afune ukubuyela kwimpilo eqhelekileyo ukusuka kwimeko yokudakumba. Ngokuqhelekileyo kuyimfuneko kumntu oye wahlushwa ukudandatheka ukuze afumane amandla akhe angaphakathi kunye neendawo zokugcina ubomi obuqhelekileyo.
Ngoku khawucinge ngemigaqo esemqoka yokuziphatha nomntu oye wahlangabezana noxinzelelo
- Ukulandela "umgaqo wesidoda": akukho naphantsi kweemeko ezikhumbuza umntu wengxaki yakhe okanye intlungu. Zama ukuthetha ngento engathathi hlangothi, kodwa ungakulibali ukuba izihloko ezingenangqondo malunga nemozulu okanye malunga nenye into efana nale ayiyi kudlula.
- Ukubonelela ngomntu onenkxaso yokuziphatha, engenayo: mnike ithuba lokuthetha, ukukhala okanye ukuvala.
- Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba umntu ongcono kakhulu onokukunceda kwiimeko ezinzima ngumyeni okanye umfazi, isithandwa okanye intombi. Kubalulekile ukuba umntu onomzuzwana onzima uzive inkxaso nenkxaso yakho.
Ubomi obunzima kunazo zonke obangela iintlobo ezinzima zokudakumba kukulahlekelwa ngabantu abathandekayo nabathandekayo. Kwimeko enjalo, kufuneka kubekho umntu oza kunceda nokuxhasa. Ukuba unomdla kumbuzo othi: "Indlela yokuziphatha nomntu oye waxinezeleka?", Ngoko ke, mhlawumbi, ungumntu ofanayo. Umsebenzi wakho awuveli kwimiphophu, kodwa akukho nto inokwenzeka. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ube nomonde nokunyamezela ukunceda wakho umthandayo kunye nomthandayo wakho unqobelele ubunzima bokuphila obuye bamfumana. Omnye kufuneka akhumbule inyaniso ebalulekileyo yobomi: kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwenzekani, ubomi buqhubeka, kwaye kukho umntu ohlala kuye okanye ngenxa yoko.