Ngoko, kufuneka uyenze ntoni, indlela yokuziphatha kunye nendlela ozoyenza ngayo?
Phantse njalo, amanqaku anjalo aqala ngengxoxo malunga nokubonakala. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuba amadoda adlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu. Kodwa ke, ngoku siza kuthetha malunga noko, ngaphandle kokuba nokuba ubuhle obubhaliweyo buya kuba yimpunga yegrey.
Ngokuphathelele ukuzithemba. Akukho mntu wanyamekela intombazana ezithiyayo. Umfana ufuna umntu onokuziqhayisa ngaye. Kwaye kunokwenzeka njani ukumhlonela intombazana enokuzibona enzima? Ewe kunjalo, akunjalo.
Kungoko, phakathi kwezi ndlela ezininzi ukuphumeza umfana, owokuqala kunye nezona zinto eziphambili ziya kuba: ukukholelwa kuwe.
Cinga ngokwakho, ubukele ngaphezu kweyodwa, vele ugqithise intombazana yamabhinqa ecaleni kwesitalato, kwaye emva koko kukho indoda encinci kwaye ilungileyo? Ngaba loo nto? Kwakukho. Uyabona, le ntokazi ibakholelwa yedwa, ikholelwa kakhulu kangangokuthi iyayiqonda into yokuba umfana ubuhle bakhe.
Yintoni endiyenzayo ukuze ndizive ndithembele kwaye ndikhulule? Kusoloko kuyimfuneko ukucinga ngezinto ezilungileyo. Ngaba awunconywa? Nanku ukhumbule kwakhona, uze uphinde uziphindiselele ngexesha othe wanquma ukuyeka, unciphise amahlombe akho uze uzifihle kwihlabathi lonke. Kufuneka ube ne-gleam emehlweni akho, ufanele uzive njengendoda yokumkani okanye inkosikazi xa uhamba phantsi kwesitalato. Kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba amadoda akhangele kuwe. Awunakholelwa, kodwa, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuya kuba njalo. Xa uqala ukukholelwa kuyo, abafana baya kuziva amandla akho kwaye bawa phantsi ngokungathandabuzeki phantsi kwefuthe labo. Uyakwazi ukukhwabanisa nokukhwabanisa nabani na odibana nohambo lwakho, ukuba uyazikhawulela.
Thetha wena. Oku akunjalo ukuziphatha komntu osindileyo kwisibhedlele sengqondo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, andinakuthetha iingxoxo ngeeyure malunga nokulinganiswa kobushushu kunye nokuguqulwa kwama-pandas. Funda ukujonga ngokwakho kwisibuko uze uthi ungumnandi, mhle, unomfanekiso omhle kunye nemilenze emilenze. Nangona ingqondo nentliziyo yakho yenqaba ngokupheleleyo ukuyikholelwa, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ufanele uziqinisekise, ngokuqhubekayo nangendlela. Ngaloo ndlela unokunqoba ubunzima bakho kwaye uzive amandla akho amabhinqa.
Kukho ezininzi zokuqeqesha ngokuzenzekelayo, kodwa, ungakulibali ukuba i-psyche and psychology yomntu ngamnye ngumntu ngamnye. Ngoko ke, yiza noqeqesho lwakho. Sebenzisa loo mazwi aqiniseke ngokuqinisekileyo. Inokuncoma, ukudumisa, nantoni na, nantoni na. Into ephambili kukuba kufuneka usebenze kuwe, ukunyanzelisa ukuba uphakamise intloko yakho phezulu kwaye uqhubeke ngakumbi, ungesabi nto nantoni na.
Xa uvuka ekuseni kwaye uthi la magama: "Namhlanje, kunye nam, kuya kuba nemimangaliso emithathu! - ndi vumele! Zonke izithintelo - ukukhansela! "Ukuphucula isenzo, emva" kwemvume "kunye" ukukhansela "unokuklifa iminwe yakho. Umsebenzi wokusebenza kwengqondo olula unceda ukuhlawulwa ngento efanelekileyo kunye neyolo lonke usuku.
Ukongezelela, zama ukuhlala kwisib. Ewe, oku akuthethi ukuba ufuna ukuhlaziya abahlobo abaneengxaki okanye uhlobo oluthile lwensizi. Kodwa, ukuba umntu uhlala ehlala ekhalaza imihla ngemihla, zizinto ezimbi, zihlala zikhala kwaye zibuhlungu kakhulu, ufumana inkokhelo yamandla ambi kuye ngokuzikhethela uze uqale ukubona yonke into emnyama. Ngoko ke, xa kunokwenzeka, zama ukuphepha abantu abanjalo.
Ukuba ufunda ukuzithandayo, ngoko unako ukuqhubela phambili kwiingcebiso malunga nokubonakala nokuziphatha.
Nantsi yonke into ilula. Xa ukhetha i-wardrobe, kufuneka uthabathe loo mpahla egxininisa ubuchule. Ukongezelela, imifanekiso yakho kufuneka ibe yinto ekhethekileyo kwaye igqibe. Kwaye akunandaba nokuba uthengi iingubo, into ephambili kukuba zonke izakhi zizalisekisa ngokupheleleyo kwaye zidibene ngokuhambelana nomklamo wemibala. Ukongezelela, kuyinqweneleka ukugqoka izithende kaninzi. Amadoda afana nokujonga i-slender, imilenze yamancinci eqinile. Izambatho kunye neengubo ziyakwamkela. Njalo khumbula ukuba phakathi kobuchule bokukhanya kunye nobutyebi kukho umda omkhulu. Ngako oko, zama ukukhetha i-wardrobe ukuze ibonakale njengendoda enqabileyo, kwaye ingafani ne-PTU-shnitsa eqhelekileyo.
Ewe, amadoda ayithandi kuphela amehlo, kodwa neendlebe. Ngoko ke, funda ngakumbi, jonga ngakumbi, ube nomdla kwezobugcisa. Ukuze unomdla kumntu, kufuneka uhlale ekwazi ukugcina ingxoxo naye. Ndicinga ukuba awunomdla kubantu abancinci abaselula abangenayo imfundo yesibini, kwaye ngubani ongakhathaleli oko uthetha khona. Kodwa kubafana abaqhelekileyo, into yokuba ibhinqa ayinomdla kuphela kwiingubo kunye neziqhumiso, kodwa nakwiivenethi, i-cinema, ubugcisa kunye neencwadi kubaluleke kakhulu.
Kwindoda, kubalulekile nokuba yintokazi yokuphulaphula nokuyiqonda. Ngako oko, kubalulekile ukuba uthande umdla kumntu omncinci, izinto ezithandwayo kunye, nokuba kunjalo, iingxaki. Kodwa, kuyo yonke into kufuneka ukwazi umlinganiselo. Musa ukuyihlonela into yokuba uyacaphukisa. Musa ukunyuka ukunyuka emphefumlweni, ukuzama ukuzithoba. Ufuna nje ukubonisa ukuba awunamdla, kwaye ulungele ukuphulaphula uze uncede nanini na.
Kwaye okugqibela-bonisa ukuzimela. Kakade, umntu akadingeki ukuba anqume yonke into kwaye ayigatya ngokupheleleyo imbono yendoda eselula. Kodwa, ukuba ngumntwana ongenakunceda kunye nentombazana engathandabuzekiyo, nayo, ingathandeki kakhulu. Indoda kufuneka iqonde ukuba uhlala uyamkela kwaye uyayikhusela ngovuyo kunye nentlonipho, kodwa ukuba engekho, awuyi kulahleka. Emva koko, abafana banamantombazana anamandla, kodwa angabinamandla kunabo.
Nazi ezo zimbalwa iindlela ezisisiseko kunye nezisebenzayo eziya kunceda phantse nayiphi na intombazana ukuphumeza phantse nawuphi na umntu. Nangona kunjalo, ubomi buyinto enzima kwaye engaqiniseki ...
Zonke ezi ngasentla ziphela nje, izihlandlo eziphambili. Umntu ngamnye ufuna iimfuno zakhe, indlela yakhe. Kungenxa yoko, ukuze unomdla kumntu, kufuneka ukwazi ukumgcina, ukuphulaphula nokukhumbula izinto ezincinci. Emva koko unokuqonda iiminqweno kunye nokuthanda kwakhe, kwaye wenze ngokususela kolwazi lwakhe.