Nathi, sinjalo, kwakunjalo, kodwa ke sakhula size siqhube "umntwana wangaphakathi" entliziyweni. Kodwa ngelize. Kule nqaku siye saqokelela iqoqo encinci yezinto ezahlukeneyo zabantwana kubantu abadala, kunye nezizathu ezisixhenxe ezingenasisiseko zokuthatha umzekelo kumncinane.
Ihlabathi lihlaselwa
Ngokuya kwimithetho yefilosofi ye-optical kwi "instant picture" eyenziwe yi-retina yeso, ihlabathi elijikelezileyo liboniswa phezulu. Yilokho okuqala ukubonwa ngumntwana wakhe omtsha, kodwa njengoko uphuhliso luqhubeka, ubuchopho buyenza uhlengahlengiso: "umfanekiso" ovela kwi-retina, ekhowudiwe ngesimo semigudu yesibindi, ungene kwi-cortex ye-cerebral, kwaye kukho apho "isithombe" sokugqibela sakhiwa (ngokubhekiselele kwimeko yamava). Kwaye uyaqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba unina akakwazi ukuhamba phezu kwelayili! Ngenkcazo yombala we-gamut nayo ilukhuni: iintonga (ezijongene nombono omnyama nomhlophe) kunye namaconsi (ngombala) kwiimvumba zisebenza ngamandla kunye nongundoqo, kodwa ukuba akhangele - ayithethi ukubona. Ubugcisa bokugxila kunye nokukhangela into efuna ukufunda! Kwinqanaba lokuqala, usana lukhetha kuphela imibala ethile yemeko ejikelezileyo: omnyama nomhlophe, emva kweenyanga ezi-3-6 zifunda ukubona izinto ezinobumba obuhlaza. Ukwahlukana phakathi kwabantwana kubantu abadala kuthetha ukwesaba komntwana kokuzama into entsha.
Umntwana osuka kumntwana
Kubonakala ukuba ingqondo yengane ayinalutho elingenanto, kodwa ingqolowa yendalo yolwazi! Ngokomzekelo, ubuchule bakhe beengqondo kunye neelwimi buyinto engummangaliso. Abaphandi baseCanada baye bafumanisa ukuba iintsana zinokufumana ukungafani ezintweni ezifana nomnye njengamaconsi amabini (ngokuqinisekileyo, kwimbono yabantu abadala). Kwaye abantwana abasanda kuzalwa bayazi kakuhle iilwimi - umzekelo, bahlula ngokulula isiNgesi kwisiFrentshi. Imfihlelo kukunyuka kweemvakalelo ezibonakalayo: ubamba iliso ngeenguqu ezincinane ebusweni kunye nokufunda ngokusemthethweni emlonyeni! Ukongezelela, umfazi omncinane ufundela ngefayile kunye nengoma, evezwe ngaphambi kokuzalwa. Emva koko, phantse bonke abantwana bazalwa benokuva. Inzululwazi yaseMerika, ihlola iintsana ezisibhozo ezineminyaka ezisibhozo, yaqaphela ukuba izifundo zinqumle nokuba utshintsho oluncinci kumabinzana omculo kwaye lubahluko phakathi kwabantwana abadala. Kucingwa ukuba ukuqonda ngokuchanekileyo ithoni kunye nesigxina sesandi kunceda abantwana bafunde ukuthetha. Yaye, ke, iphela kunye nexesha-malunga nonyaka. Kodwa akusiyo yonke into-kwizizwana ezithetha ngeelwimi zeelin (iVietnam, isiShayina), iqhubeka.
Mma ngaliso
Ngoqhagamshelwano olunxibeleleneyo, wonke umntu ufuna - inethiwekhi yeeurons ezinobunzima bokuthinta, ihamba phantsi kwesikhumba somntu: ukubamba uphawu oluqhelekileyo, sisabela xa sitshitshisa ngomsindo okanye ezinye iimpawu ezinobungane. Kodwa yintoni epholileyo kwaye enqwenelekayo kumntu omdala imfuneko ngokwenene umntwana! Abaphandi baqaphele ukuba abantwana abafumana umgca kubazali babo kungekhona nje ngexesha loxhamli bekhaya (xa besondliwa, bahlamba okanye bembethe), kodwa nabo bekhululekile (xa banga, bethinjwa, bethathwa ngezandla zabo), bakhula bephilile kwaye banokuqonda ngakumbi . Emva kokuhlukana phakathi kwabantwana kubantu abadala, kuyinto yesiko ukuthatha ukukhutshwa kwabantu abadala kunye neengxaki zobuntwana.
Ixesha labantwana
Izazinzulu zaseMerika ziva nje ukuqinisekiswa ukuba ukuqonda kwexesha kubo bonke abantu kuhlukile kwaye kuxhomekeke ngqo kwixesha elidala - esele sikhulileyo, ngokukhawuleza iintolo zisebenza kwiwashi yangaphakathi. Kwavela ukuba ukungafani kwabantwana kubantu abadala kunye nokuchaneka kwabo kuhambelana ne-dopamine yezinto (ngaphezulu koko, ukukhawuleza i-clock ticking), kunye nokukhula kwayo kwandisa. Ukuba ubuza umntwana ukuba acinge ngengqondo ubude bemizuzu emi-3, uya kuhamba emva kwemizuzwana engu-5-10 (kunye nomntu oneminyaka engama-60 ubudala loo mizuzu emithathu iya kudlula ngomzuzu kunye nemizuzwana engama-40). Ngoku kuyacaca ukuba kutheni ubuntwaneni ukholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo: iholide ngumncinci ubomi. Enye into ebonwa ngumbono wengane - ukuxhomekeka kwayo ngokunyaniseka kweemfuno zentsana (ukulamba, ukukhathala okanye isidingo sokutyelela indlu yokubambezeleka yangasese akunyanzelwanga - nokuba imizuzu embalwa yokulinda ibonakala ingunaphakade). Umntwana uphila ngomgaqo othi "Ndifuna-kunika", ngokungafani nabantu abadala "kufuneka" kwaye "luncedo".
Ndithenge inja!
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu! Iingcali zeengqondo zaseJamani zifumene ukuba abanikazi abonwabileyo bahlobo abaxhamlileyo baziphatha kakuhle kwaye bafezekisa impumelelo enkulu kwizifundo zabo! Yintoni eyimfihlo? Mhlawumbi ngoxanduva lomsebenzi, owenza ukukhulumisana nenja (isilwanyana kufuneka sihlale sigxina, sondliwa). Okanye mhlawumbi ukuba umntwana uyayiqonda ulwimi lwabazalwana bethu abancinci? Abaphandi baqaphele ukuba abantwana bahlula ukuhlula imvakalelo yezilwanyana (oku kwaqinisekiswa ngamalinge anemigqomo enyanga ezintandathu) - oku kubangelwa ukuqonda okungakumbi kwehlabathi ngomntwana.
Kwiziko leMveli
Ukuzibona nje ngokuthi "intonga yomhlaba" yintsana imvelo. Ngomngcwabo we-egocentrism, umntwana uyazibona zonke ihlabathi elizungezile: unina - kuphela ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zakhe (ngoko kungabikho kwakhe ekhaya akuvumelekanga), ukuzalwa komntakwabo okanye udade kulukhohlisayo (emva kwayo yonke into). Isi simo sengqondo esincinci kwizinto eziyinyaniso ziyafana ukuya kwimizuzu emibini ubudala (ukuba ihlala ixesha elide - ngokucacileyo, ikhuthazwa ... ngabazali). Kulo nyaka, ukungafani phakathi koonyana kunye nabantu abadala kungekudala.
Ngaba uyakhala? Andikwazi ukuva!
Ngokungafani nomntu omdala, ngubani, othetha naye, uthembela kwisingiselo sesingiselo sezinto ezithethiweyo, umntwana uyasabela, okokuqala, ukuvakalelwa kunye nemvakalelo (nangona umntu omdala engayiboni umbala okhethekileyo wemvakalelo yentetho yakhe). Ingane iyayichaza, ihlaziya intetho, ubuso buso, impawu kunye nokunye. I-mask evuthayo ebusweni bomzali, ilizwi elikhulu kunye neminwe emininzi inokuthi "i-infect" yomntwana ngeemvakalelo ezibi (ukuxhala kunye noyiko), okanye ukugqithisa. Njengentsingiselo yamagama akho. Inkqubo yeentlanzi, ukuphepha ukukhulula, ukuvimbela iinkqubo zengqondo - abantwana abancinci abanakho ukuva amazwi angabangela ukuba bawaphumele.
Inomdla kakhulu into engaziwayo ...
Kodwa kuphela ixesha. Ngokwazinzululwazi zaseJapan, ukususela kwiminyaka emithathu ubuchopho bomntwana, njengemoto, ukugwinya ngokugqithiseleyo yonke into enikwa kuyo, kuqala ukucoca ulwazi. Ukunika inzuzo kwizinto ezinomdla kuye! Ukutsala ingqwalasela encinane yengqondo akulula. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukunikezela ngolwazi ngesimo semdlalo, okanye ukuphosakela ngamabomu (umzekelo, ukufunda incwadi eqhelekileyo) - kufuneka uzive nje njengomntu owaziwayo!
Ukufikelela okoqobo
Abantwana bayazi: indlela engcono yokufumana indlela "oku" kusebenza ngayo ukuyidibanisa kwikhogi. Ngokukodwa ukuba ayikho iTV ye-plasma, kodwa ingxaki engaphendululwayo. Ukusabalalisa umba onzima kwiithalafu - kwaye yonke into iya kuvela!
Musa ukuzisa "umsebenzi" ekhaya: zonke iingxaki ezishiywe emva komnyango wendlu, kuba le yindawo yokuphumla kunye noqhagamshelwano oluhle.
Ukubuza imibuzo: ungaba neentloni ukungazi - kuhlazo ukungazibuza. Inqwenela enye yeendlela zokwazi ihlabathi, kwaye omnye akufanele akhuphe. Kuyamangalisa ukuba zininzi iinkcukacha ezintsha kunye nemibono emihle-ngokoqobo!
Mamela uze uve: kunye nomnxibelelwano ova (kwaye akagcini nje ukulindela umntu omnye) unokusombulula nokuba nemibuzo enzima kakhulu. Unakekele abaphulaphuli kwaye uzame ukuzifanisa nawe.
Ukuhleka ngokuphindaphindiweyo: abantwana abasayazi ukuba ukuhleka kubeka ingcinezelo, kuvelisa ama hormone ajabulisayo, kuvuselela nokulahla abantu. Bahleka nje njengaye.
Zama!
Yiba ngabahlobo bokwenene: ngaphandle kwezinto zokufumana inzuzo okanye intuthuzelo.
Hambisa ngaphezulu: umzimba wethu uthethelelwe oku! Abantwana bathi "ukuqina", kuba ngumdlalo: baleka, gxuma, yibambe ibhola. Umdlalo onjalo ongeyonto nje kuphela, kodwa unomdlalo omnandi!