Iingqondo zithi iipesenti ezingama-75 zabemi baseburhulumenteni babhekene neengxaki ezahlukeneyo ezingqondweni. Lawa awona manqaku aqhelekileyo ahlala eduze kwethu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha aphangale inkqubo ye-nervous kubantu abaphilileyo. Ngoko ke, kuyafaneleka ukufunda indlela yokuziqonda, ngokukhawuleza ukuchonga iimpawu ezingalunganga zomlingiswa womntu. Indlela yokuqaphela nendlela yokuziphatha kakuhle nabantu abanjalo kuya kuxutyushwa ngezantsi.
BORETS I-IDEA
Indoda enolu hlobo inegunya elingenakuphikiswa kunye nokunika amandla. Kwaye amandla akhe ngokuqhelekileyo aqondiswa kwelinye iqela, kwaye kaninzi-ukulwa nomntu. Ngokomzekelo, ugogo-u-wrestler angahle enze amacala athile kummelwane omncinci ohlala ephezulu, ngubani, ngokuya kwakhe, ngokukhawuleza uquka umculo, ukubethelela kwaye kukho konke ukuphulaphula uxolo lwakhe. Kuya kuphakamisa i-thresholster kwimingcele yamaziko asemthethweni ukuze kufezekiswe "ubulungisa". Kwaye, ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, ukunyaniseka kwakhe kudla umvuzo, kwaye ufezekisa injongo yakhe. Ngenxa yokuba ukunqoba kubakhuthaza abantu abanjalo ngamandla amakhulu, kwaye ukutshatyalaliswa kuphela kubangele ukuzingela.
Olunye uhlobo lomphefumlo - "usosayensi okhutheleyo" - unako ukusungula ngonaphakade umatshini wokunyakaza. Ngeke kube nzima kuye ukuba ayeke umsebenzi wakhe ohloniphekileyo kwaye aphephe "kwindawo yakhe yebhubhoratri" iintsuku ekupheleni. Ngendlela, indlu "yentsapho" iguqulwa lula ukuba ibe "ibhubhoratri" ukuba izaliswe iziqwenga zentsimbi, imidwebo kunye nemidwebo. Kulungile ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba umfazi nabantwana abancinci bahlale kwindawo enjalo, baze baphelelwe ngento yokuba bafuna inkxaso yenkxaso evela kubabawo! "Usosayensi onobudenge" unonembeza okwaneleyo ukubonisa umfazi wakhe ukunganeliseki ngento yokuba akanako ukubonelela intsapho, ngelixa exakekile kwishishini.
Ngendlela, ubuqhetseba bomlingiswa womntu "wokhupheli" lukwahlukana kwabo bonke abo bangqonge "abahlobo" kunye "neentshaba". Abahlobo yilabo ababelana ngeengcamango zakhe, kunye neentshaba bonke abanye. "Iintshaba" musa ukuzikhwele. Emva koko, "uMqhubi" unamandla okungaqhelekanga kwaye ukuphindezela kwakhe kuya ekupheleni.
Indlela yokuthetha?
Ukuba awukwazi ukwabelana ngombono othi "Umloli weengcamango", cwaka ngo-rag, ngaphandle koko unokufumana ithuba lokuzenza isitha esinamandla. Kodwa ukuba kwenzeka ummangaliso kwaye iinjongo zakho zihambelana naye, zidibanisa! Ndiyabulela "UFighter" uya kufezekisa kakhulu. Kwezinye iimeko, zama ukuyeka kude nayo. Ekubeni iimpawu ezimbi zalomntu womntu - ukusola, ukugqugquzela, ukungahambisani nezinye iingxaki zabantu - kwandisa kuyo yonke indawo.
UMUNTU EFUTLER
Khumbula, kwibali elidumileyo le "Man in Case" likaKhekhov, utitshala wejografi akavumelekanga ukuba aphile ubomi obunzima kunye nokungabaza? Wayephindaphinda onke amaxesha: "Yintoni eya kwenzeka," kodwa ekugqibeleni wayekhathazekile kukuba wafa. Lo titshala ungumfanekiso oqokelelweyo wobuqu obuthathaka.
Abantu abanjalo abanakuze banqabise. Nokuba xa konke kulungile, bahlushwa ngokungathandabuzekiyo: "Ngaba ndenze konke okulungileyo?", "Kutheni uMarya Petrovna wandibukela kangaka?".
Ndinomhlobo omnye ochitha malunga neyure ukuphuma endlwini. Yaye yonke into ngenxa yokuba ixesha elide lihlola i-bolts, izixhobo zombane, amanzi kunye nokukhiya. Uhlala evakalelwa kukuba ukhohliwe into yokuvala okanye ukuyivala. Eli bhinqa akudingeki ukuba aphule emsebenzini esuka ekuphakameni komhla womsebenzi aze aye kwelinye isiphelo sesixeko, ukuqinisekisa kwakhona: indawo ayizange iphangwe.
Kodwa ngazo zonke izici zabo ezimbi, abantu abanjalo banokwethenjelwa kwaye banoxanduva. Zibahlobo abahle kakhulu-soloko beba novelwano, bafike ekuhlanguleni kwimeko eminzima kwaye bangalokothi bathethe ngokuzithandela. Nangona kunjalo, lungele uhlale ucula kunye nokukhala. "Indoda kwimeko" iiyure ezimashumi amabini anesine ngosuku kwimeko yokwesaba nokuxhalabisa. Kuye, kuya kufuneka udlale indima yengqondo ye-psychotherapist: ukhuthaze kwaye ugqugquzele ukuzithemba emphefumlweni wakhe.
Indlela yokuthetha?
Ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka, jonga ukuziphatha kwakho, amagama kunye nezwi lezwi. Emva koko, "Umntu kwimeko" unokunyamezela ukubukeka okubi. Ungalokothi uligxeka, ungcono ukudumisa. Ukuba udinga ukumbuza malunga nenkonzo - ungaba neentloni: Lo mphefumlo onomdla kwikheke uya kuphuka, kodwa uzalisekise isithembiso. Nangona kunjalo, isabelo kufuneka sinikezwe ngokucacileyo kunokwenzeka. Ungathi: "Yiya esitolo uze uthenge inyama." Uya kuhamba, kodwa akayi kubuya ngokukhawuleza, kuba akayi kuyazi: a) isiphi isitorethi ahambe kuso; b) yintoni na malini angayithenga. Kufuneka ukuba uthi: "Yiya kwivenkile (yile dilesi), uthenge iikhilogram yenkomo uze uphinde ubuyele ngokukhawuleza."
I-TIRAN ENENGCWANGCISO
Ngelishwa, umntu onolu hlobo lomlingani akakwazi ukulawula ukuqhuma kwakhe komsindo. "I-tyrant" iyagula ngenxa yesiganeko esikhulu, kwaye emva kwexesha elide alikwazi ukufika kwiintliziyo. Inyaniso kukuba ukucaphuka kwakhe nentlungu yakhela kungakhathaliseki iimeko. Kwixesha elithile, "iTirana" kubalulekile ukufumana isizathu sokuba "siphule" komnye umntu, ngaphandle koko iimvakalelo ezimbi ziza kuqala ukutya ngaphakathi. Akuyi kuba nzima ngakumbi, njengomzekelo ophilayo, ukuvusa kwimemori yakho umfanekiso womnye umntu (okanye mhlawumbi wakho?) Umlingane oqeshwe okanye umphathi othukutheleyo.
Phakathi kokugqabhuka komsindo umtyholi unokuvelisa imvakalelo efanelekileyo, kodwa oku akusixesha elide. Ikhonkco elincinci kwiingubo okanye isidlo sakusasa okungenani ngomzuzu kunokuvuselela umphefumlo wakhe nentukuzelo, leyo leyo isasazeka ngokukhawuleza kwabanye. Ngexesha "logwebo olubi", zonke "izono" zazo ziyakhunjulwa. Imvakalelo emibi ingavela nangona ngokwayo, ngenxa yesizathu esicacileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha "ixesha elimnyama" lidlula iintsuku eziliqela.
Aba bantu bafuna ukuthobela ukungazibandakanyi, kodwa bona abayikunyamezela ithoni ehlelekile. I-Egoism kuzo idibaniswa nobuncwane kunye nobutshaba. Ngamanye amaxesha "amaTrans" akakwazi ukulawula ukutshabalalisa kobukrakra babo abazitholayo kwi-dock njengecala lokubulala. I-forensic psychiatry yazi imeko ezininzi. Ngoko ke, kunye ne "Tyrants" kufuneka uqaphele.
Indlela yokuthetha?
Ngelishwa, iimpawu ezintle zomdlali we "Uthixo" alinakuguqulwa, kwaye amaxesha enkohlakalo aya kuhlala ekhona. Indlela kuphela yokuphuma ukuyeka ukuthetha naye. Ewe, ukuba i-scandal sele iyenzeka, zama ukungaxabani, thintela ukungqubuzana kunye ne-tonal tone, ukuze ungabhubhisi ukutsha komsindo. Ngenye imini i-villain iya "perebesitsya", kwaye uphefumula lula. Enyanisweni, kungekudala, kwaye kungekudala yonke into iya kuphinda ivele kwakhona.
UKUQALA KWENKQUBO
Ngokuqhelekileyo, "inkwenkwezi" (inzululwazi - inzululwazi) impawu zilawulwa ngabasetyhini, kodwa abantu abaneempawu ezifanayo ziya kwenzeka. Aba bantu banzima ukungaziboni. Ibhinqa libukeka lihlambulukile kwaye litshitshisa kakhulu. Le ndoda iyaqhayisa kwaye isitayela. Uhlala ephethe isibuko kunye naye, apho ebheka ubuso bakhe obungenakuphikiswa. Aba bantu abanomdla kunoma yini ngaphandle kobuntu babo. Baqiniseke ngokungafani kwabo kwaye bacinga ukuba bonke abantu bafanele bazi ngoku. "Iinkwenkwezi" azikwazi ukuphulaphula, kodwa zinekhono ngesithunzi, ubutyebi kunye nothando lokunqoba, zenza ngokucokisekileyo kangangokuthi zona ziqala ukukholelwa kwinto abazithethayo.
Baya kubangela iingxaki ezincinane ukuba abantu abazange bathabathe ngokungathandekiyo. Nangona kunjalo, ubuxoki bobuhle bubulala umqondo kwaye, umzekelo, umphathi, ekuphulaphule i-braggart, uyamnika iprojekthi enoxanduva okanye ummisele kwindawo ephakamileyo. I-Khvastun, nangona kunjalo, ayikukhawuleza ukuqala imisebenzi emitsha, kwaye iiyure zokusebenza zisetyenziselwa ukuziqhayisa phambi koogxa beempumelelo zakhe.
Kuyingozi ukuba ube ngumhlobo noZvezda. Ukuqinisekisa umhlobo wakhe ukuzinikela kunye nokunyaniseka, akayi kukhwankqisa ukwakha amehlo kwindoda yakhe kwaye kufuneka azame ukumcekisa. Ukuba iphumelela, "i-Star" ingakwazi ukuza kumhlobo kwaye ixelele 'ukuwa kwayo' kuzo zonke iinkcukacha zayo. Umrhwebi uya kuqala ukukhawuleza, ucele uxolo, uthi uhlazeke kakhulu ngaye kunye naye, ukuba akanakunceda, ukuba yena ngokwakhe ... Kodwa, akudingekile ukuba amkholelwe, ngenxa yokuba wamkhohlisa indoda yakhe ukuze azibonakalisa ngokwakhe: " Ndiyena mhle, kwaye bonke abantu bahlazileyo ngam. "
Indlela yokuthetha?
"Inkwenkwezi" ngumdlali weqonga (okanye umdlali). Abantu abanjalo banomuva wokuba bafumane ingqalelo kwaye ngoko bayayityelela nayiphi na indlela, bangazidibanisi nokuziphatha kakubi. Ukuze kungabikho ukuvusa i-volcano yeempawu ezimbi zobuntu bomntu- "Iingqungquthela", ziyamkela iimpawu zakhe ezintle: utsho, intlalontle, umsebenzi. Ngaphandle koko, uya kuqalisa ukuceba kunye necebo lokulwa nawe, ukukhangela ingqalelo yakho kuphela. Kukho nawuphi na, musa ukuvumela umfazi - "Inkwenkwezi" kakhulu kufuphi nomfazi wakhe - uya kuzama ukulwa.
Ewe, kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zabalinganiswa abangaqhelekanga kunokuba sibhale apha. Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho ukuxuba okuxubekileyo kwimizekelo emininzi, umzekelo, "Inkwenkwezi kwesikrini" + "Umqhubi wombono." Nangona kunjalo, le "ngongoma" ingalawulwa ngoncedo lweendlela ezichazwe ngasentla.