"Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngomona." "Nomona, kuthetha ukuba uyamthanda." "Yenze umona, ukuvusa iimvakalelo." Kunjalo - kude kube nomona ube sisifo aze ade ahlupheke abantwana.
Ukuhlala nomntu obamba kwi-notebook yakho, efuna ukuba ubize iiyure ezimbini emsebenzini, ukubika imihla ngemihla wayehlala nzima. Kodwa khumbula ukuba lakho iqabane lihlupheke ngakumbi. Ubomi bakhe bonke bubandezelekileyo ngokupheleleyo. Yena, njengomthetho, uyaqonda ukuba uyagula, uzama ukuzibamba kunye, kodwa xa ebona umntu osebenza naye ekhanga esitrateni sakho kwintlanganiso, ulahlekelwa ngumlawuli.
Nangona u-"Othello" wakho unguyise ofanelekileyo, ngexesha lokukhangela umona, uyalibala malunga nabantwana kwaye akacingi ngeemvakalelo zabo.Iziphumo zokulahleka kolawulo zidla ngokudabukisayo kubantwana. iyakwazi ukuzibonakalisa ngohlobo lwe-enuresis, okanye ezinye izifo, okanye ukuphazamiseka kwemihlaba, kodwa-kubaluleke kakhulu - kwixesha elizayo abo bantwana baphinda bavelise indlela yokuziphatha abazuze ngayo kwiintlobo zabo kubuntwaneni.
Unokukunceda njani umona? Kwaye kunye kunye nawe?
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuqaphela ukuba esi sifo, kwaye kuyimfuneko ukulwa nalo, ngokucokisekileyo, singakuvumeli ukuba iqhubeke. Musa ukuhleka kwiqabane lakho. Ukuphosa ngaphandle ekugqibeleni: "Sinomntu omtsha osebenza naye, enhle kakhulu," awuyi kufezekisa into ngaphandle kobusuku obungenalutho ngenxa yakhe (kunye nexesha elifanayo kuye) kunye nokuhlala kwakhe emsebenzini. Ndineqabane elitsha "kwaye ndimisa yonke imibuzo, ndithi:" Kungcono ukuba awukwazi. "Andinomdla kunoma ubani omnye." Kwaye kuyinqweneleka ukuba kule ngxoxo yakho iphelile.
Musa ukuzithiba nje ngokuba "ndabona ukuba ukhangele loo hlobo!" Kodwa ungakulibali ukuba emva kwala magama kukho ukungabi nokuzithemba nokufuna ukuva: "Ewe, ungumntu ongenanto, akukho nto akazimeleli yena, kodwa xa uthelekisa nawe nje u-morel (okanye ngokulandelelana, ibhloko leoli)! "
Emva kobukhwele obugqithisayo kunokufihla ingqiqo yobunini. Ngoko, u-Oleg wayekhwele umfazi wakhe (ngendlela, kwaye akazange acinge ngongoma) kunoma yimuphi umntu odlula umntu, akazange amvumele ukuba ahambe ngezoshishino. Xa beqhawule, kwaye umfazi wakhe waqala ukudibana nomnye, akazange akhathazeke. "Kodwa asikho ndawonye!"
Ukongeza kwenzalo yokungakhuselekanga kunye neemvakalelo zomnikazi, kukho umona, iminyaka, oko kukuthi, ulutsha. U-Sveta uthi: "Xa mna nomyeni wam sineminyaka engu-19 yaye wathi uyayithanda uSichelle Pfeiffer," ndicinga ukuba ndiqhekeza iTV kwaye andizange ndixoxe nomyeni wam ngesiqingatha semini. "Ngoku sihlala kunye nokuzonwabisa ngokuxoxa ngemilenze emide yentombazana edlulayo abadlali. "
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, kwenzeka ukuba umona ube mania, i-phobia. Apha, kunokukho icebiso elilodwa kuphela: khuthaza ngokukhawuleza iqabane ukuba liye kwi-psychologist. Akulula, kodwa ngaphandle koko akunakwenzeka. Kukho yodwa ayikwazi ukuhlangabezana nayo.
Ngendlela, qwa lasela: kungakhathaliseki ukuba "iqela elichaphazelekayo" okanye wena ngokwakho unomona kakhulu - khusela umntwana kwi "showdowns" yakho. Ewe ngokwenene sele sele uyayiqonda, yintoni ingozi abayifake kwiingqondo zabantwana abangafundile, akunjalo? Kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba umntwana abe "ulwimi", ebika ukuba "umama wabiza umalume wam," kwaye "Ubawo, xa sasihamba naye, wadibana nomama omhle."
Kakade, kunzima kunoma yimuphi umona onobukhanyela ukuba anqande ukubeka iliso kunye nezinye iimpawu zokungathembeki. Zama ukuxelela umyeni wakho ngokuvulekile ukuba awukhathazi, kwaye umcele ukuba akugcine kulezi ntshukumo kunye nakubonkqo. Zama ukusebenza ngokuqhubekayo kwaye ngokunyamezela ngokusemandleni. Mncede, ukuba ungayiphumeli "i-Othello complex", ubuncinci, uyiguqule. Umvuzo wenzame uya kuba ngumbulelo wemiva, uxolo kunye novuyo kwintsapho.
Kwaye okokugqibela. Ngaphambi kokumangalela umlingane ngenxa yomona ogqithiseleyo, landela ngokwakho: mhlawumbi ungaphoswa ithuba lokuthetha nomntu omncinci okanye omncinane? Yaye mhlawumbi uchitha yonke ihlwempu ngentloko yesicatshulwa sakho, kunye nalo lonke ixesha ozinikeleyo ukuxubusha imilinganiselo yalo? Ngoko ungamangalisi ukuba umfazi wakho u-Othello uvuka ngokukhawuleza!