Abazali abakhalazo malunga nokungabi nkululeko kubantwana babo bahlala benetyala le. Emva koko, ingqondo yengane iyamkela. Iimpazamo ezibalulekileyo eziphambili zokungabikho kokuzimela kwabantwana, siza kuxela kule nqaku.
Ukuba umntwana waba ngumntu ozimele, kubalulekile ukukhuthaza ukuzimela. Abantu abadala ababonakala bengabalulekiyo ukusela, umzekelo, iglasi yonke yobisi okanye isigxina sawo, kodwa umntwana nokuba yinto encinci kunika ithuba lokulawula ubomi bakhe.Ukhetho olunikeziwe lunikela umntwana ukuba abe neentlonelo kuye ngokwakhe kwaye amncede ukuba adibanisane naye kwiimeko xa engafuni ukwenza into ethile, kodwa kuyimfuneko yokwenza. Ngokomzekelo, thatha iyeza. Kufuneka ikhutshwe engqondweni ukuba ukhetho olunyanzelwanga alukhethi. Umzekelo, "Ndiyakhathazeka ngokubhinqa. Unokuya ungqongqo kwigumbi lakho, okanye uhlale apha, kodwa unqume ukwenza umsindo." Ungamangalisi ukuba indlela enjalo iya kubangela ukuchasana kunye nokuxabana rhoqo. Endaweni yoko, cela umntwana wakho ukuba eze nalo khetho, oluya kwamkeleka wena kunye naye. Ngaloo ndlela, ukhuthaza umntwana ukuba azimele.
Bonisa intlonipho malunga nento eyenziwa ngumntanakho. Ungalokothi uthi kuye: "Woza, kulula." Awuyi kuba namazwi anjalo. Emva kwayo yonke into, xa kwenzeka ukungaphumeleli, umntwana uya kucinga ukuba akakwazi ukujamelana nesantya sokuqala. Kwaye, oku, kunokukhokelela ekuziphatheni okuphantsi. Yaye ukuba uyaphumelela, akayi kuziva uvuyo olukhethekileyo, kuba ngokwemali yakho kuvela ukuba umntwana akaphumelelanga nantoni na ekhethekileyo. Xa wenza okokuqala ngqa, kubakho nzima ukuba abazali bakho bakhumbule oku. Ungesabi ukuxelela umntwana ukuba oko akwenzayo kunzima. Ukuba akaphumelelanga, musa ukukhawuleza ukwenza oko kuye, bhetele unikele ngcebiso eluncedo.
Zama ukubuza imibuzo emininzi, njengokuba: "uya kuphi na?", "Uyenza ntoni na?". Bangela ukuphendula okukhuselekileyo nokucaphukisa.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bavulelekile kubazali babo xa beyeka ukubenza baxoxe ngemibuzo engapheliyo. Oku akuthethi ukuba ukubuza nayiphi na imibuzo kungavumelekile. Mvumela nje umntwana ukuba azibonakalise.
Mema abantwana ukuba bafune imithombo yolwazi ngaphandle kwekhaya kunye nezihlobo. Kufuneka bafunde ukuhlala kweli hlabathi elikhulu. Ukuba yonke inkcazelo abayifumana kuphela kumama noyise, ngoko ke bayakwazi ukufumana imbonakalo yehlabathi njengento ekhohlakeleyo kunye neyodwa. Ulwazi lunokufumaneka kwiilayibrari, iintambo ezahlukeneyo kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo - evela kwabanye abantu. Ulwazi oluncedo kakhulu malunga nempilo kunye nesondlo esifanelekileyo umntwana angayifumana emlonyeni womongikazi. Kwaye ngengxelo eyingcipheko enikwe esikolweni, kungcono ukunxibelelana nomthala weencwadi.
Qaphela igama elithi "cha". Zama ukuyifaka esikhundleni samagama ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokwenzeka, ukukhuthaza umntwana ukuba angene kwindawo yakho kwaye angazivezi iimvakalelo zakhe.
Akuyimfuneko ukuxoxa nangona mncinci umntwana phambi kwabanye abantu. Esi simo sengqondo senza abantwana bazive ubunini.
Nika abantwana ithuba lokuba ngumzimba wabo. Musa ukucima umbane ongapheliyo kubo, ungayilungisi le-bang njalo kwisibini, ikhola, njl. Abantwana bayakuqonda oku njengengeniso kwisithuba sabo kunye nobumfihlo. Qaphela izinto ezifana nalezi: "Thatha inwele yakho amehlo, awukwazi ukubona nantoni na!" okanye "ngaba imali yakho yepokheji iya kwizinto ezingenangqondo?" Cinga ngako, ngokuqinisekileyo awuhlali uhlale uthe tye, kwaye kungekhona wonke umntu, mhlawumbi, othanda ukuthenga kwakho. Emva kwakho konke, wena ngokwakho awuyi kuvuya xa umntu eqala ukuphanga malunga nantoni na.
Xa umntwana ezenza izigqibo yena ngokwakhe, nangona kungabalulekanga, ukhula kwimeko yokuthembela kwaye uthatha uxanduva lokuzikhethela.