Amadoda izidalwa eziyimfihlakalo! Abakwazi ukufumana iisoksi zabo iiyure, kodwa zixhomekeke ngokufanelekileyo kwi-pile yeengxenye zemoto, zilahlwe kwigaraji. Bakhohlwa malunga nosuku lwethu lokuzalwa, kodwa khumbula ukubala kwenani lazo zonke iziqendu ze "Star Wars". Ziyintoni izinto ezingaqhelekanga zendoda ezithetha ukuba zibacaphukisa abafazi? Indlela yokujongana nabo? Kwaye kuyafaneleka?
Ukuthukuthela kukhula
Xa uqala ukutshata nomntu, awuyiqapheli imikhwa yakhe, okanye uyifumana ehlekisayo. Kuthiwani ngolu hlobo lokuba uqokelela izixhobo zokugcina izixhobo zokunceda imoto xa kwenzeka ukuphazamiseka, kwaye ukujonga indlela ahlamba ngayo kwisitya ngokuqhelekileyo kumnandi. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, isimo sengqondo malunga "neentlobo" ezifanayo ziguquka ngokuthe ngqo kumbi. Ngokukodwa xa uqala ukukhangela izibhathane ze-suede malunga nenqwaba yezinto ezisendlini yomshini. Emva kokungena kubhedi, emva kokuba umhlobo ethandwe, ngokukhawuleza angena emgodini kwaye emangalisiwe ufumanisa ukuba iindonga, iiliti, iilinen, isibuko, izityulo kunye nesambatho sigqoko kunye namanzi, kwaye apha kunye ne-foam yokuhlamba. "UThixo, yintoni ukuhamba!" - Cinga okanye uyakudanduluka kwaye uqale ukubhaka iqabane lakho lokuba ... wazihlamba. Yileyo ndlela eya kuchaza ngayo. Qonda, wayehlala ehlamba kwaye uyaneliswa ngumphumo - umzimba wakhe ococekileyo, kwaye ngoku ungayithobeli umphumo ofanayo kwaye "unamathela" kwinkqubo. Amadoda afana ne-semantic leap away eceleni ayenzeka kwi-logic engabonakaliyo, engayi kulandelwa, kwaye ziphathe ngendlela efanayo. Ngexesha elilandelayo ubuyela kwakhona kuye ngenxa yokuba "umkhukula kwindawo yokuhlambela", ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kwaye uyayeka ukuhlamba. Okanye uya kunye nabahlobo kwindawo yokuhlambela kwaye ubuyela kuphela ekuseni. Okanye uqokelela izinto zakhe aze ahambe nonina, umhlobo, omnye umfazi. Isizathu sisimo sakho sokuxabana kunye nokungahambisani nokungaqhelekanga ekuhlambulukeni kwayo.
Isimo sinoxilongo
Inyani yinto yokuba imikhwa ecaphukisa abafazi ayifumanekanga kwaye ayikho into enobungendawo yokungathobeli. Njengoko iingqondo zengqondo zithi, le yindlela esetyenziswayo yokuziphatha, ukufezekiswa kwimeko ethile kuzuza amandla. Enyanisweni, umkhwa omdala sele uyingxenye yalomlingiswa, kwaye kunzima ukuwususa ngokwakho okanye kwiqela lakho ngexesha elinye. Kwakunzima kwaye uyeke ukutshaya, kwaye ufunde ukuba kufuneka ugobe inqwelomba kwiphubhu yezinyo zokugcoba, ugwebe isiqhekeza kwisitya kunye ne-shampoo emva kokuyisebenzisa. Kwaye oko, kunye nelinye, umntu kufuneka abe namandla kunye nesifiso sokutshintsha.
Kodwa iqabane lakho liya kuba nesidingo esinjalo okanye akunjalo, ngeendlela ezininzi kuxhomekeke kuwe. Masithi unomkhuba wokuphonsa izinto zakhe. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo wenza amazwi anengqiqo, wacelwa ukuba abeke izinto kwiindawo zabo kwaye, ukucwina ngentsingiselo, bona ngokwabo babeka izinto ngokulandelelana, kodwa konke akunakunceda.
Ukugqibela kwehla
Kakade, ukunyamezela kwakho kufuneka kube nemida. Ukuba uthanda ukuthatha isiqwenga sokugqibela kwisiqwenga esiqandisini, ukushiya singenanto apho, nqakraza kwi-console ye-TV iiyure ezimbini, usuka kwi-channel ukuya kwisiteshi, uze uvakalise ukuba "kukho enye i-mura kwiTV," kwaye ulala phantsi, ehlutha nje ebandayo, Oku kuya kuxolelaniswa kwaye kuhambisane nezinye izilungiso. Kwaye into enye into, ukuba imikhwa yomthandi isondele ekungabikho komthetho: uyagubha umlotha kwi-vase yakho eyintandokazi, uhlambalaza, ulala, ulala eembhedeni zakhe ebhedeni kwaye uhlala ekhaba inja yakho. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, akudingeki ukuba uthembele kwisipho sakho esingavamile sokufundisa - akunakwenzeka ukuba uya kukwazi ukuphinde ufundise le dork. Futhi ungalindelanga ukuba uya kuzilungisa, ngenxa yokuba akanalo, ubuncinane, isisiseko esiyinhloko-uthando kunye nentlonipho ngawe.
Ndixelele ngemikhwa yakhe, kwaye ndiya kukuxelela ukuba ungubani
Enyanisweni, kunye nemikhwa nezenzo zomlingane wakho, akumele ulwa okanye ubekezele. Kufuneka ziphawulwe, kukhethwa ngokukhawuleza, kwaye zifumane izigqibo. Emva kwakho konke, iminqweno idla ukubonakalisa umlingani wakho umthandi kangcono kunamagama akhe nakwizenzo. Ewe, umzekelo ...
• Yidla, njengokungathi okokuqala ebomini bakhe. Ukukhawuleza ukuphosa kwisitya esicetywayo, sitshisa ukutya, phantse ngaphandle kokuhlafuna.
Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Loo mntu unako ukucinga ngeendidi eziqhelekileyo, ukungatshintshi iinkcukacha kunye nokungaqhathanisi imiba. Ubundlobongela bakho buya kuba rhoqo, kodwa aluyiyo inyama; izinto zilungile, kodwa aziyiyo imfashini; Ukutya kunondla, kodwa kungenakulungiswa; Ubudlelwane buzinzile, kodwa abuhle. Ngelizwi, inokwethenjelwa, kodwa uhlobo oluthandekayo, olunikezelwa kwintsapho kunye nawe. Sekunjalo, mhlawumbi unobungozi bokuqala.
• Ungalokothi uqoke iinqwelo zokugqibela, ungavali iingcango okanye izibilini kwiimbiza nge-shampoo okanye ukhilimu.
Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Kukholelwa ukuba abantu abahlala bephuma emthonjeni wamanzi, amandla angena ndawo. Amadoda anjalo axabana kakhulu, kodwa akenzi nto; ukukhulelwa iiprojekthi zezimali ezinkulu kwaye zihlale zivutha. Bathemba ukuhlala bethembisa into ethile, kodwa musa ukuyenza. Bahlala besetyenze into ethile, kodwa izicwangciso zabo aziyi kuzaliseka. Amadoda anjalo afana namabhola esepha. Iimvo ziphakama njengokungathi zivela ngaphaya kwaye zikhawuleza ziqhume, zingashiyi nto.
• Ngaphandle kokucinga, uthatha kwaye adle ikhekhe lokugqibela, i-candy ebhokisini, isinqumla esivela epanini yocingo ...
Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Ukuzidla, unomntwana, kwaye ungazami ukuzenza ngathi uyakhathalela. Into eyenyamekayo yintuthuzelo yakhe kwaye ilula. Yaye musa ukunyaniseka ukuba uya kumfundisa ngobubele nokunyaniseka. Ujwayele ukusebenzisa ukungabi nantoni kwabanye kwaye uya kuthatha kuwe naziphi iintsikelelo kunye nemihlatshelo, unganiki nto. Musa ukuchitha ixesha lakho nemizwa kuye - akayi kukuxabisa.
• Awulahli nantoni na. Yonke into ifakwa kwiifolothi kunye neebhokisi, iqhubela emacaleni - ngokukhawuleza ivela ngokufanelekileyo! Nditshitshise i-bulb yokukhanya-kuya kuba yimfuneko ukuba ulungise i-sock. Ngaloo nto, ngokukhawuleza ukulibaleka ngobuncwane bakhe kwaye kamva ahlambele intaba yonke inkunkuma.
Kuthetha ukuthini oku? I-Zhmot, isoloko ifuna indawo yokuthenga ubuncinane iiruble esincinci, okanye ukulinda imveliso ukuba iwele kwixabiso. "Ukuchitha" ngokwemvakalelo ayithandi ukubonakaliswa kothando kunye nokunconywa kwamanqanaba amaninzi awukwazi ukuva kuye. Akaziveki i-charm of current, life postpones for later: "kusasa kuya kubonakala", "kusasa kusisilumko kunokuhlwa", "ngaphambi kokuba lo mntu aqhubeke ephila."
• Awukwazi ukunyamezela ukudideka kunye nento encinci yeengxabano. Uhlala esilungisa ityiliti yekhitshi ukwenzela ukuba baxhomeke ngokulinganayo, bagxininise, bayibeke ngokufanelekileyo impahla yabo.
Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Uyinto ekhohlakeleyo kwaye ehlelekile kuyo yonke into. Ngokuqinisekileyo kwi-diary yakhe yonke into ebhaliweyo ukuba kufuneka ayenze kunyaka ozayo, kuquka nenani lezenzo zesondo. Nangona yonke into ihamba ngokwecebo lakhe - uyonwabile, kodwa ukuba kukho into engalindelekanga, ihlaselwa ngokukhawuleza. Ukuhlala nomntu onjalo akunakunzima kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uyesabisa.
• Unqakraza ngokukhawuleza amaqhosha ekude ukusuka kwi-TV.
Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Njengoko bathetha, kwaye bahlala ngokukhawuleza, kwaye bazive ngokukhawuleza. Nangona kunjalo, umntu onjalo ulawule kakhulu. Unamandla, usebenzayo, uthatha indawo esebenzayo ebomini. Nangona kunjalo, akwazi ukugxininisa into ethile ixesha elide, ngoko ke, njengommiselo, usebenza kwi-creative profession. Uthabathele kwi-neuroses kunye nokucima.
• Ukuthanda ukufunda iireyimu kwizinto eziyinto engabonakaliyo kwaye udlala imidlalo yekhompyutha.
Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Inokwenzeka ukuba, uyaphupha kwaye uyathandana kwisitya. Mhlawumbi akanelisekanga ngendlela yakhe yokuphila kunye nendawo yokusebenza, kodwa uzilahlile kwaye unqwenela ukufuduka kwiingxaki, ukuchithwa kwezinye izinto. Uhlobo oluhle. Iyenzeka ngokumodareyitha kweyinkimbinkimbi.
• Uhlale ehleli ukuze abone igumbi lonke. Ukuba umntu uthatha indawo enjalo, ufuna okanye amcele ukuba anike kuye. Unomdla xa kufuneka uhlale kunye nomva wakho emnyango.
Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Umlingani wakho unempilo ephucukileyo ebizwa ngokuba yi-genetic memory. Ngezihlandlo zokuqala, amadoda ayehlala ejongene nokungena emqolombeni, alungele naliphi na ixesha ukuphinda ahlasele intshaba aze akhusele ikhaya lawo. Ezi ziza kuba zizimpisi eza kufika kumnandi wenyama, okanye indoda enamandla eyayithembele ukumbulala kwaye ithathe umfazi wayo nomqolomba. Iqabane eliye lacwangciswa ngokucwangcisiweyo ngokuvelisa i-genetically, ngokuqhelekileyo i-earner enkulu, inkxaso ethembekileyo kubo bonke abathandekayo bakhe, i-knight ngokumalunga nomfazi kunye negunya elipheleleyo emehlweni abo bantwana. Nangona emva kokuhlukana nawe, uya kukulungele ukuthatha uxanduva kwaye akuncede ebomini bakho bonke.
• Ukuziqhayisa rhoqo, ekhangela kwisibuko, esenza.
Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Ngaphambi kokuba i-narcissus ye-narcissism, ihlala kuphela kwiminqweno yayo kwaye idinga unqulo. Akakuhlambululi ngeenkomfa, kodwa wenza njalo. Akaze eze kuwe, kwaye uyamlandela. Kwaye nangomhla ufikeleleka, kungekhona wena. Ekubhedeni, uphinde ukhangele ngakumbi, kodwa akanandaba nokuba unokukholisa njani. Ukongezelela, uya kulindela kuwe ukuqinisekiswa okusisigxina kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba uyona mhle kubo bonke abaye banakho, kunye nongqondo zonke.
• Ungaphambuki kwimithetho yakhe nge-millimeter.
Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Ukunyanzeliswa ukugqithisa. Akayilungele ukutshatyalaliswa, ngokupheleleyo engenakho ukucinga kunye nokuguquguquka. Awukwazi ukuphikisana naye, awuyi kuguqula ingqondo yakho kwaye awuyi kumchukumisa ukuba aphule umyalelo awamise ngaphambili, akufanelekile ukuzama. Ude ulandele imithetho kwimibhedlele. Yaye ukuba unesifiso sesondo ngoLwesihlanu kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo uyanelisa ngoMgqibelo, akunakwenzeka ukuba namhlanje uya kuphulaphula nayiphi na into.
Nangona kunjalo, ubungqina obuninzi bemikhwa yendoda, ecasula abafazi - ezi ziyimpawu zokufundisa okhethiweyo. Ngoko, abanokugwetywa kungekuphela kwakhe, kodwa ngokunxulumene nentsapho yakhe kunye nommandla apho akhula khona kwaye wahlala ngaphambi kokudibana nawe.