Enyanisweni, bobabini indoda kunye nowesifazane basenokungabi nilungele umtshato. Kule meko, sithetha ukungazilungeli konke okulindelekileyo isibini esitshatileyo emva komtshato. Oku, ngokukodwa, kuxhomekeke kumgangatho woxanduva: bobabili kunye namadoda akho, kodwa umntu oqhelekileyo uya kuzicingisisa ngokukodwa ukuba ulungele ukuqala intsapho, okanye kufuneka alinde? Nangona kunjalo, asinakuphikisa, kukho uhlobo olunjalo lwamadoda amancinci afuna ukudlala lomtshato "apha nangoku," ukuze ekugqibeleni athole "ikhoboka lika-Izaura" oya kuhlamba indlu kwaye ahlambe iisokisi, kwaye upheke isidlo sakusihlwa. Kwaye ubusuku bujonge kwaye buza kufakwa kuwo onke amanqaku. Ekulungele, akunjalo? Nangona kunjalo, umntu onjalo akanakwenzeka ukuba abe yintsapho efanelekileyo, kuba uqala ukwenza ngesiseko sokungaqondi kakuhle, kwaye ukungabikho kwamabhinqa kunye noxanduva lwakhe kumenza ube yinkwenkwe eluhlaza, ngexesha elifanelekileyo lokunyamekela umama onothando.
Ngoko ke, masithi indoda yakho ithwele umtshato. Kwaye ucinga, bathi, bayaqhubeka, sele befuna abantwana, kwaye bahlala phantsi kwaye bathathe ukwakhiwa kwentsapho ngokunyanisekileyo. Kodwa uthe cwaka, unenkani. Khumbula ukuba ukuba umntu akangxamanga ukutshata - akuthethi ukuba akayithandi, mhlawumbi ulinganisa kwaye ulungele ukulungiselela le nyathelo. Jabulela ukuba unaloo mntu ucingayo okwazi ukuhlalutya. Ezi zimpawu ezintle ziya kumnceda ngokukhawuleza kwixesha elisondeleyo. Okwangoku ... ngelixa sikucebisa ukuba ube nesineke. Ngokukodwa ukuba wena ubona ukuba akabibi ukuba utshate, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba akayithandi. Ubudlelwane obufudumeleyo, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka kuhlolwe ukunyamezela ubomi bemihla ngemihla kunye nemibango yokuqala yentsapho, ngoko, mhlawumbi ngaphambi kokuba uzalise ubuhlobo bakho ngokusemthethweni, indoda yakho iya kufuna ukuhlangana kunye nokuhlala kunye. Ngoko ukuthetha, ukuqonda ukuba unako ukuhlamba. Kwaye esi sigqibo silinganisiwe kakhulu, sibonisa ukuba umntu wakho ngumntu omdala kwaye onengqiqo.
Nangona kwenzeka ukuba le ngqiqo kunye nobudala buyandisa ixesha. Oko kukuthi, udibana, udibana, uhlala kunye iminyaka emininzi, kwaye, njengoko ucinga, uhamba ngokugqibeleleyo. Hayi, kunjalo, kwaye unemibango emincinci kunye neengxabano - kodwa uyazi ukuba ungayifumana njani isisombululo, kwaye ungayifaki imeko kwihlabathi jikelele. Uyakwazi ukusasaza ngokufanelekileyo imisebenzi yasendlini, wena, njengowesifazane, unqwenela ukuxhobisa intsapho yakho, ukusabalalisa ngokukhululekileyo induduzo kunye nokufudumala kuzo zonke iindawo zokuhlala ekhaya lakho. Kwaye, njengomntu, uyakuthanda ukuba xa ebuya ekhaya evela emsebenzini, ufumanisa kwindawo yokukhathalela okungapheliyo nokufudumala ukuba unokuhlala ethembele kuwe, ukuba uya kwenza konke kuye. Kodwa apha ulwalamano lusempini. Okokuthi, akukho siphakamiso, kwaye akukho, kwaye nonke nilinde kwaye ulinde. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo?
Ngokomgaqo, konke kulula. Amadoda ngokukhawuleza athatyathwa kakuhle (mhlawumbi amabhinqa nawo adumile ngoku). Yaye ukuba ubomi bakho emtshatweni womtshato (masibize njalo) ngumntu onqwenelayo, ngoko uyasetyenziselwa ukuba, ewela umda wendlu, ngokukhawuleza uva ilizwi lakho elivumba elimnandi livela ekhitshini, ukuba akukho nto iguquka kwaye yonke into izinzile. Ngoko uyasetyenziselwa oku kuqhubeka. Kwaye akayiqondi nantoni na: kutheni ufanele utshintshe into ethile, kutheni ufanele uphule le ndlela-yokuthula emalungiselelweni omtshato, kutheni le ngxabano? Hayi, ngokucacileyo uyaqonda ukuba ukudweba akunakuphetshwa, kodwa uyazama ukulibazisa le mcimbi, ukuze angaphindi kwakhona. Kwaye kwakhona kuqinisekisa kwakhona ukuba ukuba umntu akangxamanga ukutshata-akuthethi ukuba akayithandi, mhlawumbi uyasetyenziselwa ukuba kunye?
Kukho ezinye izizathu zokuba umntu onothando angayicima imini yomtshato. Kwaye ininzi ibhaso yabo kungabikho kobuncedo bezinto eziphathekayo kumcimbi omkhulu. Emva kwakho konke, kusekho amadoda ehlabathini abonwabisayo ngokukrakra ebusweni babo bathandekayo njengenjongo yobomi babo. Aba bantu bahlala bekulungele ukuluma umhlaba ngamazinyo abo, ukuze bafezekise iphupha elixabisekileyo lomfazi wabo. Kodwa luhlobo luni lomtshakazi engaphuphayo nge-chic, emtshatweni omangalisayo?
Umtshato ngexesha lethu - isiganeko asihlambulukanga, ngamanye amaxesha kuthatha ngaphezu konyaka omnye ukuqokelela imali ukulungiselela ieholide lenene, ukumema zonke izihlobo zabo. Kwaye emva kwesidlo somsindo ukuqhubela kwinyanga ethile kwenye indawo, ukuphumla ngaphantsi kwemithi yesundu, ukushisa ilanga elangeni kwaye ungacingi malunga nantoni na, ngaphandle kwesinye.
Okanye mhlawumbi indoda yakho iyesaba! Ewe, ewe, ndoyika, kodwa kungekhona wena, kodwa yinto ejongene nayo eya kuwela emagxeni akhe emva kokuba ipasipoti ihlotshiswe ngesitampu? Emva koko, intsapho inomsebenzi omkhulu kwaye uyakhathalela, ayikho inkululeko yokuhamba. Emva koko, uya kuhlala udibana nomfazi kwinto yonke. Kwaye, ngokukodwa, akukho nkululeko yemali - apha, kuya kufuneka, ukuxubusha nganye inkcitho yenkcitho nomfazi wayo, ingakumbi ukuba umntu ufuna imali eninzi. Akuyena wonke umntu ofuna ukuguqula ubomi bawo obuqhelekileyo. Kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba amadoda anjalo awayithandi amantombazana abo - awanakhuli ukuziphatha kwintsapho, kwaye kufuneka awancede ukwenza oku. Okanye ulinde uze ukhule ukhule. Kuya kuwe ukugqiba.
Ngokubanzi kwaye ngokubanzi, intsapho injalo inyathelo elinoxanduva, ukuzaliseka kwamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko ukulinda ixesha elide, ukulinganisela, ukuhlalutya nokuhlola ubuhlobo bakho ngamandla. Emva kwakho konke, sonke sifuna intsapho ibe yinye - kunye nobomi, kungabikho ukuxabana kunye nokwahlukana, inamandla, eqinile. Yaye ukuba sithatha le nyathelo ngokukhawuleza kwaye singenangqiqo - sinokwenza ngokugqithiseleyo impazamo size sihlale kunye nekhefu eliphukileyo. Kwaye akukho mntu ufuna.
Ngoko ungacinezeli umfana wakho ngenxa yokuba ungakhangeli ukutshata naye-mhlawumbi ukulindele ixesha elifanelekileyo, imeko ezifanelekileyo? Yiba nesineke, ngakumbi xa uqinisekile ukuba iqabane lakho liyilo elizayo. Iifoto zizaliseka, ngamanye amaxesha zikhetha ixesha elifanelekileyo!