Ukukhulelwa ngenye yexesha elihle kakhulu ebomini bobomi. Kodwa nakubakho kukho "ukundiza kwioli": ngamanye amaxesha umama ozayo uya kunqoba iingcamango zokungcatshiswa komntu othandekayo.
Makhe sizame ukuphendula imibuzo enzulu kakhulu: ngaba kunokwenzeka kwaye kwindawo "enomdla" yokuhlala isondeza kumntu othandekayo kwaye kuya kutshintsha njani indlela yokuphila kumchaphazela umtshato?
Njengomthetho, utshintsho ngexesha lokukhulelwa lugxininiswa ngakumbi ngabasetyhini balindele umntwana wokuqala. Uloyiko lwabo lubangelwa kukuba intsha intsapho iyimeko emitsha kubo, kwaye kunzima ukuqikelela indlela umntu aziphatha ngayo kwiimeko zesithintelo zesondo zesigxina. Emva koko, ngaphambi kobuhlobo, isibini esingazange siyazi naziphi na iziqobo - zazizibophezele ngokupheleleyo. Ukongezelela, umfazi okhulelweyo uqala ukuxhalabisa, ukhangele indlela umlinganiselo wakhe uyeka ukuhambelana nemilinganiselo yomzekelo imihla ngemihla. Ngelishwa, ingxaki yokukhohlisa ngexesha lokukhulelwa ikhona. Ekubonweni kokuqala, kunokubonakala ngathi isizathu sokuba indoda ayinayo ngokwaneleyo ubudlelwane bezesondo obudlulileyo. Kodwa impendulo enjalo kuphela yintonga ye-iceberg ...
IMISEBENZI YOKUTSHINTSHA
Nangona ezininzi izibini zingenakuphikisana nokuqhubekeka kobudlelwane bezocansi ngexesha lokukhulelwa, akunakwenzeka ukuba abatshatileyo bazenzele ukuba yonke into injengaphambili. Ngokuchasene nemvelaphi yokulungiswa kwe-hormone, umsebenzi owenziwa ngaphambili wobomi obusondeleyo unokuhlaliswa ngokubonakalayo. Yaye ukuba yonke into eqhelekileyo ne-hormone, ngoko kukho ingqondo yengqondo - ukwesaba ukulimaza umntwana okhulayo. Yaye lo ukoyiko luyakubonakala kuzo zombini amaqabane. Ukongezelela, umfazi ngenxa yokufumana ubunzima obunzima obunzima ukugqithisa ukuhamba kwakhe kwangaphambili nokunciphisa ukukhululwa komyinge - ukulinganisa akufani. Zonke ezo zinguqu zenzeke ngokuthe ngcembe, kwaye nangona kukho uthando oluncinci kwintsapho, kwintsikelelo yomphefumlo womfazi, ukungathandabuzeki kuvela: ngaba isondo sinelungelo kumyeni, ngaba ufuna ukuba nomzimba onobuhle nonobulumko ngaphezu komfazi okhulelweyo ... Ngenxa Ezi (ikakhulukazi ezenziwe) ukwesaba kwabasetyhini abakhulelweyo baqala ukutshintsha ingqondo yengqondo. Kukho ukukrokra, umona, kwaye baninzi baze baye "ukulwa", balungise i-hysteria kunye neentlekele zomyeni wakhe. Kwimeko enzima kangaka, nokuba indoda ephikisanayo iyakucinga ngokuzikhethela ngethuba lokuguqulela, njengommiselo, ukusola okungenasiphelo komfazi ebomini.
Kukho esinye isizathu esinokubangela ukungcatsha ngexesha lokukhulelwa - ukungathandi ukuzala abantwana. Ukukhulisa umzali kufuneka ukhule - kwaye ngokufanayo: umba wokuzala ufanele ugqitywe ngokugqibeleleyo. Xa abantu batshata, kufuneka baxoxe ngaphambili kwangaphambili ukuba "inkcazelo" engokwemvelo, njengokuqhubeka kwentsapho. Mhlawumbi esi sihloko sasichukumiseka, kodwa sidlulayo: umfazi wayicinga ukuba incoko yayiphathelele "abantwana" ngokukhawuleza, kunye nendoda-leyo yekusasa elikude. Nangona naphezu komnqweno owenziwe ngabafazi ukuba babe nabantwana, ukwamkelwa kwesigqibo esithile kunye nenkqubo yokulinda umntwana ibe yingcinezelo enkulu, kuba kungengokuthenga imoto okanye ukuthenga intlanzi, kodwa malunga nesinyathelo esinoxanduva, ebaluleke kakhulu kwaye ingenakuguqulwa ebomini. Abasetyhini banamava okulula kakhulu, kuba indalo ngokwayo ihlangothini lwabo, ukunyanzelisa kakhulu ukuba bathande umntwana ongakazalwa ongekho ukwesaba kunokuba ngumqobo. Ngabantu, izinto zihlukile ...
BENZA UKUQALA
Isisombululo kunoma yiyiphi ingxaki iqala ngengxoxo engenangqiqo. Ngaphandle kokunyaniseka nokuthembela, inqanawa yentsapho ingozi ngokukhawuleza ukugqithisa kwiindawo zokusola kunye namatye okungaqiniseki kwixesha elizayo. Zama ukufikelela kuvelwano olupheleleyo kwintetho. Biza umnxeba wakho ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngengqondo ukuba afike kwindawo yakho: kufuneka aqonde ukuba ngoku udinga ukunyamezela nokuncoma ngaphezu kwexesha leentlanganiso zothando. Ngoku uhlala usengozini kwaye unobunzima: umsebenzi womlingane kukukunceda ukhuthaze umntwana ophilileyo kwaye ozolile. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, ungayikhohlwa ukuba ngaphandle kokunceda uza kufumana nzima ukulawula. Ngengqiqo ephawulekayo yabasetyhini, ncedise indoda yakhe ukuba iziva kwaye iyaziwayo njengentloko yenyani yentsapho. Kwaye, ke, zama ukumelana nokuhlambalazo ongenomdla kuwe, akayi kuhlawula ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye ukhangele nabasetyhini. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uyazama, kodwa ngendlela yakhe, kwaye uyacaphukisa gqitha ukuba iinzame zakhe azithandi. Ngaphandle koko, indoda engcono kakhulu izakuyeka ukuzama, kwaye ngokugqithiseleyo-iya kuqalisa ukuthobela ingqalelo ngesini esahlukileyo.
IIMIGAQO EZINTSHA ZOKUVELA
Ngaphambi kokuqala kokukhulelwa, ukubeka phambili kwentsapho kubomi kwakunjalo - ngokuqhelekileyo ngokwesondo. Kwaye ngoku ixesha lifikile xa kunokwenzeka ukucebisa kakhulu indlela endala yobomi. Yibulela "ukukhubazeka" okwethutyana, kuba kuya kuqinisa enye into ebalulekileyo yobomi - uthando lwakho lwePlato. Qaphela le nkcitho yokunciphisa njengenye into ebalulekileyo kunxulumano, khumbula ukuba uneminye iminqweno efanayo, ngaphandle kombhede, kwaye ukuba akukho zininzi, uzama ukuzifumana. Ukungahambisani nxamnye neentlobano zesini kubandakanya ukuba abantu basondele ngakumbi kunye kwaye bazive bengabomthonyama, ngoko ukupheliswa koqhagamshelwano oluxhamlayo ekukhulelweni kwingcambu alunganga. Ngokuchasene noko, ngeli xesha abafazi bafuna ukuthintana ngokukhawuleza kangangoko kunokwenzeka, ukwenza ukuhlaziya okuphumayo, ukuze bangabikho umgca wobudlelwane obusondelene nabo. Umama wesikhathi esizayo kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba nakwiindawo "ezithakazelisayo", usengumfazi. Ukunyamekela umzimba wakho - ngoku uyayidinga kunanini ngaphambili.
NCEDA UMSEBENZI WAKHO
Ewe, ujabulela imihla ngemihla i-tummy ekhulayo, kodwa akayi kuziva into eyenzekayo kumfazi lowo. Unethuba elingaphantsi, kuba kufuneka asebenzele inzuzo yentsapho. Nangona umyeni engavumi ukuhamba esandleni sakho zonke iinyanga ezilisithoba, usenakukude noko uhlangabezana nayo, kuba akukho mntu uyamxosha ngaphakathi ... Ngoko ke, enye yemisebenzi ebaluleke kakhulu kumama ozayo kukunyusa uthando kumntwana ngaphambi komntwana kukhanya. Ukulungiselela umntu oyifunayo ngokuthe ngcembe kwaye engenaxinzelelo, ukuze angagcini intshiseko yakhe ... Thetha ngekamva labantwana bakho. Kuphela kungekhona malunga nokuba umntwana uya kuba yintoni, kodwa malunga nento onokuyenza kuye. Ngendlela, nangona esibelekweni sikamama, usana sele seluhlula kakuhle amagama eentsapho. Tshela umyeni wakho malunga nokuphendula komntwana: bahluke kakhulu - bobabini abahle kunye nababi. Faka isandla somyeni wakho kwisisu sakho kwaye ube ngumlamli phakathi kweentsapho ezimbini, ubazise omnye nomnye. Ewe, ukukrexeza kwenzeka ngexesha lokukhulelwa, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba ibali elifanayo liya kwenzeka nawe.
Ukulinda umama lixesha eliqaqambileyo ebomini kwanoma yimuphi umfazi, kwaye ukulifakela ngeengcamango ezingathandekiyo kuluhlaza. Ukunqoba yonke ingxaki kubafazi kuya kunceda ukuthembela kunye kunye nomnqweno oqhelekileyo wekamva elihle leentsapho.