Impawu zokuqala
Abazali bangazi njani ukuba umntwana wabo unengxaki, ukuba bamhlazise esikolweni? Nazi ezinye zeempawu:
- Umntwanakho uhlala ekhaya ephosakeleyo okanye enyembezi;
- Wavalwa kwaye akahlawulelwanga, akafuni ukuphendula imibuzo yakho;
- Uzenza ngathi uyagula ukuya esikolweni;
- Waqala ukuthoba ngokungaqhelekanga izinto ezahlukeneyo endlwini - kungekhona ixabiso elibi;
- Ukusebenza kwakhe kwezemfundo kukuwa ngokukhawuleza.
Kutheni umntwana wakho?
Impendulo yakho yokuqala yayiza kubaleka ngokukhawuleza ukukhusela umntwana wakho "ngamacwecwe namazinyo." Kodwa oku kunokuyingozi kakhulu imeko. Kakade, akukho mntwana ufanelwe ukuphathwa kakubi - ngamnye uhlukile kwiindlela zakhe kwaye, e neneni, unenzuzo. Kodwa isidalwa esincinci asinakuhlala sichaza kakuhle kwiqela, ngelixa iontanga zabo zifumana lula ukuba zifumane indawo zayo ezibuthathaka kuyo. Unokufundisa umntwana ngemithetho yonke, kodwa kufuneka uqonde - kungekhona bonke abazali abafanayo. Abantwana babo banokuqonda ukuziphatha komntwana wakho njengobuthathaka. Ewe, ukuba kukho naziphi iingxaki zomzimba, ngoko kunzima abantwana ukuba "bahlale" ekuhlekeleni nasekuhlekeleni.
Yintoni enokuba isizathu sokuba umntwana wakho ahlaziswe esikolweni? Nazi ezinye zezizathu:
- Ukuba umntwana wakho unenkathazo yenkcubeko kwaye uyahlala egcina kwimisebenzi yezemidlalo;
- Ukuba ukubonakala kwakhe kwahluke kwiinkwenkwezi ezifunda nabo, ulwa ne-"fashion" esikolweni;
- Ukuba unesiphako semeko - ubunzima obunzima, i-strabismus, njl .;
- Ukuba umntwana unenkathazo kunye nokuhambelana kwezinto eziphathekayo, akayikukrazula le nkqubo kwimvelaphi yabanye abantwana.
Kukho neemeko apho umntwana esoloko egula kwaye elahlekelwa esikolweni. Oku kukukhokelela ekutyunjeni ngokunyanzeliswa, kwaye ngoko umntwana engabonwa ngokuba "wakhe" ngabafundi afunda nabo. Abanye abantwana banomlingani onzima kakhulu - baninzi kakhulu, banokungaqiniseki, banesicatshulwa kwaye banobunzima.
Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ezi zixhobo zidala ukuhlambalalwa koontanga, umqondo wokuzihlalisa kunye nokodwa. Umntwana onenkathazo angavalela ngaphakathi kuye okanye aqale ukuziphindezela abo bamcaphukisayo. Oku kunokukhokelela ekungaqiniseki, ngezinye iziphumo ezimbi.
Yintoni endiyenzayo?
Ngamanye amaxesha kungcono kakhulu kubazali ukuba bangaphambuki kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantwana, kodwa kungekho rhoqo. Kusoloko ufuna ukugxila kwimeko ethile. Ukuba imeko yakho yomntwana iyatshitshisa, umntwana uhlaziswa rhoqo kwaye unenkohlakalo, kufuneka uqale ukuthatha inyathelo. Nanku apho uqala khona:
- Zama ukuthetha nomntwana ngokufihlakeleyo, ukuba ufunde okungakumbi malunga noko kwenzekayo esikolweni, oko afunda nabo esikolweni.
- Qiniseka ukuba uye kwiintlanganiso zabazali, qhelana nabo, zama ukuqonda ubomi besikolweni.
- Yakha ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nootitshala beklasi ukufumana ngokuqhubekayo kuye ulwazi malunga noko kwenzekayo eklasini.
- Ncedisa umntwana ukuba amise uqhagamshelwano nomntu eklasini, ukuze angaziva ewe wedwa, waba nethemba ngakumbi.
- Hlela imisebenzi engaphezulu kwekharityhulam yomntwana wakho, mfumana into yokuzilibazisa.
- Ukuba kuyacaca ukuba ngumntwana wakho-into yokuxhatshazwa nokunyeliswa, qhagamshelana notitshala, umlawuli okanye isikolo seengqondo.
Fundisa umntwana wakho izifundo zonxibelelwano: zisebenze ngakumbi kwaye zisebenze ngokujongana noontanga, zikwazi ukuzikhusela, ukuba kuyimfuneko. Akunangqiqo ukucela uthisha weklasi ukuxhasa umntwana wakho - umzekelo, ukumnika ithuba lokuthatha inxaxheba kwiziganeko ezibalulekileyo zesikolo. Oku kuya kukwandisa ukubaluleka kwayo emehlweni abo afunda nabo.
Unokukunceda njani umntwana wakho abonise isithunzi sakhe koontanga? Ukuba umntwana akabandakanyekanga kwicandelo lesikolweni kunye nezibonda - yenzele ithuba elinjalo. Hlanganisa umthendeleko - umhla wokuzalwa okanye omnye umcimbi apho uya kuziva khona kwintsimi yakhe, iya kuba "inxaxheba ephambili". Ngoko umntwana uya kuba nethuba lokubonisa ezinye zeetalente zakhe.
Iziganeko zokuxhatshazwa esikolweni aziqhelekanga. Phantse nganye iklasi inento yokuhlekwa usulu, enokuthi ibe ngumntwana wakho. Abazali abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba le mpazamo ixhomekeke ngokupheleleyo ngutitshala. Kodwa kaninzi kunjalo. Ngokweengcali, iziganeko ezingathandekiyo nabantwana esikolweni zinokunciphisa kakhulu ukuba abazali bahlawule ingqwalasela kunye nexesha kubantwana babo. Ngoko kuya kuba lula ukuba bafunde kwaye bancede ukujamelana nale ngxaki.