Bonke abantu banokubukeka bebuhle, bebhenekethi, bebuhle, bengekho, bahlambalaza, bahlambalaza, badangalisa. Kukho abo abangenanto engenakugqithiswa kukuvumela ukuba ube yimifanekiso yesitayela, ngoxa abanye bengenalo le nto banokutshatyalalisa kakhulu igama lakho okanye ubomi bakho bonke.
Abanye abafana abanalo umzekelo wesitayela ngokupheleleyo, abanye bazalwa, kwaye okwesithathu kubangelwa yimigudu ende kunye nomsebenzi onzima. Oku konke kuxhomekeke kumnqweno wendoda, njengoko wonke umntu uyazi, unokufunda yonke into. Ekubeni umfana ufundisa umxholo wesimboko kwaye uhambelana nantoni na?
Iimvakalelo ezinceda ekwakheni isitayela
Xa kuziwa kwisitayela, umntu akanakunceda kodwa khumbula ubukho beemvakalelo ezisisiseko, umzekelo, ukuthintela, ukubona, ukuvumba, ukuva, ukunambitha kunye nokufunda. Le mvakalelo inceda ukhethe okanye udale umfanekiso wakho, kodwa oku kuyimfuneko ukuhlakulela ngokwakho uvakalelo obalulekileyo - njengengqondo yesitayela.
Umntu uneemvakalelo ezintandathu ezisisetyenziswayo imihla ngemihla: ukuva, ukubona, ukuvumba, ukuthintela, intuition. Yiyo le mvakalelo engundoqo enokudala inani elikhulu leemvakalelo ezongezelelweyo. Ukuphela kwazo zonke ezi mvakalelo kunceda ukwenza ukhetho lwakho olulodwa kwinkqubo yokudala isitayela sakho esicacileyo. Ukuphuhlisa umqondo wesitayela kwindoda kungenziwa ngumzamo, umzamo, kunye nesiphumo esiya kuvela, sinokudlula konke okulindelekileyo.
Imigaqo yokwenza umqondo wesitayela kumfana
Ukufumana isiphumo esibalulekileyo, kufuneka ukhumbule imigaqo ethile:
- Ungesabi ukuxelisa abantu abanobugcisa kunye nabaphumelelayo. Ukuba ufundela umfanekiso wabo, unokuqonda ngokucacileyo indlela yokuzimela ngokwakho isitayela sakho.
- Kufuneka ukuba ufunde ubuchule obuchanekileyo bokuhlanganisa imibala kwiingubo, ukudibanisa imilo kunye nezitayela.
- Musa ukuvila ukufunda amaphephancwadi wefashini, kufuneka ubeke iliso rhoqo kwiimfashini nezitayela. Ungesabi ukuzama iindlela ezahlukeneyo.
- Kufanelekile ukuhamba kunye nesoka lakhe kunye neentengiso kwaye uthabathe iingubo ezinjalo, nto leyo, ngokutsho kwintombazana, kufuneka inxibe, okanye ithathe oko kuhamba kuye. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kuqonda oko akufunayo ukuzama.
- Kufanelekile ukuphulaphula izimvo zabanye abaqondayo isitayela kunye nemifashiselo yefashoni.