Fumana iincwadi zokupheka kwentsapho yolonwabo

Yonke intombazana iphupha lokuphila ubomi obonwabileyo. Kodwa ngenxa yale nto kufuneka ukwazi imithetho eyintloko kunye nemithetho ephambili. Bangayiqonda njani? Ndingonwabile njani? Ekubonweni kokuqala ngumbuzo wefilosofi, umbuzo jikelele. Yaye impendulo kufuneka ibe yinto efanayo. Kodwa oku akunjalo. Impendulo yombuzo imfutshane kakhulu kwaye ilula. Uvuyo ebomini bomntu aluveli ngaphandle, kodwa luvela ngaphakathi. Umntu onolisayo unokuzenza yena ngokwakhe, kungekhona ezinye iimpawu ezilungileyo. Imoto ekhethekileyo, i-chic dinner kwivenkile yokutyela, izambatho ezinqabileyo, iziqithi zaseCaribbean aziyi kukunceda ube nolonwabo.
Ubomi obuhle - oku, ngokuqinisekileyo, kulungile, kodwa kubhekisela kwinqanaba lezinto eziphathekayo. Nolonwabo luloluhlu lwabantu bonke. Ubutyebi buza kuba ngumkhwa ngokukhawuleza, kodwa aluyi kuzisa uxolo lwangaphakathi. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokukhathazeka. Phakathi kwabasetyhini abacebileyo baninzi abantu abanamahlwempu, ngaphezu kwehlwempu. Musa ukukhwelela ubutyebi babo. Khumbula ukuba nguwe kuphela onoxanduva lwakho lonwabo, kwaye kungekhona izinto ezikufutshane nawe okanye abantu abaseduze nawe. Kwaye ukunqanda ukuba ungonwabi, akukho namnye onako.

Iyiphi indlela eyavuya kuyo?
Umendo oyintloko ngumsebenzi wangaphakathi. Imeko "into embi" okanye "into enhle" yinto isisityalo somsebenzi wakho, kwaye ikhona kwintloko yakho kuphela. Kuzo zonke iimeko zinkalo zobomi, kukho iimeko zokuphuma. Yaye imisebenzi yokulungisa iyakunceda ekuphuhliseni kwakho. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ezibi zijika zibe zilungileyo. Yaye ngubani othe wahluleka? Ingqondo yam kuphela. Nangona amazwi angamaziko angakuchaphazela xa ubapha intsingiselo.

Hlaziya iingcamango zakho. Ziyintloko ekwazi ukuvula iingcango ekuphumeleleni kwakho kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi. Kufuneka usebenzise ingqondo yakho ngokwakho, kuba le yinto ekhethekileyo kakhulu! Zisoloko uzixelele ukuba ungumfazi ophumelelayo, onobuqilileyo, omhle kwaye onwabileyo. Ngokukhawuleza uza kubona umphumo omuhle.

Kodwa ingqondo enye yokufumana ukuvisisana ebomini ayanele. Kubalulekile ukuqinisa iingcamango zakho ngawe ngokuvakalelwa ngothando. Ngaphandle koko, akukho nto iya kuza kuyo. Uthando olungenalo ngumbono luyakunceda ubone ubuncwane bakho obuphakathi. Ukugxeka ngothando kungonakalisa kuphela.

Zizinyamekele ngokucophelela, ungazifanisi nabanye, ungagqugquzeli. Emva koko, wonke umntu uhamba ngendlela yakhe yobomi. Hamba ngesithunzi. Khumbula ukungafani kwakho. Awububi ngaphezu kwabanye, kodwa kungengcono.

Soloko ucinga kakuhle. Oku kuya kulondoloza ubomi obuhle. Gxininisa kwiimpawu ezimnandi, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwenzekani ngeenxa zonke. Khangela ibhola lakho elikhanyayo, kuba akukho bumnyama obukhulu.

Ngexesha elinzima, biza abahlobo bakho, cinga ngephupha lakho, phulaphula umculo omnandi - konke okuqinisekileyo uya kuvuya. Ngethuba, ukuphelelwa lithemba kuya kuhamba xa ungacingi ngako. Ukuvelisa nokunyusa injabulo yinjongo ephambili! Xa bezalwa, bonke abantu bayavuya. Kodwa wonke umntu ukhetha enye indlela ngokuzimela. Abanye bafuna ukuchuma, kwaye abanye abayifuni. Ngubani omele abe kuwe.

Siyabonga
Endleleni eya kulonwabo, asimele sikhohlwe ngokubulela. Unamandla. Wonke umntu uya kufumana isizathu sokubonga. Phawula izinto ezincinci kwaye ubonge ngazo ngobomi. Kungekudala uzakukwazi ukuthetha amazwi okubulela kunye nezinto ezintle. Abantu abonwabileyo bayahlala bevuya ngayo yonke into.

Iimpawu ezibalulekileyo zobomi obonwabileyo:
Ukuqwalaselwa kwezi ngcebiso kuya kukukhokelela ekuzalisekeni kwephupha elixabisekileyo kunye nomvakalelo wolonwabo: Ndiyabulela ubomi ngenxa yezipho ezincinane, ngenxa yezona mpu melelo. Ukuba unamkelekileyo ebomini, ngoko uya kukuphendula ngokufanayo. Uvuyayo okanye unoyolo lwakho ukhetho, kungekhona ukuphela okanye ukuphela.

Ewe, le nkqubo inzima kakhulu. Ufuna umsebenzi oqeqeshwe kunye omkhulu. Kodwa lo msebenzi uza kukholisa ulonwabo!