Kodwa masicinge, yintoni ephosakeleyo ngokugxeka? Ngaba ihlala iphazamisekile? Ingaba iyingozi okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, inceda ngokwayo ukuphucula into ethile, ukuyilungisa? Sinokuzuza njani ngabanye bethu ngokugxeka? Indlela yokuphatha kakuhle iintlobo zayo ezahlukeneyo?
Ukuphazamisa iqhawe elithandwayo uTom Hanks kwi-movie ethi "Forrest Gump", ukugxekwa kwahluke. Kuyaziwa ukuba kukho ukugxekwa nokugxeka. Umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwezi ngqiqo ngolu hlobo lulandelayo. Ukugxeka, ugqoke ngefom yeenjongo, kusekuqaleni kwindlela ekujoliswe ngayo ekutshintsheni imeko ngokubanzi okanye ezinye iimpawu zomntu ezingcono. Ngaloo ndlela, umgxekayo uninzi okanye ungaphantsi kwimoya enokwenza okulungileyo-kwaye kunzima ukungavumelani nalokhu.
Mhlawumbi intloko iyalwe ukuba yenze uxwebhu okanye, yithi, ingxelo. Usebenze kanzima kulo msebenzi ngeentsuku eziliqela waza wanikela iphepha ngelixesha, ngelixa uhlala uvuyayo. Kodwa umphathi, emva kokufunda umsebenzi owanikezelwa nguwe, waqhaqhawula, uthini, "ngamathambo", nendlela yokuphatha le meko?
Kakade, ukugxekwa kuyinto engathandekiyo, akukho nto inokungabaza ngayo. Kwaye ukuba ungakhange ujonge nje "ukufunga" nje, kodwa njengento yokufumana ingxelo: kodwa ngoku uyazi ukuba kuya kuba "luhle kakhulu", kwaye yintoni enye oyifunayo ukuba usebenze kuyo, eya kufuneka ukuba uyihlawule Ngexesha elizayo? Ngoko ke, waba ngumnikazi "wolwazi olufihlakeleyo," ongeke ufike ngaphandle kwintlanganiso kungekudala.
Ukugxekwa kukuthi "ubugcisa bobugcisa." Injongo yaso ephambili kukugxeka nje. Ukugxeka - kule meko, kuphela ithagethi, uhlobo lwesitye sokuxhobisa "ubuchule". Kwaye ke unelungelo lokweqa izitenxo ezingenakulungeleka malunga nawe, okanye ukunika uxhatshazo kumdlali wakho.
Ngoko kuyaqondakala ukuba uqaphele ezi ngcamango ezimbili - zombini kwimixholo kunye nefomu-kwaye ubaphathe ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Unokukhangela kwakhona ingxaki kwi-angle ehlukile - ukuba ukhangeleka kwinqanaba leembono malunga nokuqonda okuhlukile kwento esiva ngayo kwabanye. Kubonakala ngathi kukukhulu ukuphulaphula nokuva bonke abantu, bathathe "ingqolowa engqiqweni" kuzo zonke eziye zathethwa kwaye zizisebenzise ngenjongo yokuziphucula. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umntu kufuneka akwazi "ukucoca" imilambo yamagama egeleza kuthi, acingisise ngokuzimela komntu ngamnye wehlabathi, ngumbono ophosakeleyo ovumelekileyo womntu wesibini, ukungaqiniseki kwemfundo, iinkolelo, isimo sengqondo, njl njl. kunye nezinye.
Ngamanye amazwi, ukugxekwa, njengamathuba amaninzi ebomini bethu, kuyinto engacacileyo kunye neenkcukacha ezininzi. Inamandla amakhulu, anokukwazi ukusinika ithuba elihle lokuhlakulela, ukuphuhlisa, ukufikelela kumgangatho ophezulu wezobugcisa okanye ujikelezo olutsha lolwalamano olusondeleyo. Ngexesha elifanayo, ukugxeka kukufihla ngokwayo kunye neengozi ezininzi kunoma yimuphi umntu-ukususela ekubonakaleni kwentukuthelo ekunqongeni kwezinto eziphantsi kwexesha elikhoyo, ukusuka ekulahlekelweni kwempumelelo ukuya kulahlelwa ngokupheleleyo kwimeko esele iqalile, ngoko kuyimfuneko ukuyiphatha ngokuchanekileyo. Kubonakala ukuba kufuneka iphathwe ngokunyamekela nokunyamekela. Kwaye bobabini abagxeki ngokwabo kunye nabagxekayo kufuneka baqwalasele inkqubo ethile yokukhusela ekunxibelelweni, eyona nkqubo enzima kakhulu yokusebenza.