Cinga ngako, kodwa ukuba wawunomntwana, yiyiphi iholide onokuyithanda? Okanye ukhumbule into esuka ebuntwaneni bakho esele kwimemori yakho? Yintoni umzuzu oqaqambileyo? Ewe, kumntwana, into ebaluleke kakhulu iyimangalisa, izipho, imidlalo. Kwaye, ngokukodwa ukususela kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, kukho iingcali ezininzi ezibandakanya ukuqhuba imithendeleko, akufuneki ukugcina imali kwiinkonzo zabo. Sebenzisa imali, kodwa ulungiselele iholide lomntwana, mnike uvuyo kunye nekratshi kubazali bakhe. Ukuba, kwisabelo-mali seentsapho zakho akukho mali yokuqesha iingcali, ngoko unokwenza iholide. Ngaphezu koko, iqela labantwana bakho ngokuqinisekileyo liza kuba lilodwa, liyingqayizivele. Ngaba uyazi abantwana abaya kuza kwiphathi? Yingakho unako ukufikelela kumntwana ngamnye ngabanye. Ukuqonda indlela yokulungiselela umhla wokuzalwa komntwana, kufuneka, okokuqala, uqaphele ngokuchanekileyo amanqaku ambalwa.
Iholide iya kuba nini?
Ukuba iindwendwe ezimenywe zisemncinci kakhulu, ngokufanelekileyo, umntwana wakho akaseneminyaka engaphezu kwemihlanu ubudala, ngoko mema iindwendwe ngcono ngemini. Abazali mabaxelelwe kwangaphambili xa idili lezingane zenu ziqala. Akukho imfuneko ukukhupha abantwana abancinci ngokuhlwa, kungcono ukubamba ukusebenza kwentsasa. Oko kukuthi, bizela wonke umntu ngaphambi kokuhlwa.
Zingaphi iindwendwe ziya kuba khona?
Ukuba uya kubhiyozela usuku lokuzalwa kwindlu, kufuneka uqikelele amandla okugumbana, khumbula ukuba abantwana abaselula baya kuza nabantu abadala. Ngaphezu koko, kufuneka uhlolisise ubuchule bakho njengotitshala, nokuba unako ukuzonwabisa nabashumi namantombazana. Ngasentshonalanga, iingcali zincoma umthetho, ukumema iindwendwe iminyaka emininzi njengomntwana. Ewe, akunjalo ngokunyanisekileyo, kukho ukuba unyaka nobazali nogogo banalo. Ukwazi kakuhle ukuba zingaphi iindwendwe eziza kuba lula kwaye zikhawuleze ukulungiselela usuku lokuzalwa lomntwana.
Qaphela!
Funda kubazali babantwana abamenywayo malunga nokutya kwabo kunye nokuba ngaba kunokungabikho kokutya kokutya. Kubalulekile ukususa ekufikeleleni kuzo zonke izinto ezinobungozi ezifana neengqayi, iimivumba, ukususa iintambo zombane kunye nokukhupha ngokukhuselekileyo iziseko. Okokuthi, ukulungiselela ukubhiyozelwa komhla wokuzalwa kufuneka kufezeke, ukuze iholidi ingabi nantoni na.
Ewe, ngoku, kubonakala ngathi konke kulungile, ngoku kufuneka udibanise imbali. Kubalulekile ukuthetha ngobuchule indlela yokuqalisa ukubhiyozela, indlela yokubamba. Qinisekisa ukuba isitokethi kunye nezinto zokwenza imidlalo, iimangalo ezincinci kumntwana ngamnye. Umdlalo kwiholide uxhomekeke kwiminyaka yabantwana kunye neempawu zabo. Khumbula ukuba kungcono ukuba ungakhethi loo midlalo apho ufuna ukukhuphisana khona. Ngokukodwa kubantwana abancinci, kuba akubona bonke abantwana abakwaziyo ukudlala. Unokufumana kuphela iinyembezi zeentlungu, inzondo kunye nentukuthelo evela kumntwana olahlekileyo. Kakade ke, oku akuncedi ukuzonwabisa.
Xa kunjalo, faka i-drive kunye neekhathuni ezithakazelisayo, kunye nabantwana abakhulileyo ongabonisa ifilimu. I-cartoon okanye ifilimu kufuneka ifikelelwe kuminyaka kwaye ibe yinto ehlekisayo kwaye ijabulise. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza abantwana abafuni ukubukela ithelevishini ngokukhawuleza, kodwa banqwenela ukunqabisa, kukho isimangaliso esilungisayo kwaye kuthiwa yi-ayisikrimu.
Unokuza neqela leemidlalo ezahlukileyo apho abantwana baya kudlala khona. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba wonke umntu uyamangalisa, umvuzo wokuthatha inxaxheba kumdlalo.
Omnye wemithetho ebaluleke kakhulu, ngelixa ulungiselela ukubhiyozelwa komhla wokuzalwa, qwalasela iimfuno, umdla womntanakho, ngakumbi ukuba unokwazi ukubonakalisa uluvo lwakhe. Inyaniso kukuba iingcamango zabazali nabantwana malunga neeholide kunye nenjabulo zihlukile. Ngoko ke, nikela loo midlalo, loo makhathuni aya kuba nomdla kumntwana wakho.