Oku kunceda nokuba, okukhangela ngaphezulu nangakumbi imihla ngemihla. Emva kokubuya ekhaya uvela emsebenzini, kufuneka upheke, uhlambe izitya, ufundise nomntwana wakho. Uphi indawo yokuthandana? Kodwa nguye ozisa ulonwabo kulwalamano. Ukuthandana kwenza ubomi bentsapho bube lula, ngakumbi emoyeni. Liyinxalenye yothando. Kwaye akukho nto, kwaye uthando luqala ukuphela. Kwaye oku kukhokelela kwimiphumo engafanelekiyo. Ngoko njani ukugcina uthando nothando emtshatweni?
Ukongezelela kweli nqaku, sinikela ngenjongo yokuqwalasela iingcebiso ezimbalwa kodwa eziphambili. Zama ukuzilandela, kwaye uza kubona ukuba ubuhlobo bakho buye bube buhluke kakhulu, kuya kuba nomoya wokonwaba, inomdla komnye nomnye, inomdla wokwabelana. Ukuze wenze konke oku kuyenzeka, awudingi iindleko ezinkulu zemali okanye zenyama. Ufuna nje ukwandisa ihlabathi lakho, ubone ezinye izinto ukusuka kwelinye icala. Iingcebiso esinazo apha zinokukunceda ukugcina ubudlelwane kwi-gap nokuba ngaba isibini sagqiba ukusabalalisa. Emva koko, ngokuqhelekileyo, ukutshatyalaliswa kwentsapho kunesizathu esilula. Abantu bangabonisa ingqwalasela enganeleyo komnye nomnye, banokungaqondi ukuqonda kunye nokuboniswa kwethenda, iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu. Ngoko, ukuba ulwalamano lwakho lusebunzima, musa ukukhawuleza kunye neengcambu zabo.
Enye yezona mpazamo eziphambili zowesifazane ngamnye ukwenza konke ngokugqibeleleyo. Kodwa ungayigcina njani uthando nothando emtshatweni wakho, ukuba uqale ukujika kumfazi ohlakaniphile kunye onokuzithengisa kumfazi we-robot? Ngaba ngokwenene bacinga ukuba abantu bayayixabisa into epheka ngayo imihla ngemihla, ukuhlamba, ukucoca, ukucoca, ukuhlamba, ukucima, aze alele embhedeni aze abulale umyeni wakhe ngokukhathala kwakhe emsebenzini Apha, bangaphi abenze konke. Emva koko, indoda engumyinge, akaqapheli konke! Abakhathaleli ukuba zihlandlo ezininzi ngeveki uhlamba umgangatho, ngosuku olulandelayo, okanye ungahlambanga inyanga. Ukuba ngaba oomama bacinga ukuba abantu banezoshishino zingaphi uhlobo lwekhati lokugqoka kunye nokuba lufanelekile yini enye into eguguleyo kuyo. Ingaba iisokisi zifanele umbala wezicathulo, okanye kutheni utshintshe iimpahla zangaphantsi imihla ngemihla, ziphosakeleyo. Ewe, oku akuthethi ukuba akudingeki uhlambulule indlu, okanye uhlambe iimpahla zomyeni wakho. Oku kubonisa ukuba kuwe, bafazikazi abathandekayo, kubalulekile ukuzinikela ixesha elide ekubonakaleni kwakho kwaye unike ubuhle bakho kumyeni wakho. Ufuna ukukubona ekugqoke iingubo ezigcobileyo ngomsila entloko. Kwaye kwizinto ezicocekileyo, ezifanelekileyo, ugxininisa isidima sakho, kunye neenwele ezilungele kakuhle kwaye, ubuncinane ukukhanya, ukwenza. Ufuna umfazi ukuba athathele ingqalelo kuye, kungekhona umgcini wendlu.
Ngamnye wethu uneminqweno namaphupha akhe. Abanye abantu baphupha ukuya ekhonsathini kunye neqela labo abathandayo. Abanye batyelele isithuthuthu, njl njl. Ukuba isiqingatha sakho sifuna ukuya kwi-premiere yefilimu entsha, uthenge amathikithi amabini kuye uze uye kwi-cinema kunye. Ukuba umntu oyithandayo uyaphupha ngokuhamba ngomkhumbi, okanye ifowuni entsha yeselula - yonke into isesandleni sakho. Okanye mhlawumbi iphupha lokuloba ukuloba okanye ukuzingela. Ungayibambeli kwaye ube ngumqali walo. Oku kuya kuzisa uvuyo olukhulu, isiqingatha sakho kuba isifiso sakhe sigcwaliseka, kwaye kuwe ngenxa yokuba wenze into enhle kumntu oyintanda. Musa ukugxila kuphela kwiminqweno yakho. Nika umyeni wakho oko akufunayo kabi, kwaye uya kuvuya.
Musa ukucinga ukuba izipho kufuneka zinikezwe kuphela ngeeholide. Mnike into enhle, i-trinket kwi-weekday evamile. Makube sisipho esincinci nesincinci, kodwa sihle. Oku kwakhona uyambonisa ukuba uyintanda kuwe, ucinga ntoni ngaye, umthande. Mhlawumbi wancenga ukuba wayebone into kwaye wayeyathanda into efanayo. Nonke niyagubha intloko yenu, kwaye ngethuba elifanelekileyo, yithenge. Izipho kuphela kufuneka zinikezwe ngokunyanisekileyo, ukusuka entliziyweni yentliziyo, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba uyifunda apha, kwaye ke kuyimfuneko.
Kuya kuba yothando kakhulu xa uqala ukubhala omnye nomnye amanqaku ngamagama amahle, izifiso ezinqwenelekayo nokuvuma ngothando. Uze uzishiye kwiindawo ezivelele, umzekelo, kufuphi nekhompyutheni, kwigumbi lokulala emlanjeni, unamathele kwisiqandisini, kwisibuko kwindawo yokuhlambela. Ngokwemvelo, akudingeki ukuba ubambelele kuyo yonke indlu. Kulungile kancinci. Oku kufanele kubangele ukuvakalelwa, kungekhona ukucasula. Yonke into ifanele ibe ngokumodareyitha.
Sebenzisa ubuchwepheshe bekhompyutheni banamhlanje ukukunceda wenze iiklagi kwiifoto zakho, okanye wenze umboniso wesilayidi somculo wothando. Oku kuya kukunceda ukhumbule ixesha elimnandi lobomi bakho. Kwaye kuhle kakhulu.
Yiba nesidlo sothando. Thumela abantwana kugogo ukuze uzinikezele omnye nomnye. Akuyimfuneko ukulungiselela izitya ezilishumi. Makube lula ukucocwa kweziqhamo, ibhotile yewayini oyithandayo, umculo ongenakukhangela, amakhandlela kunye nawe. Ngaba sele uvakalelwa yiphunga leentlungu kunye nothando? Kwaye ngokwenene kukhulu.
Ngentsasa zama ukuvuka phambi komyeni wakhe, ubuncinane kwiminyaka eyi-15-20. Kufuneka ukuba ube nexesha lokuhlamba, ukudibanisa nokwenza. Unokwenza i sandwich uze wenze itiye. Umlingane wakho uya kumangaliswa kwaye uya kukuxabisa imizamo yakho.
Ukuba kusasa kuqala ngokumomotheka kumthande wakho kwaye unomnqweno ukusa kakuhle, kwaye uyakunika impendulo efanayo, ngoko ufumana umrhumo weemvakalelo ezintle usuku lonke.
Ngokuphindaphindiweyo bethana, bamba, bathi amazwi anomusa, mbulela inkonzo oyenzile. Kwaye into ebalulekileyo kuyo yonke into kukuthanda. Ukuba uyamthanda umntu ngobomi bokwenene, ke ezi ngcebiso ziyakunceda uhlale naye umtshato emtshatweni iminyaka emininzi yokuhlala kunye!