Amadoda kufuneka awazi into ebaluleke kakhulu - leyo iya kubangela ukunyaniseka kwaye kukhunjulwe ixesha elide ngumfazi othandekayo. Kuphi ukuchitha ixesha elihle, kunye nendlela yokuyilungisa? Njengomthetho, abaninzi abafazi bathanda uthando. Into ebalulekileyo kunomhla wokuthandana kukuba akufanele ifaniswe ngokuqhelekileyo. Ukuthandana kwamanye amanyathelo kubalulekile. Kuyabonakala ngathi ukuba unomntu othandayo kwaye ulungele ukuhamba, unomoya wokuzonwabisa, ngoko unikezelwa ngethuba elithandekayo nelingakulibalwanga. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba njani. Kodwa xa kuziwa kwizenzo ezinqumlekileyo, oko kukukhetha kwendawo yentlanganiso kunye neskripthi sayo, zonke ziphela ekukhethweni kwe-banal, njenge-cafe, ibhayisikobho, ipaki okanye i-disco.
Njengomthetho, iintlanganiso ezinjalo zikhawuleza kwaye ziba ziqhelekileyo, kodwa ukuba usondela kumhla onjalo ngefantasy, ngokuqinisekileyo, into enomdla ingaphuma. Cafe, apho uhamba khona rhoqo, njengokuba ukhetho aluhambelani. Ukuqokwa kobuRoma, ngokwelo mfazi, kufanele kwenzeke kwindawo yokutyela yokunethezeka kunye nokutya okulungileyo, apho kuya kuba nomculo othabathayo onokuthula. Kwilizwe lanamhlanje kukho iindawo zokutya ezihlukeneyo kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zokutya kwihlabathi. Indawo yokutyela eneNtaliyane okanye isiFrentshi yokutya iya kuba yindawo efanelekileyo yosuku olufanelekileyo, ngokubhekiselele kubafazi. Ukukhetha indawo yokutyela egqibeleleyo edolophini, unokukwazi ukunambitha izitya eziza kukulungiselela wena inkosi yomsebenzi wakhe. Umhla onjalo wabasetyhini awunakulibaleka. Kodwa intlanganiso, ngokubhekiselele kwabasetyhini, ingaba yothando kunye neendawo ezinokuhlala ekhaya.
Unokugubungela nomntu othandekayo kwengubo efudumeleyo, hlala ngokukhululekile ebhedeni ngendebe yento etshisayo okanye ngeglasi yewayini kwaye uthethe intliziyo ngentliziyo. Ngale ndlela unokwabelana ngeemfihlo kunye namaphupha afihliweyo, kwaye uchithe ixesha elonwabileyo ebomini bakho. Unokuya nomhla kwiqela letiyi, apho umoya ophumayo uza kukusondeza, kwaye uya kuba noxolo lwengqondo noxolo. Nokuba ukuhamba epakini kunokuba kumnandi kwaye kungavamile. Ukuba uthanda ukuchitha ixesha ngaphandle, kwaye udala ukuphupha ukufunda ukufunda indlela yokukhwela ihashe, ukukhwela ihashe kunye nomthandayo uya kuba ngumhla olungileyo.
Ngaloo mini, uya kulibala malunga neengxakini zemihla ngemihla kwaye uzixhamle ngokuqhagamshelana noluntu. Zive ukhululekile kwaye ujabule, intaka ikhupha emafini. Kubasetyhini abathanda ukuphumla okusebenzayo kwaye bahlala rhoqo kwiiklabhu zobusuku, enye ityelelo kwiqela liyakwazi ukulibaleka. Okokuqala, ungadlala i-bowling okanye ibhilididi, uze ugibele kwi-chic limousine ecaleni kweso sixeko, sinezibane zobusuku. Khawucinge nje, uneziglasi ze-champagne, uhamba ngokujikeleza kwisixeko esilalayo. Lo mhla oqhelekileyo awuyi kuphakamisa umoya wakho kuphela, kodwa uya kuhlala uqaqambile kwiimemori zakho.
Enyanisweni, ukuba ngamnye umfazi akabalulekanga, apho unokuchitha ixesha. Kuza kubakho oku okanye indawo yokudlela ebiza kakhulu, okanye i-cafe encinci ekhoneni, ukuya kwi-cinema ye-movie oye wawabona amaxesha amaninzi, kodwa oyithandayo, okanye ukupaka ngaphandle kwewindow. Into ephambili kukuba kukho umntu osondeleyo kuye oya kuwujikeleza ngothando nangothando kwaye intlanganiso nganye kunye nomntu onjalo uya kuhlala enkumbulo ixesha elide.