Ubuntwaba bubunzima kunzima kubomi babo bonke abantu. Njengomthetho, umatshatyalaliso oluphawulekayo lokubhikisha, umnqweno wokuzivakalisa. Ngoko ke, kuthiwa yinkxalabo yentuthuko, iyafana nokuqina kunye nokunyaniseka kwintlupheko yobudala obuphakathi. Ixesha leveki eliselula libonakaliswa ngenguqu-magunya - ukusuka kootitshala ukuya koontanga.
Ngamanye amaxesha awona bantwana, kodwa ayingabantu abadala, basebenzisa iindlela ezithusayo zokuthetha. Umgaqo wabo uquka ukudala ii-subcultures. Baqhankqalaza malunga nezopolitiko, amasiko, imithetho. Iyazibonakalisa kwiingubo eziqaqambileyo, ezizenzekelayo, ukwakheka okufanayo, ukubhoboza kunye namathambo. Kodwa indlela ebalulekileyo yokuzibonakalisa kwabo yindlela yokuziphatha eyahlukileyo kwimimiselo eqhelekileyo, imbono yoluntu yokuziphatha, njalonjalo. (ukusetyenziswa kotywala, ukutshatyalaliswa ngokweqile okanye ukwesatshiswa kwabanye ngokuzama ukuzibulala).
Ngaphambi kokuba unike naliphi na icebiso malunga nendlela yokulwa nendlela yokuzibonakalisa ngayo, qwa lasela ezimbini eziphambili, eziqhelekileyo.
Emo
Abameli balo mkhwa babizwa ngokuba yi "emo-kits". I-subculture ibangelwa ngabafana abaselula kakhulu, ngubani onokuphendula kuzo zonke iintlobo zeengxaki kunye neengxabano ngendlela engafanelekanga. Ngoko ke, isiqalo esithi "kid" (angl.rebenok) asikho ngengozi apha. Ngoko ndivuya kakhulu kwaye ndikhale ngenxa yohlobo oluthile lokuncinci kuphela abantwana. Oku kuphawu lwesimo semoya.
Kukholelwa ukuba u-emo ngabantu abanelungelo lokudandatheka nokuzibulala. Enyanisweni, oku akunjalo. Abafana abancinci bavele baveze iimvakalelo zabo kwaye bakhetha ukungagcini yonke into. Bobabini abamnyama kunye nepinki banokubaluleka kumbala kunye nokwenza. Amehlo agqitywe ngumthi onzima.
Kodwa kukho umzuzu omuhle kuyo yonke le nto. I-Emo-kizdyzachastymi zi-Straightagers, ezo zimeleli zentshukumo, ezikhuthaza impilo yokuphila kunye nokulahla ubudlelwane bezesondo obuphathekayo.
Goths
I-quasi-yenkolo yenkwenkwela yolutsha, ebonakala yinto engcolileyo yobomi kunye nokuthandana kokufa. Ngako oko, isitayela sokuhlaselwa kwesantya kunye nezinto ezinxulumene nokufa kubangelwa kukugqoka. I-Gotam inomdla okhathazekayo kakhulu ngomfanekiso wayo kunye nokuthakazeliswa kwayo yonke into engaphezu kwendalo. Abafana abaselula bahlala bexelisa iimeko ezixhalabileyo kunye nokungahloneli nto kwizinto ezizungezile.
Ekubeni kuninzi i-subspecies ye-subculture, ukhetho lweengubo zeGothic luhluke kakhulu, kwaye iingubo ngokwabo ziloyikisa umntu "oqhelekileyo". Ngako oko, kuyinqweneleka kubazali benjenge-adolescence ukuba bathathe inxaxheba ekuthengweni kweengubo ezinjalo kwaye baqhelise ngobuchule umntwana ukuba akhethe i-esesthetic ngaphezulu (ngombono wakho) iimpahla, eziza kudibana nesimo seGothic ngexesha elifanayo.
Kuthiwani ngabazali?
Ejongene nale ngxaki, umzali ngamnye uya kucinga ngamanyathelo adingeka ukuba athathwe ukukhusela umntwana kwimiphumo emibi yontanga. Umntu unokusingatha njani umntwana okhusayo ukuze alondoloze ubudlelwane obuhle naye kwaye ngokufanayo ulawule izenzo zakhe aze ahlale ezenzweni zokukhawuleza?
Okokuqala, ungazami ukuphendula kakubi kwinkampani yakhe engaqhelekanga. Oku kuya kunzima kuphela imeko. Ingxelo yakho engalunganga malunga nabahlobo bakhe iya kuba esinye isizathu sokubhikisha. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kunye nabahlobo babo, abantwana abaselula bayabonisa ukunyelisa izihlobo zabo. Impendulo ekunganeliseki kwakho iya kuba nolwazi kunye nentetho yokunyaniseka. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana uya kwandisa udumo lwakhe emehlweni "ofunda nabo". Uza kugxotha igunya lakho kwaye kuya kuba nzima nakakhulu ukuba ufumane ulwimi oluqhelekileyo nalo.
Kunzima ukunika iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokujongana nale meko. Ngamanye amaxesha, xa ukuvukela kwentsha, kwimbono yakho, kungaphezu kwezinto ezivumelekileyo, kufuneka uguqulele kwingcali. Kule nto engeyiyo ihlazo. Wena, ube phakathi kwimbali, kuya kuba nzima ukuvavanya imeko. Ingcali yeengqondo iya kumjonga njengokungathi iphuma ngaphandle ize ibonise ingcambu yengxaki. Xa ufunde isizathu, kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuba ufumane umyalelo olandelayo wezenzo.
Ngamanye amaxesha umele ukwamkele utshintsho olwenzekayo kumntwana wakho. Musa ukusikhumbuza rhoqo indlela engonwabanga ngayo ukubonakala kwakhe. Sebenzisa ixesha elininzi kunye naye. Bonisa ukuba unamahloni ukuya kwindawo ethile naye xa egqoke okanye epeyintiweyo "engathandi yonke into". Mema abahlobo bakhe ukuba bangene kwaye baze balungiselele iqela elincinci. Kodwa ungakulibali ukuba ungumzali, kwaye ngokumnika inkululeko yokuthatha inxaxheba, usaludinga ukuwukhawulela kwiifom ezifanelekileyo. Ukuba wamvumela ukuba ahlele iphathi kwaye ammemele kubahlobo bakhe abangaqhelekanga, gama ixesha elifanelekileyo ekufuneka liphele ngalo, kunye nemfuneko ebalulekileyo-kwikamva elikufutshane libuke igumbi elibukeka lidala kwaye uhlambe izitya.
Khumbula:
Ukuba ufuna ukuhlakulela emntwaneni wakho imikhuba ethile (ngokuchasene nabakhweli), kuya kuthatha ukuphindaphinda oku-3. Ukukuphelisa oko kuya kufuneka uphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwezihlandlo ezingamashumi amabini.
Ngamanye amaxesha umele uxelele intombazana ukuba uyazi ukuba "ungumntu omdala" kwaye ucinge ngoluvo lwakhe. Kodwa kukho inkathazo encinane apha. Yongeza ukuba njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula kwaye ngoku unokukwazi ukuzimela ngokuzimela, uxanduva lokudala (ukuhlamba izitya, ukutshiza izitya kunye nokuhlamba iimpahla zakho ezingaqhelekanga, ukuya kwizinto zokuthenga, njl.) Uya kunikwa. Ingxelo enjalo kufuneka iphosakele umnqweno wakhe wokuba ngumdala ngokukhawuleza.
Siya lumkisa ingxaki
Ukuba awukaze uhlangabezane nengxaki yentsikelelo yeshumi elivisayo, soyika ukuba esikhathini esizayo umntwana wakho "okhulile" angayiphonsa inombolo enjalo, ngoko kufuneka:
Ngaphambi koko, fundisa umntwana indlela enomdla ngayo ukuchitha ixesha elikhululekile.
Mkhangele ngohlobo oluthile lokuzilibazisa (ukudansa, ukubhukuda, ukudweba, njl.) Ungacinezeli kumntwana. Makhe akhethe oko akuthandayo. Umsebenzi wakho, ukuwuqonda ngeendlela ezikhoyo.
Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuba ubuncinane into eyodwa yokuzonwabisa, ukujongana nomntwana.
Umntwana kufuneka abone ukuba unomdla kwinto ethile. Oko kukuthi, wena ngokwakho umele ube ngumzekelo omhle kumntwana wakho, ngokokuba ubona izibonelelo zento oya kumnika yona.
Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu. Iingxaki zentsapho kufuneka zixazululwe ngokusebenzisa intetho, kungekhona ngoncedo loxinzelelo lokuziphatha kumntwana kunye nemiyalelo. Ngethuba leshumi elivisayo, abazali kufuneka babe ngabaphathi bamntwana, okumele kuthotyelwe.