Kodwa umbuzo uvela: uyintoni na ukuba ufanele ukholwe, kwaye ngaba iireveli kunye namadoda akhulileyo atshaba kangaka? Masizame ukuqonda kunye.
Into yokuqala yokuthetha kwesi sihloko: ubulili besilisa abuxhomekeke ekukhuleni kwabo. Ukunxibelelana nabantu abathandekayo, abanobuqili nabalungileyo, uya kuqwalasela ukukhula kwabo kuphela imizuzu emithathu yokuqala. Khumbula ukuba bangaphi abantwana be-school bavele bahlambalaza ngoGubin ngasekupheleni kweminyaka engama-90. I-Toulouse-Lautrec, ubude bayo buyi-150 cm, yaxhamla ingqalelo enkulu kwintombi ngexesha elinye. I-Soviet Union yonke yamnceda u-Yuri Gagarin, iqhawe lohlanga olunomtsalane, olunomusa, kwaye bembalwa ukuba ukuphakama kwakhe akudluli kwi-157 cm. Ukukhula akuzange kuphazamise umsebenzi ophumelelayo wabantu abadumileyo njengoMartin Scorsese, uTro Cruise noTomas Andersen. Kwaye ngoku, kukho iziganeko ezaneleyo apho umntu engaphantsi kwintombazana.
Akunamadoda amakhulu kakhulu ahlala enesithandwa esikhulu kwaye engaqhelekanga, evelele ekubonakala kwintlanga. Baza kukwazi ukuzithoba ngokufanelekileyo, ekunxibelelweni bahlala beziphatha ngokwemvelo. Ngokuqinisekileyo zilungileyo, njengabathandi.
Ubudlelwane nabantu abancinane banamathuba amaninzi, ngoko ke amantombazana akadingeki ukuba abe noloyiko ukuba abafana bangaphantsi kwabo:
Okokuqala, umgca ongezantsi (kwaye ke ngaphantsi), ngaphantsi kufuneka apheke ukutya. Ukutya umfana omncinci ngumsebenzi olula. Ukuphila kunye naye endlwini enye, wena ngokwakho ngeke ufune ukutya ukuya kwinqwaba, ngoko awuzukufumana ubuninzi obunzima.
Okwesibini, akumele ume kwi-tiptoe ukubanga okanye ukuphatha entloko.
Ukuba awukude kakhulu, kuya kuba lula ngakumbi ukuba uhlale nomntu ongeyena mde. Akayi kuhlambulula izinto kwi-shelf yokugqibela yekhemitha, apho ungakwazi ukufikelela khona, kwaye awuyi kufaka isibuko kwindawo yokuhlambela phantsi kwelayili ngokwayo, ukuze uhlambe ngokuchukumisa nje. Ubudlelwane, kunye nabafana abangaphantsi kwamantombazana banamathuba athile.
Kwaye, eqinisweni, kumadoda aphantsi kukho into engafanelekanga ukuba amadoda aphakamileyo kwimiba yokuzala. Abantwana boo okhokho, njengomthetho, abazalwanga mkhulu kakhulu, okuqinisekileyo, kuququzelela inkqubo yokubeleka kwaye, ngqo, ukukhulelwa.
Ukunqongophala kwamadoda anjalo, mhlawumbi kuphela: abayi kukwazi ukukuthwala kwiingalo zabo. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo ngokwenene, ukuqwalasela zonke iingenelo zayo?
Ngamanye amaxesha ubuhle obuphezulu abuyithandi kakhulu umlinganiselo omkhulu ekukhuleni kunye neqabane. Kodwa musa ukucinga ukuba izibini ezinjalo sele zibhujelwe kwiqhekeko elingenakugwema. Kwakhona, akunjalo nakwimfuneko ukuba ibhinqa liza kulawula ngokubini kwinqanaba elidumileyo "uMulia, ungakhathazeki". Akunamadoda amakhulu kakhulu athabatha inyathelo kwiqabane, avela kubo baphuma amadoda aphezulu kakhulu - iintloko zentsapho.
Yiyiphi icebiso endikunika lona umfazi omude odibana nomntu ophantsi? Kungcono ukuba ungagqoki izithende eziphezulu kakhulu, ukuze ungagxininisa umahluko ocacileyo, kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ungakhathazeki ngako. Khumbula ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo kumntu ongaphantsi kwintombazana.
Ukucaphula, kufuneka ndixelele ukuba awukwazi konke ulayini, ubungakanani obufanayo buhamba bonke. Amantombazana ahlukeneyo afana namadoda ahlukeneyo kunye nakwezinye izinto. Eli nqaku alizange libhaliswe ukuze lugubungele nayiphi na uhlobo lwabantu. Kalula, mhlawumbi, eli nqaku liya kunceda abanye baqonde iimvakalelo zabo kwaye bahlole kakuhle imeko.